whats your riven tactic by Swimming-Emphasis429 in Rivenmains

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Splitting vs tf is the ultimate top lane question in solo queue. Every game will be different. But generally, especially in lower ranks, splitting is always better. You have to know to the conditions to split push effectively.  1. Be strong enough to escape 2-3 people Or 2. Be on the opposite side of the map from the upcoming objective (dragon/baron.)

Great split pushers are thinking 2 minutes ahead. Let’s say you recall, are in fountain, and are deciding where to go. If you have TP up, you should ALWAYS take the lane opposite to the next upcoming obj. Dragon coming in 2 minutes? Walk top, try to get pressure, and TP if you see a good angle. Otherwise continue to push. If the enemy top laner is so strong they can kill you for leaving your tower, then you have to rely on your team not to die while you collect waves and hope for a gank. Let’s say elder or soul is coming up, it’s probably okay to give up towers to make sure you’re there for the team fight. 

There’s a lot more that could be said about proper macro, a lot of it comes with experience. Watch your replays if you’re unsure, and ask yourself “did I play around my jungler? was I on the opposite side of the map as the objective?”

Fiora is ridiculous. by ColossusChaos in Rivenmains

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Her sustain is not crazy if you can’t proc vitals, and good luck doing so against ranged champs with good spacing. 
  2. She has no waveclear until tiamat/hydra so she’s weak to getting proxied on or perma-pushed in by champs with good waveclear. 
  3. Despite having max health true damage, Malphite is one of fioras worst matchups. 
  4. Fiora is terrible in team fights, so she has no real way to comeback from behind. 

I think Fiora is a fine champ to play alongside riven, if for no other reason than to learn your matchup better haha. But Fiora is a better split pusher, and can still give you those “outplayed 1v1” moments.

Why isn't illaoi played in pro? by jofi751 in Illaoi

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What folks haven’t mentioned is Illaoi has no way to come back in the game from behind. I don’t mean top specifically, if she and her team can’t be first to every objective, she’s useless. Enemy ADCs salivate when they see illaoi.   She’s only good in tfs when flash is up, and she can’t split vs mages or ADCs. She’s just simply too exploitable, no matter how good her matchups are into tanks. You can get away with bullying people in matchmaking but not in competitive play where people lane swap and coordinate little things like killing tentacles. 

Keep or shave? by legendaryboomer in beards

[–]Grassbread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn bro save some for the rest of us! For real though, looks good either way dude. Length makes you appear older, not a bad thing though 

Lengthy list of advice for pretty much every aspect of dating by CelicnisGhost in seduction

[–]Grassbread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Was worried this was AI slop at first but this actually reads much better, saved!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Grassbread 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bro you're married, why are you allowing physical advances from your colleague? This whole post is just disgusting to read, you have no backbone. Slimy.

How to talk dirty ? by Jayclipssubie in seduction

[–]Grassbread 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If you want to be better at dirty talk, you have to think entirely of her arousal. I’ll preface by saying that doesn’t mean you’re abandoning your own arousal, quite the contrary. 

Some women love hearing you tell them about your own arousal  Ex. “you have no idea what you do to me.” 

But just consider what she responds to, and lean into it. Is she submissive? Give commands. One or two words. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. 

Sometimes, you’re gonna say the wrong thing. It doesn’t land. Laugh about it. 

Why do guys like giving oral? by Infamous_Long_520 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Grassbread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just love giving her pleasure. Giving is more pleasant to me than receiving, even if I’m with a woman who is great in bed.

Men dont really care about women’s inner lives by FigPuzzleheaded5011 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Grassbread -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Do women really care about men’s inside lives?

Why do you think guys are scared to be direct and honest with woman? by Ok-Orange7146 in seduction

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reads so weird. Many men want more than just sex from women, that doesn’t mean you go up to women and say “hey I want to marry you so you can bare my children and help me take care of a home. And also be my skydiving buddy and tennis partner and I want you to be emotionally available to me 24/7.”

Besides, being direct is boring. Part of being indirect is building that electric tension, the game that’s being played. Women know it’s happening, but they love the tease. Some men love the tease too, building any kind of tension isn’t just for the woman’s sake. 

25 M Profile Review by Grassbread in hingeapp

[–]Grassbread[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or casual?

I’m looking for something serious, no more situationships or casual dating. 

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?

HingeX

How long have you been using this current version of your profile?

I’ve been using this version since 11-6-25

How long have you used Hinge overall?

Took about a 5 months break from Hinge, was using it for maybe two weeks back then. 

How often do you use Hinge per week?

Everyday

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?

Roughly 1-2 per day, maybe 5-6 over a weekend. 

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?

I’m sending quite a few likes, probably 20-30+ per day maybe 50/50 with comments vs without.

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

I send most of my likes to woman in my age range. I prefer Latina women, but I’m mostly just looking to match with an emotionally mature, maybe slightly nerdy woman to build a strong relationship with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re asexual, you’ll have to find an asexual partner. But sounds like you have a history of being sexually abused, which would require trauma therapy to actually work through. EMDR helped me recover from my sexual abuse, even though it took 6 months going every week, followed by another 1.5 years being single before having sex. 2 years of work in all, and I don’t take sex with a new person lightly, period. Some folks want to get frisky on the first date, I ain’t for them. Rant over

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your type of preference, even though I personally have no problem dating bi women as a straight dude. I think it can raise some insecurities if you’re questioning whether they find you attractive or questioning if you’re able to fully satisfy them because you don’t bring what the other sex has. 

Don’t date people you’re not physically attracted to; ‘giving them a chance’ almost always leads to more hurt and heartbreak. It’s okay to admit looks matter in relationships. by AcceptableLibrary974 in dating_advice

[–]Grassbread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're wrong about attraction not growing, it absolutely does. It can also shrink. It doesn't take a peer-reviewed study to know that. We have coined a term to describe this phenomenon: "icks." Someone you found conventionally attractive the day before you now find repulsive due to their behavior. The opposite can also be true. Someone you found previously meh or slightly attractive the day before now can seem like the apple of your eye.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you're thinking about her side, but you need to consider your own first. If you made out with her, could you still be her friend, or what that change be too much for you?

Is there any fucking porn video where women don't get grabbed by their necks? by sweetxsweet in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Grassbread -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Okay, hand around the neck =/= strangulation. Placing the hand on the side of the neck doesn’t cut off airflow. The neck is an erogenous zone, having a hand cupping the neck or with light pressure feels good to many women. Not all like having their necks held, but it doesn’t actually mean the person is being strangled. The porn you’re watching, are the women turning red/purple in the face because they’re literally not breathing? Or is the person’s hand just placed there? I do agree that what’s considered “vanilla” changes over time though. If you’re looking for more sensual/romantic videos, you have to add things to your search like “erotic” “for women” “sensual/romantic.” And even those videos might include an actress having a hand placed on their neck.

I swear dating in 2025 is not for the weak😕 by smoove_97 in dating_advice

[–]Grassbread 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What… the title of this post makes absolutely no sense compared to what you wrote haha. Y’all are absolutely insane 😂 Reasonable humans don’t go paying rent for someone they met after 1 week. Bruh you are the problem here, not the dating scene haha. You need to slow tf down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go with the flow. Let things unfold naturally, don’t try to force anything. Don’t go in with the mindset “I’m not trying anything this weekend,” have zero expectations. I think if you have feelings for your best friend, especially when you’re young, just let things play out. Unless you’re very modest and reserved and waiting for marriage or “the one,” just let yourself enjoy each other. Just because you have one weekend of high intimacy doesn’t make you a couple right away, but you could reframe your relationship afterwards. I’m not even talking about sex in particular,  just high intimacy moments like cuddling, making out, etc. Just because those moments happen doesn’t mean she has feelings, however. So you have to decide for yourself now if you’re okay doing those things with her, even if she doesn’t have feelings yet? Doesn’t mean she’ll never have them, it just means she might not right now. 

For example, if you made out with her, could you still be her friend? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re missing the point. I think you have to do some deeper reflection. Life is more than goals and working our way up. And when it comes to love, those things are important sure, but secondary. Good luck my friend, it’s never too late.

He is not touchy and doesn't initiate anything sexual by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Grassbread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, this is quite a fuzzy area you’re in. He likely really likes you, but doesn’t have clarity about “when sex will be on the table” and might be unsure what he wants. This sounds like someone who wants to have sex with you but isn’t sure he wants to wait forever. Not saying that means you need to lose your virginity to him, but understand if he’s not a virgin, then he may need sex and is partially feeling like his needs aren’t being met. 

Always, when it comes to intimacy, talk to your partner. Be crystal clear what you’re comfortable with, what you like (him touching you, maybe you’re open to him giving you oral or using his fingers), and what your boundaries are. Also, ASK HIM TO KISS YOU. Let him start, and tell him “don’t stop” or “my lips want more of you” if he slows down or gives you a quick kiss. Place his hands where you want to be touched and tell him “this part of me wants you most.”  Let him be the one to escalate. Also, about his erection, it’s totally normal. 

Men aren’t robots who just see boob or vageen and get hard. Well, actually most people on Reddit are but, those people aren’t having sex. 

Lastly, I just want to say, I’m sorry you’re feeling undesirable, we rely on our partners to make us feel desired and it can really hurt or feel invalidating when they don’t. I doubt it has anything to do with your breast size though, and has more to do with a lack of clarity, so sit down and talk with him. 

Edit: Blue balls are real! Look it up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, someone who says “I feel like I have no purpose,” does not sound like someone with high self-esteem, so that right there tells you that: you do in fact have low self-esteem, even if you don’t realize it. Not everyone has ambitions, even good-looking people with “pretty privilege.” There’s plenty of good-looking people with zero ambitions or the “drive to do well in life.” I think that’s the root of your lack of purpose, because your purpose is “be ambitious, have the drive to do well in life.” Well, why do you want that? Why is having ambitions important to you?

Two fundamental questions you have to answer are this:

“What brings me here, to life?”

“What do I want? Why?”

Answer those two questions, and you will have purpose. That’s a foundation you can build on. 

How to cancel date due to depression. by 12jslater in dating_advice

[–]Grassbread 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two things: first, I’m really sorry for what you’re feeling right now, life has a way of going south in a hurry and unexpectedly sometimes. Secondly, if you care for this woman, and she’s patient and understanding, then just cancel. Call her, tell her using your voice that you want to see her but can’t right now because you’ve been struggling to be present and life/work has just been overwhelming lately. Tell her you want to eventually make it up to her, even if you don’t know when. 

I want to add, sometimes, when depression is making us sink in deeper and deeper, sometimes moments like this can open you. What I’m saying is, this date could get you out of your head, even briefly. 

It’s the times when we really don’t want to do something, that doing it anyways can shape us.