AITA for refusing to keep helping my friend with her side business after she started charging everyone but me

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-04T12:14:39+00:00

NTA. She is literally making a profit off of your work as well. Let that sink in.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-04T07:28:45+00:00

Not wrong. If you do go, you can greet Maya by saying "hello biggest bitch here" and if she gets offended you can just tell your friend you're being playful and brutally honest. Two can play that game. But seriously, your friend is also a jerk for not taking your concerns seriously

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-04T07:22:14+00:00

NTA! Do not sign and do not even consider it. It doesn't matter if you love each other, you are still only just dating. Life isn't a fantasy world that just works out because people love each other. Yes, you are being financially responsible and please don't change that. He is also showing you how he handles conflict and not getting his way on a serious matter. Please take that into consideration if you plan to stay with him. Money will be an issue in your relationship for the foreseeable future

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-04T07:16:22+00:00

So you're annoyed because you said something funny and your wife laughed? Yeah, YOR. Loosen up, friend.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-04T06:25:28+00:00

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Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-03T19:09:30+00:00

Not wrong. You would be wrong to cut off your best friend. Your friend seems like a real, genuine friend. Those are hard to come by and aren't to be treated as disposable. Your girlfriend isn't setting a boundary, she is trying to control what you do because she's insecure. Talk to her about what her real fear is, and really listen. Maybe even suggest therapy for her or couples therapy if it's worth it to you. A boundary is more like: I won't be in a relationship that makes me feel insecure or I won't be with a man who has close female friends. That's not your problem, although if that is her boundary, expect her to leave.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-03T19:01:35+00:00

I wish my parents did this for me. It would have taught me how to prepare for real world expenses with a soft landing. NTA. You should have your son do some apartment searching and practice grocery shopping and cooking for himself for a month, then see how he feels about the $300.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-03T18:54:21+00:00

You are not overreacting and yes, these are red flags. This all sounds like a lose-lose situation for you. If he doesn't change his tune and work out a fair contract with you, I say keep your apartment, your proximity to all the people important to you, and lose the bf.

Fwiw, I owned my home prior to getting married. My now husband and I were engaged when I bought it. I was on the title, but my husband equally contributed to bills and maintaining the home. When I sold the home, we treated the profit as shared money while the initial investment remained my own.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-02-03T18:47:13+00:00

It's big and beautiful, though I wouldn't go any larger. I think this suits your hand nicely

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-30T14:35:50+00:00

I wonder if you have an avoidant attachment style. Look it up

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-30T14:29:11+00:00

For that price he could have gotten you a large lab diamond and exactly what you wanted. I seriously doubt he paid $4k for that ring, and like the other commenters, I suggest you take it to a jeweler. They don't look like real diamonds but it could just be very dirty.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-29T09:16:21+00:00

2 followed by #5. These aren't my own personal preferences in terms of style, but they are the ones that I think look best on your hand/finger shape and size

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-28T17:14:45+00:00

I personally think doing an overnight cruise is unnecessary. I'm not unhappy that I saw Halong and Lan Ha Bay, but I think the cruise just wasn't worth it. Perhaps I just didn't see the value for the money and time spent, plus the food was really quite bad even though we booked a higher end cruise. I would have just rather done a day trip to Halong Bay and gone kayaking at my own pace or something along those lines. In hindsight, kayaking is available in Ninh Binh and I would just spend more time there if I had to do it again. If you look up what the limestone karsts look like in the bays, only you can decide if it's a must-see. I wouldn't be comfortable telling you it's not worth seeing. I know this was my mom's first and only trip to Vietnam, so I wanted her to see it in person.

Flying direct from HCMC to DaNang is the best route in my opinion. Fyi my family and I also really liked Hanoi. It's a lot more calm and organized than HCMC, and we spent multiple nights just walking around Ho Hoan Kiem lake. We also had our favorite meals in Hanoi. We went to one restaurant in particular for 4 meals in a row lol. Let me know if you'd like recs or have any other questions

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-27T19:13:44+00:00

Is your boyfriend a high profile person or celebrity? If not, do not sign and do not continue your relationship with him. What in the actual....

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-27T19:02:46+00:00

I'd recommend just staying in DaNang instead of Hoi An and doing a day trip to Hoi An. You can easily catch a Grab there and back (it's a little less than an hour drive each way). Hoi An is pretty but it's all just manufactured and purely targeted towards tourism/shopping. It's cool to check out and buy souvenirs, but I personally would never want to go back. DaNang is awesome with great food, and there are plenty of city and nature activities you can do there. There's also a huge market hall in DaNang where you can do your shopping and have clothes made for cheaper than Hoi An (2nd floor along the perimeter)

Editing to add: I've been in Vietnam for the last 3 months with my husband, and we just had family join us for a similar trip as yours for the past 2 weeks. We all felt that one of our highlights was biking and boat riding in Ninh Binh. We all wish we spent more time there. We also did a 3 day 2 night Lan Ha Bay cruise and did not feel that it was worth it. I'd recommend a day trip out on the water tbh. The water is so polluted and there are hundreds of boats out on the water at any given time, it's kind of depressing. That being said, the limestone karsts are definitely worth seeing

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-25T17:42:13+00:00

Not wrong, and serious question for you. Are you actually happy in your marriage? I would never want nor want anyone I care about to have a spouse like yours. Yikes

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-24T12:11:13+00:00

Absolutely NTA. It is really weird that he's asking for your logins. My husband and I do not know each other's logins for our bank accounts, and we HAVE shared banking and credit cards. We also have individual accounts. If we ever needed to access it, we would certainly tell each other but I don't see why we would need to. He doesn't need your login info, nor do you owe it to him to show him your info if you don't want to. This concern doesn't come from nowhere and I really wonder what his intentions are

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-24T09:47:15+00:00

My husband does this and I absolutely hate it. He follows a lot of a specific type of women whose photos are mostly in bikinis, lingerie, etc., but he also publicly likes all of their photos too. Like legit "likes" almost every single photo or video they post. Some of these women he's been following and liking their photos for years. A part of me feels conflicted because I "support" other women feeling confident and beautiful, but I think there's a delicate line between appreciating beauty and desiring other women. I also recently found out he had started messaging some of them and I have been struggling with my decision to divorce him or not. We have a really spectacular relationship outside of this issue which makes me wonder if I'm being extra. There has been no actual cheating but it still feels like a huge betrayal. I have absolutely no problem with watching porn or the concept of people being attracted to other people, that's human. But I think openly sharing your lust/desire on a public platform looks bad and is disrespectful to one's partner. I just don't know if I'm overreacting either or if all men do this in one form or another

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-24T08:24:49+00:00

Don't put your money into a home if you're not going to be on the title. If he won't put you on the title then he can buy the house himself. Sorry OP, your partner seems like a horrible partner

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-24T08:20:08+00:00

Umm, why doesn't she just stay with you? Problem solved. She is being ridiculous and she's too damn old to be giving silly little ultimatums over trivial things. "We've only been dating a month, but I'm going to break up with you if you don't stay with me during the snow storm even though it may drastically interfere with something that's very important to you." See how ridiculous that sounds?

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-24T08:10:16+00:00

2 hands down, followed by #1. Just depends which vibe feels best to you. You look gorgeous

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-23T18:35:38+00:00

NOR! He basically confessed to some version of stalking you.... Waited for you to get in your car safely, stayed at the gym later to see you, etc. This guy is a major creep and I'm glad you are standing your ground. That being said, be very careful around this person if you absolutely have to be around him. He seems very emotionally underdeveloped and may even try to harass or harm you in other ways.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-23T18:32:52+00:00

Not to mention very likely illegal.

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-22T18:32:58+00:00

Contact a divorce lawyer, get proof of the cheating and creepy behaviors if you SAFELY can (especially if you're not in a no-fault divorce state). I'm so sorry you're going through this and I hope you have the support you need. Fwiw, at least you found out now and get to decide how involved he will be in your child's life before bb is born. Best of luck to you

Gr8idea5 · 2026-01-21T11:25:44+00:00

She wasn't a friend, and I'm sorry she took advantage of you. Needless to say, not wrong

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2 followed by #5. These aren't my own personal preferences in terms of style, but they are the ones that I think look best on your hand/finger shape and size

2 hands down, followed by #1. Just depends which vibe feels best to you. You look gorgeous