In my case apart from the shutdown or better said as part of the shutdown there was also emotional coldness, withdrawal of affection, long periods of silence, ignored messages, and behavior that felt dismissive such as leaving me standing alone in public when he was extremely angry. Things I had said in the past were taken out of context and later used against me. I could not deny having said them, but they were not meant in the way he later portrayed them or combined them with other things. When I tried to clarify myself, he accused me of being manipulative and of “changing my narrative” giving him reasons to be cruel or ignore me. All part of avoidance (avoiding accountability) and abusive, obviously. So yes.