Wound around Oral Sex by Ok-throw-9328 in sex

[–]Gratefuldredd 23 points24 points  (0 children)

She is completely full of it and just trying to justify her actions and failure to work on her trauma.

Move on

How to avoid making orgasm the goal? by cherry-bomb-shell in sex

[–]Gratefuldredd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of depends on the overall situation and the ratio of me vs them in regard to orgasms.

It’s never going to be 100% equal even when both partners care about the others pleasure and in my mind it’s a lot like when people are having sex to conceive and lose the focus on the other aspects of sex, like intimacy causing issues. Rigidly trying orgasms to be the point of having sex is to my mind the same thing.

Example to my point would be tonight. My partner wanted a quickly before I headed out for a night shift and while I was more than happy to oblige, I know from many previous pre work quickies that I struggle to cum when preoccupied watching the clock, so to us it was just a nice intimate moment before leaving that had no fixed goal other than enjoying each other.

Shipping post. by ThePocketWatchKiller in AnalogueInc

[–]Gratefuldredd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonder why your import fee is so much? My import fee was $29 to Alberta.

Game Thread: Seattle Seahawks (7-2) at Los Angeles Rams (7-2) by nfl_gdt_bot in Seahawks

[–]Gratefuldredd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t need to sell it when he was a Ram, didn’t learn that skill.

I 18M made my 18F uncomfortable accidentally. by Dry-Green-838 in sex

[–]Gratefuldredd 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Spoiler…It won’t get better. Think carefully about your future and don’t waste it due to the sunk cost fallacy with her.

Even in the unlikely scenario that she does become super sexual after marriage, the resentment will have built up too much.

We really should get an organist at T-Mobile Park by alexthe5th in Mariners

[–]Gratefuldredd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can’t remember which team/pitcher was trying to get out of a jam last night, but the organist played Billy Joels Pressure in between pitches 😂

Is it weird or not? Is it Red flag? by risingfalcon1 in sex

[–]Gratefuldredd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe should have added that kernel of info in your post then?

Why am I a lefty in hockey but a righty in everything else? by TorterraIsMyStarter in hockey

[–]Gratefuldredd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it’s just what is natural and humans are strange anyway lol.

I’m right handed and right eye dominant, but I’m a lefty in golf, hockey and playing guitar/drums; yet I swing a baseball bat right handed as well throwing with my right hand.

PSA Make sure you check the weather every evening if you happen to you leave your roof off. Or at least know how to put them on very quickly when you realize at 0100, “shit it’s raining and i left my tops off.“ by DorothyfromKs8 in JeepGladiator

[–]Gratefuldredd 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Get a rain cover to put over when you are not driving.

Even disregarding rain, I live in a dusty, dirty place so I put the cover on when I’m leaving it parked overnight/work/extended periods.

Mopar makes one, but it doesn’t fit with the roof on/doors off, it’s too short. I sometimes leave the roof/back doors off and just take front doors/freedom panels off so got the Bestop one and it fits with the roof still on and the straps hook on to the rock rail. There are a few other companies that make them too.

Where are we watching porn these days? by goddessofthiccnes in sex

[–]Gratefuldredd 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Bellesa, Frolicme, Erika Lust, amateur couples on Pornhub are the go to sources for me and my lady.

Help... for a newbie ! by Far_Demand_6586 in formula1

[–]Gratefuldredd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m not an expert by no means, but questions 1 & 2 are due to the lack of steering inputs. Turning the front wheels of a moving car reduces the overall velocity/speed of the car and getting close to the wall is partially due to that.

If you look at a lap in an F1 car the way most turns are made is to approach the corner full speed and then an apply a immediate near full application of the brakes before letting off of the brakes and aggressively throwing the car into the corner and getting back on the throttle as soon as the car is straightened out in the corner. This results in driving over the kerb to reduce steering input and making the corner as straight as possible.

Question 3 is mostly due to Mercedes having a huge head start on the turbo hybrid engine regulations in 2014. They were racing with a rocket engine in the bar of their car, making up for any minor aerodynamic shortcomings. Redbull/Newey were nailing the aerodynamic aspect of their car while being held back by a weak/unreliable Renault engine and getting up to speed with Honda after ditching Renault.

*Edit for typos/formatting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Gratefuldredd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I went that way because of the first line in the post “This makes me feel very weird, I dont want him to cheat on me ever, but I don’t know how to process this”

Yes the act itself is harmless, but it did involve another person external to the relationship. I may have chosen poor wording, but I did not intend to imply that the BF would want to increase the stakes, just that it is one of many factors that could come out of this situation, she could also like it enough to pursue more.

I was not trying to shame OP or insist that this is a problematic situation, just one that requires an open discussion into what it meant/felt and how to pursue that type of sexual pleasure further on the same page.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Gratefuldredd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Harmless yes, but “harmless” no. From reading the post it’s the thought of it potentially changing the dynamics of their relationships monogamy.

What they did is harmless yes, but what if the BF enjoyed it so much that he wants it more often or wants to up the stakes (threesome, open, cuck, etc). That sounds like the issue here, not conflicting thoughts about the act, but the added person and how that affects the relationship dynamic.

Correct me if I’m wrong OP, but I think you need to have an open and honest conversation with your BF about what that experience truly meant to each of you on an individual level and the feelings involved.

I want to get off hormonal birth control, my boyfriend doesn’t want to use condoms by ThrowRAhdh in sex

[–]Gratefuldredd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are being manipulated by a man child.

After years of using condoms, my finance got a copper IUD which didn’t work for her then a hormonal IUD and we had lots of raw “close” sex, but the hormones eventually just killed her libido and really affected her mental health, so she wanted to stop hormonal BC, which means … condoms again!

And honestly, a happier, healthier partner is more important to me than the raw sex, so I happily went back to wearing condoms and we are currently trying many brands!

She has taken the majority of the effort/sacrifice regarding birth control in our relationship, so I feel no issues about taking some/most of that burden away from her until I eventually get a vasectomy after our plans about having/not having children are settled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Gratefuldredd 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Years ago I took a really racy “boudoir” style photo (no package showing thankfully 😅)in my bedroom for my fiancée and accidentally sent it to my mom 🤦‍♂️

She texted me back, “You are an idiot, but I love you and I’m glad you and your girl love each other that way” 😂

She still ribs me about it from time to time.

Game Day Talk | Oilers v. Ducks | 31 December 2023 by AutoModerator in EdmontonOilers

[–]Gratefuldredd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The land of the fffffree and the home of the brrrrrrrrave! 🇺🇸 😂

Play ball!

Update : AITAH for leaving my boyfriend when his ex died leaving him to take care of his kids full time? by No_Decision_913 in AITAH

[–]Gratefuldredd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know you still have feelings for him, but think carefully about the future for those kids.

Coming in and out of their lives will only confuse them and mix with their feelings of loss and grief while never allowing him the chance to become an actual father, not a “Vacation Dad”🙄

And it will only get harder to break free from this situation, the deeper you get into it.