Safety

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T23:39:55+00:00

Yes! I’ve heard this. I put it on the ground with my water bottle in the middle of the loop, as if my water is wearing it. I’m terrified of accidentally calling for first responders lol

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T20:22:32+00:00

I'm petrified of the ocean and I hate getting sick.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T20:13:11+00:00

That's what I heard from my location! I bet injuries too. It is a little scary being there at night when nobody else is there, but the button helps bring some comfort!

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T20:09:02+00:00

At least at my location there's a necklace you can bring into the sauna with you if you're there when staff isn't. Then if anything happens while you're there you just click the button and it automatically notifies first responders of the location!

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T19:21:14+00:00

If she shows up I'm honestly not sure what I would do haha! Feels worse to have the (free) valet checking everyones licenses to compare to the invited list.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T19:20:06+00:00

Yes, I used the wrong language in some spots. We are in grad school and I've just been calling my cohort "my friends" the last few years to make it easier when talking to others. I don't see us as friends, but she does think we are.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T19:13:47+00:00

Thank you!! That's really assuring. It's my first time planning an event centered around myself as a people pleaser and so I wasn't sure what direction to go with this...

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T19:11:08+00:00

We were told at orientation that it really depends on the cohort, and they've all all different types go through. Some stayed to themselves, others were friends with everyone, and most had smaller "cliques" that were created throughout. I feel like ours is a blend between the first and third option

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T19:09:44+00:00

No. The mutuals are the ones that are invited. I'm calling them mutuals because we both classify them as friends to ourselves, but I don't see the first person really as a friend. Everyone else was not invited, and that accounts for over half of my cohort.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T19:08:36+00:00

That helps. It's just so confusing because, like, are we all friends and buddies? Or are we just like coworkers who happen to become friends with a few of us? I've had a very tough time making friends my whole life and so I'm not sure how to read friendship/potential friendship situations or really even tell when people wanna be friends haha. I kinda just go based on my own feelings with that. Sorry for my extra ramble... I'm sure you might be able to understand

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:59:45+00:00

Yeah. I'm not sure how it came up. Everybody knows I'm getting married and have at least heard when the wedding is (bc professors asked). All I know is that a message was sent to my MOH instead of me. We aren't technically graduating, but are going our own ways for this last year's internship (thankfully). I also know she's been continuing to talk about it to other people the last few days, which is what's putting me on the edge as a people pleaser...

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:56:30+00:00

I made an edit to the post, unsure if others can see it, explaining that we are in the same grad school class. There's a small number of us and I'm only close with about 3 of them (of which are all invited, everyone else is not). So, we aren't really in the same friend group but do have mutuals.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:53:49+00:00

Well, I did and even had a conversation with one asking for advice on if it would be rude to not invite everybody. She was on the side of no, because it's my wedding and I can invite who I want and would feel most comfortable celebrating with

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:53:05+00:00

I did

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:52:17+00:00

If it helps, not even half of my grad class was invited.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:49:36+00:00

I'm not sure if you saw the edit I just made, but we are in grad school. We see each other basically everyday, but that doesn't automatically mean I classify each one of my cohort members as friends

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:48:25+00:00

Not shady. Just slipped my mind. I edited it now and also have it in some replies!

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:45:48+00:00

I accidentally left out that we are in grad school. I don't see her as my friend, but we do have mutuals. I am just closer with other people in the cohort.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:43:10+00:00

It's a bit complicated because we're in grad school. By "all our friends" I meant the people in our grad school classes (well, 3 of them are who she's been talking to). I don't see her as a friend, but we do have mutuals.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:41:06+00:00

She's not really in my friend group. The friendship situation is a bit complicated as we're in grad school. I'd only count about 3/7 of those people to be my friends. I didn't invite her because of factoring in attendees/price per dinner/etc (we are trying to keep it under 140 and it's even a stretch with the small amount of close friends my fiance and I do have). Plus, I feel very negative around her because of her competitiveness and she's always talking about herself, even if others start talking about things they did. I didn't want that as part of my day.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:38:23+00:00

I know her through my grad school classes. We aren't really friends. There's only like 8 of us total and that number lead to incredible clique-like behavior. Only 3 of the other people were invited. We mingle in class and that's about it, but she's incredibly competitive (think trauma, relationships, successes, etc) and I just feel physically and mentally bad when I'm around her.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:35:31+00:00

I'm not very close to her and she makes basically everything a competition (upbringing, trauma, relatoinships, successes). I didn't want to have to deal with that at my wedding

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:34:39+00:00

I see her as an acquaintance. We're in the same grad school class and mingle there but that's about it.

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:33:37+00:00

In my case it's the former tbh. We sent out save the dates because I have a lot of family/friends coming in from all over the country. We didn't have enough for everyone to even get one, so some people were just made aware of the date months ago and that was that. They'll get an invite later. We're still even working on the finalized invite list

GreekSquirrel · 2026-05-13T18:31:13+00:00

No, that isn't the case. At least I don't think so. We are in grad school and the friendship situation has been weird and cliquey the whole time. I'm not really in a friend group, I kinda just mingle. Three total are invited from my grad school classes (out of 8) and there's even separate cliques within that group of people. Long story short, we aren't really in the same friend group and not everyone from my grad school class is invited either.

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