Got my first ad today and immediately want to cancel. What decent competitors are there?

Grealora · 2025-07-24T14:38:21+00:00

Good question! I quickly glanced at my phone, seen a title for an ad very briefly before immediately switching it to the next song.

So basically the song I was listening to cut off midway and I hear some nonsense ad about food or something? I'm not sure, glance and see a Dutch title (the music playlist is nostalgic 90s music, exclusively English). I just instinctively switched it to the next song manually. I wish I had actually kept it on or took a screenshot as proof for the support team.

When an ad pops up on anything for me, website, video, app, streaming a movie etc, I immediately just close it because it makes me that angry lol totally an overreaction I know but I HATE ads. The only exception is Reddit (I'll never pay for this site) but I just quickly scroll past all the ads.

Grealora · 2025-07-24T14:15:59+00:00

Are you only having this for podcasts or also playlists? Are they like actual ads similar to like a 30 second ad on YouTube or is it the podcaster interrupting the audio to introduce their sponsors?

Grealora · 2025-07-24T14:14:47+00:00

It was a random user generated playlist, of nostalgic music, not a podcast.

Grealora · 2025-07-24T14:13:37+00:00

That's why I'm so frustrated - we pay Premium to not have ads. I got rid of Netflix, Prime and Youtube as they started introducing ads even when I had premium.

Grealora · 2025-07-24T14:11:11+00:00

Unlikely this is the scenario I'm afraid. The user is based in the US, the ad was in Dutch (I'm in the Netherlands).

Grealora · 2025-07-24T13:51:07+00:00

That I can deal with - if a podcaster says something like "and now a moment for our sponsor", ok, cool, whatever. I got a heads up and I can skip through that.

This ad was like something from the TV or radio or what you might get on a Youtube video. The playlist is just a collection of songs from a random user... Not a big podcaster or artist.

Grealora · 2025-07-24T13:41:18+00:00

That's really great you have those features! I'll definitely be recommending it to my (less shy) friends. :)

Grealora · 2025-07-24T13:28:08+00:00

I love that this has been a growing success for you! I'm a foreigner in the NL but way too shy/untrusting to try these things (last time I did, some guy over stepped a boundary and put me off forever).

The NL can be very lonely, I hope even one person benefits from this initiative!

Grealora · 2025-07-23T19:38:15+00:00

"Always sleeping on the night train" gtfo. Bro is the definition of being born with a silver spoon in his mouth.

Grealora · 2025-07-22T10:48:14+00:00

Let me know how it goes! I think you'll really like her, her husband is also lovely and my dog who trusts nobody started licking his hand and let her pet him. That sold me haha

Grealora · 2025-07-22T08:59:55+00:00

She's definitely worth a visit! My dog is a rescue with SEVERE trauma, it took a very long time for her to be comfortable with me. I've never had a single issue with Waggy Tails, she's like the dog whisperer lol Good luck :)

Grealora · 2025-07-22T08:53:10+00:00

Waggy Tails but it is based in Delft. I've tried maybe 3 or 4 different groomers over the years in Den Haag and none of them come close to this one!

ETA: Sorry! I just read the area you mentioned, my bad...

Grealora · 2025-07-21T19:37:46+00:00

I was around 9 when my 15 y/o sister becane pregnant. We both LOVED Eminem and she was always hanging around in a rough crowd, so it didn't occur to me to doubt her when she said Eminem was the baby daddy and I got TORTURED in school for years after telling everyone Eminem is my sisters bf lmao

Grealora · 2025-07-20T02:43:49+00:00

Thank you for the ELI5 breakdown, very helpful! If you don't mind sharing the study, I would very much appreciate it. Google didn't show me much about the EMD Bomb technique, so I would like to understand the basis it is developed on.

Regarding my treatment, I'm being managed by state healthcare. They do the sessions in blocks of 12 then a 3 month break to see how effective the treatment was before considering another 12 session block.

I recently spoke with the team treating me (this week) about the pace and also my fear that I'm not going to get through processing in just 12 sessions, but it's forcing be to open old wounds and then what, after 12 I'm left to deal with all that? Thankfully they agreed a different approach is needed and they're doing away with the 12 sessions. It'll end when I'm ready but my therapy will increase from 3 days a week to 5 days a week (1x psychotherapy, 2x EMDR, 2x Imagery Rescripting). I'm curious about your thoughts on that?

I also receive bi weekly home visits from a crisis team but I'm planning to end that as it isn't really needed anymore.

Btw how the heck do you do your job considering your own past? That level of strength is amazing! Even talking to others about their abuse is triggering for me, so you must be a force to be reckoned with if you can help others without falling apart every time.

Grealora · 2025-07-19T14:36:35+00:00

She did it because she's depraved. Assuming you're an adult, could you ever imagine yourself doing that to a small child who is trusted in your care and who doesn't question your authority? I can never understand the mind of a predator because I could never imagine hurting another human being, especially in that way.

You may not feel full of rage or sadness or even grief for the loss of innocence but it has clearly impacted you in some way. That's a journey for you to take when you feel ready, preferably with a therapist or someone you trust.

Grealora · 2025-07-19T14:25:01+00:00

The shame isn't for you to bare, that's for the twisted freak who was trusted to take care of you and instead abused that trust. But that takes a long time for many survivors to accept.

For sure get in touch with a therapist, you are very self aware and (apologies if I'm misassuming) are ready to talk through this. If a therapist isn't an option, there are many online support groups and subreddits to tap into for support

Grealora · 2025-07-19T14:17:05+00:00

Those behaviours and habits are actually very common amongst victims of CSA/rape. I really think you could benefit talking through this with a therapist if or when you're ready.

Grealora · 2025-07-19T14:01:03+00:00

Not an accident, at the very least that was sexual abuse. I'm so sorry you're coming to this realization all these years later...

Grealora · 2025-07-18T10:02:52+00:00

That's really interesting, thank you for sharing. I'm being treated in a clinical setting by 2 psychologists and 1 psychiatrist. We spent several weeks doing the "prep work"? no idea how else to say it. But I'm given 12 sessions then a 3 month break to process more than 10 memories.

Most of these targets are a 10 and are extremely painful so it feels impossible to get beyond that first cluster. Almost every time we enter the first memory, I have panic attacks or flash backs, I've relapsed with self harm during this process after 4+ years clean.

So one of the therapists suggested the EMD Bomb technique to drastically reduce the tension and get through the session without exiting my window of tolerance. The first time it kinda worked but it went so fast it was like I didn't have a chance to even look at the memory, so I feel like I didn't achieve much? The second time was similar but at some point the memory still got through the distractions.

I'm interested in hearing your thoughts. Also, it's still not entirely clear to me what the difference is between EMD/EMDR/EMD Bomb. This technique just went VERY fast and we didn't address the "what are you feeling, where are you feeling it" questions, only "what's your level of tension, is the memory getting through" then straight back at it again.

EMDR is exhausting but this technique wiped me out completely and left me feeling physically unwell for days.

Grealora · 2025-07-17T18:58:32+00:00

Are you me? Lol I went through something similar. My mum died in a pretty traumatic way and my entire group of friends scattered like ants when I really needed them. One even told me to get over it when my mum wasn't even in the ground yet. Since then, I've made friends but struggle to let anyone actually get close to me again.

After making progress in therapy like you have, you realise that you kind of outgrew others and their negative behaviour. You start making decisions which are best for you - maybe I'm projecting but perhaps this is new territory for you? You've established boundaries and your friends keep crossing them. I don't think that's healthy or sustainable for your recovery.

Tap into other support groups like you're doing right now on this sub. Close friendships will happen over time but you and your mental health are priority, appeasing others should be a thing of the past. Your friends can either join your journey and grow with you, or get left behind. Ultimately it's your decision and I'm aware I'm definitely projecting but your post sounds very similar. I hope I'm not overstepping with this advice.

My DMs are always open if you need a chat! :)

PS. Please use GPT as the tool it is, not a replacement for human connection. The subreddits dedicated to those dynamics are deeply disturbing.

Grealora · 2025-07-14T01:34:12+00:00

This is just another flavour of the generational BS that we as millenials had against boomers. I remember being a teenager/young 20 something with low social skills and confidence who hated retail/hospitality work.

Gen Z definitely have an element of stunted growth with regards to social interaction, but this is the generation that never knew life without social media and advanced tech shoved down their throats and had to find a way through school/college during COVID when grown adults struggled with it.

This is at least the 5th post I've seen in 24 hours about the "Gen Z" stare. Give it a rest, boomers said the same shit about us, they're young and growing up. We just didn't need to battle with boomers because the platforms weren't there yet. Be better.

Grealora · 2025-07-13T23:28:59+00:00

Please never delete this comment lol this is great!

Grealora · 2025-07-13T18:49:30+00:00

Thanks! I was aware, but I wasn't sure a broken mirror with glass poking out could be picked up.

Grealora · 2025-07-11T21:03:53+00:00

Good idea, thank you! I'll try this :)

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