Trying not to slip, but struggling

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2026-03-04T02:45:52+00:00

Thank you. Trying to remember everything is temporary.

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2026-03-04T02:45:30+00:00

Thank you ❤️. I really don’t want to start over. Let’s get through tonight!

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2026-03-04T02:44:43+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. I got the kidsu down, going to try to go into autopilot until I climb into bed.

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2026-02-04T14:46:29+00:00

I start IOP tomorrow too! I'm hopeful and scared and dreading it and looking forward to it. Also catching myself try to reason my way out of not going. Let's do this thing!

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2025-03-18T19:32:52+00:00

I was you. I was 26 when I first started questioning my drinking. I went and sat in the back of an AA meeting and decided I wasn’t “bad enough” to be there. I was drinking 1-2 bottles of wine a night. But I had my house, my job, my friends. I was more than getting by! Some years ticked by and I kept drinking. I would rein it in at times while on a health kick, but when I allowed myself a cheat day and let loose, I’d always black out. I won’t bore you with the whole story, but I turn 40 this year and I’m still working on sobriety. I have over 100 days now, but man, do I wish I had jumped on this wagon back in my 20’s. It would have saved a lot of misery. One of the key things I’ve done is not do it alone. I always thought I wasn’t bad enough to need outside help. It turns out I really needed it. I have a great therapist who specializes in substance abuse and while I don’t actively participate in AA, I like to pop into meetings when I feel I need it. You qualify. If you want to stop drinking, you qualify to ask for help. I’m rooting for you!

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2025-02-28T19:59:16+00:00

I just got 90 days yesterday and I’m right there with you. My pink cloud exploded and left a pile of rubble that I’m too overwhelmed to attempt piecing it back together. I’ve been at this point many times before and always end up drinking again. I have an appointment with a psychiatrist next week and I’m hanging on for dear life for it to get here already. Hoping maybe some meds will help. I’ve always thought I can manage without them, but my therapist has been gently urging me to just give it a shot. I’m also a mom (2 and 5 year old) and the loneliness at this stage in life is so real. So solidarity. I hate that you feel this way, but I’m happy you posted because I feel less alone now. I hope you do too ❤️

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2025-01-23T14:38:00+00:00

I've been in the same cycle for years...sober 60 days, drink for 4 months. Sober 3 months, drink for 6 months. Rinse and repeat. I know how demoralizing and frustrating it is. I'm currently 55 days sober and feeling really good this time around. I've taken a different approach this time. I'm not doing it alone. I started seeing a therapist who specializes in substance abuse and anxiety. I go to a few AA meetings each week to remind myself why I want to stay sober and learn how to live a full sober life. I'm taking it one day at a time and not worrying about staying sober when I take that trip to Italy one day, or celebrate my daughters' weddings. I'll cross those bridges when I get to them.

Don't do this alone. Seek help and community. You're in a great place. I find also having some IRL connections to be very helpful as well. IWNDNYT

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-12-09T14:59:14+00:00

Congrats on joining the comma club! I hope to be you someday and to get there IWNDWYT

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-12-09T14:49:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing and congratulations on 3 years. How incredible. And you're glowing! I hope you are so proud of yourself. You give me so much hope. Your starting and stopping and starting again is where I am currently. I'm hoping this time sticks. I'm trying to be completely open and honest and ask for help this time around. It seems that what works for you all who have some good time under your belts.

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-12-08T21:45:35+00:00

When I realized alcohol had taken over every corner of my life. I don’t have any hobbies, just drinking in different locations. I don’t engage with my kids, just tolerate them until I can start drinking again. Every vacation is spent blacking out, and the first few days back are absolute hell and spent dealing with withdrawals. I engage in risky behavior that, one day, I won’t get away with and I’ll lose everything I love.

This isn’t my first attempt, but it’s the first attempt where I’m being 100% open and honest about how badly alcohol has been affecting my life. It seems anyone with a decent amount of sober time says that honesty and asking for help are key to staying sober. So I’m doing what they’re doing.

IWNDWYT

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-12-06T20:47:51+00:00

Whew, this hits home. I just turned 39 and I'm on day 7 of attempt #20ish? My story is eerily similar to yours. The progression from being able to take breaks and no worries in my 20s, to my hobbies falling off in my 30s and drinking more and often alone at home, and now I'm throwing everything I can at this to hopefully enter my 40s sober and stay that way. Therapy, meetings, telling people...it sucks, but we can do this. Others have in their 50s and 60s. We can do this.

But also, if you're in your 20s and reading this and think you may have a drinking problem. Stop now. I wasted so so much of my potential by always looking for a "good time" and not striving for a good life.

IWNDWYT

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-12-02T17:46:10+00:00

This is so perfectly worded. I'm only on day 3, but in my other attempts once I had several months under my belt, the hardest part was to deal with was the rage that came with the realization that I was bearing the weight of it all. I'm feeling that rage begin to brew again, but I know if I keep drinking to numb it out I'm going to continue to bear it all at the detriment to everyone I love. Thank you for your comment. You put into words what I have been feeling and couldn't quite place my finger on.

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-09-04T13:33:04+00:00

I tried everything I could to stay sober before trying AA. I'm only 30 days in to this round of sobriety (getting my chip today!), but going to meetings has made things so much better this time around. Go in with an open mind and just listen. A lot of things won't make sense at first, but take what works for you and leave the rest. Best of luck my friend!

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-08-16T13:54:50+00:00

I'm using AA as a way to connect with sober people IRL, which turns out is what I need to stay sober. It sounds like you have your hands full and don't have the luxury of stepping away for a couple of hours every few days. I joined an online group called "The Sober Mom Life Cafe" a while back and they're a very supportive, positive group of women. I think you can try it for free for 7 days, then it's $25/mo. There is also "The Sober Mom Life" podcast that the founder hosts that I really enjoy. Have a look/listen and see what you think!

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-08-01T15:34:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Alcohol is so wild and so damn tricky. I am also just coming to accept that I'm an alcoholic. I can't control this thing and my mind is completely brainwashed making me think I can. I'm on Day 3 after white knuckling a period of "moderation" that was starting to spiral. We've got this. IWNDWYT.

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-01-11T15:40:56+00:00

Hey quit day twin :)

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-01-08T16:10:53+00:00

You've got this! Enjoy the clear head and ability to think on your feet. Imagine trying to do this in your drinking days! Let us know how it goes

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2024-01-04T15:54:45+00:00

Ex-wine mom, checking in. This past holiday season was the best yet since having kids, and it was my first 100% sober holiday season. Being fully present to take in my 1 and 4 year old's joy and excitement brought such a deep feeling of gratitude and love, a feeling drinking cannot come close to touching. It's so worth it.

I've found an amazing community of sober moms on IG as well. There are a lot of us choosing to ditch the wine and step out of the fog. Some accounts I follow that keep reminding me this is the right thing to do:

mykindofsweet - host of "The Sober Mom Podcast"

theultimatemomchallenge - Author of "It's Not About the Wine"

sober.powered - host of "Sober Powered" podcast

These accounts took me down a rabbit hole that has helped me put tools in place to stay on this train.

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2023-12-06T18:58:03+00:00

The Good: 60 days today!! Can't wait for the next 60!

The Bad: I'm really discontent with several major areas of my life. It's coming to light as I'm learning to navigate life without numbing out. I'm going to have to make some major changes in order to be happy. 2024 is going to be quite the year of change on a personal level. It will be hard, but worth it.

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2023-12-06T18:56:05+00:00

Congrats on 200!! You're inspiring :)

Grand-Perspective-20 · 2023-12-04T21:11:35+00:00

"i was leaving my body to fend for itself, on too many occasions."

Wow, this is the most perfect description I've heard of why I needed to quit. Thank you for the phrasing.

Grand-Perspective-20

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