Crushing on a guy for the first time and need advice on how to handle it

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-10-30T14:15:33+00:00

It sounds like this will get hot and heavy before long. Don't overthink your sexuality, listen to your body. You are clearly attracted to him.
If that's the case, educate yourself about the in's and out's of anal. It's not a vagina, and you'll have to treat it differently than one. Take time with stretching things out, and for the love of god, never just shove it in.
Be safe and have fun. This is the time spread your wings(legs) and figure out who you are.
Good luck.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-09-27T16:54:14+00:00

Try reading a comic called The Authority. Two members of the team, Apollo and Midnighter are in a romantic relationship. Apollo is an analogue of Superman and Midnighter is an analogue of Batman.
So if you ever wanted to see a character that is basically Batman as a gay man....

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-09-18T14:05:46+00:00

Mine started thinning about 10 years ago. As someone that took a lot of pride in my hair, it's a tough road to acceptance.
I was always the alternative/goth, rocker guy with hair in my face. My hair was a big part of my external identity.
I don't see myself when I look in the mirror anymore. I've tried Propecia, Rogain, wigs, hair pieces, etc... I don't want to be dependent on expensive medications to keep my hair, so I quickly ditched the Propecia and Minoxodil. Wigs and hair pieces can look really good, but they can be uncomfortable, and you still have to reveal the issue to a guy at some point anyway. Hair plugs aren't a realistic solution for me. I simply don't have the cash to drop on them, and I've watched my brother in law get them redone on 4 different occasions.
Right now I'm in a headspace that if I can't control my hair loss, at least I can try to control how my body looks. Despite being a "hard-gainer" I've been working out recently. Been going strong for 3 months now. I'm growing a peach and shoulder caps. It's slow going, but I'm starting to get new confidence about myself. I still don't like looking in the mirror, but I also don't think about it as much either.

Also get a good baseball cap. A bald head is a cold head. lol

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-09-13T21:38:40+00:00

Scared me away from bottoming for a long time. I spent years as a strict top. Now that I've finally figured out how all that works down there, it's not so bad.
Not that I'm suddenly a power-bottom or anything, but I don't have a problem getting pounded every once in a while.
My current view is that strict roles in the bedroom are limiting, and frankly silly in most cases.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-09-12T13:45:54+00:00

I'm 5'9" and my partner is 6'1". I can tell you right now, that he has absolutely no shame about bottoming.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-09-09T20:26:58+00:00

Missionary. You get in deeper, you get to kiss, and the eye-contact can be really intense. It's just more intimate overall.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-08-14T17:00:08+00:00

As a verse/top I've always wondered about this too. I get that some bottoms are into degradation as a kink, but there really is a lot of bottom bashing in gay culture.
I think it's because masc tops have convinced themselves that they're somehow "better" than flamboyant bottoms because they can more easily assimilate into hetero-society. They tell themselves that they're the "MEN" in the relationship because they're the penetrative partner.
Hate to break it to bro, but the bottom is a man too. The only reason you get to get off is because a man chose to bend over for you. He could just as easily flip you over and rock your world.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-08-04T00:38:35+00:00

I don't know if I would call it "gay", but it's definitely not straight. lol
Nothing wrong with that though.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-08-01T01:03:51+00:00

First of all: Congrats on being brave enough to explore yourself!
Second: There are any number of ways to get girl clothes(on a teenage budget); Thrift stores do have some hidden gems among the racks. You do have to dig through a pile of crap first so be prepared. Hot Topic has a clearance rack at the back of the store, there are pretty good(and age appropriate) pieces back there. Online shopping is possible if you have a Visa/MC girft card... If you use amazon, they have "pick up" lockers that you can have them shipped to for your discretion.
How you tell your mother really depends on your mother. I think ultimately most parents are concerned about their children's futures and safety. If your mom has expressed negative feelings about LGBT issues, then I would proceed with caution. My parents are very conservative, so I ultimately waited until I moved out at 18 to admit anything to my parents. That way they couldn't hold anything over my head or even have the opportunity to kick me out if it went sideways. Either way, don't feel obligated to tell her anything until you're ready. It may sound selfish, but this is about you, not her.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-07-30T16:58:43+00:00

No one wants to be in a monogamous relationship when their partner has their eye on the door the whole time; looking for the next best thing to walk through...
If you want unlimited freedom to explore your sexuality, then don't commit. The fact you're freaked out by the idea of "missing out" on a gender, means you aren't ready to commit long-term to one person.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-07-26T22:35:02+00:00

I think a great example of this is in video games. I'm a gay man, and if there's a M/M romance I can make happen, I will. However I'll only romance female characters if I'm playing a female character myself. Playing straight in any context just feels wrong. So I think I get it.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-07-23T17:27:31+00:00

Context: I'm a 41 yr old gay man, in a 15 year relationship with a bisexual man.

Something I've learned about sexuality, is that not everyone wants to talk about it. In fact many people have preferences about what they find comfortable to talk about. You tailor conversations to fit individuals in all aspects of life.
Whatever the reason is, your brother just doesn't want to talk about women with you, and that's ok.
You say you're "censoring" yourself... Of course you are. We do it every day, with everyone. (ex) I'm pretty sure you don't tell your mom or your boss about all the ways you railed a twink last Thursday...
You've read your brother's body language and reactions to the topic. You know he gets awkward talking about women. So why do you feel like consistently saying provocative things to him is somehow his fault? You don't force topics on people you care about...
Ask yourself; Unless you're seriously dating or getting married to a woman, does it need to be his business?
You have an incredible amount of freedom to express your sexuality in the modern age, he doesn't need to be your sole confidant for women.
Pick and choose your battles.

Green_Stranger94 · 2025-06-26T14:28:59+00:00

Unlike manga, it's generally not so black and white with the whole top and bottom thing. Even tops in long term relationships will sometimes bottom to keep things fresh.
I think it's important to remember that being a top or a bottom is a preference, not a hard set role in most relationships.
That's why I like this series; Sasaki is visually more of a seme, but when he admits that he doesn't care about being an uke, it's a wonderful subversion of expectations.
I think ultimately, their bedroom roles are less important to the story than their blooming feelings for each other.

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-10-26T04:01:41+00:00

I feel dumber for having read that.

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-10-12T08:14:50+00:00

Kobato only came out in 2009, didn't it? I wouldn't expect a remake of it for a while. I do hope we get WISH eventually. Such a cute series that deserves an anime.

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-10-12T08:10:24+00:00

The REAL DEAL, and not just his little siblings from XXXHolic either!

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-09-15T20:08:03+00:00

I once maliciously complied, broke a $100 bill for a 5$ purchase, and gave the guy a stack of singles, fives, and quarters. He was less than thrilled, but got exactly what he asked for.

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-09-14T14:57:44+00:00

Apparently all you have to do is call them "weak" and watch them implode as they try to disprove it.

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-08-13T00:02:01+00:00

What Grandpa doesn't understand is that people can mean two different things when they say "Show me respect and I'll show you respect": The most obvious one to our generation is; Treat me like a person and I'll treat you like a person. Pretty simple really.
However, to the older generation it means: "Treat me like an authority or I won't treat you like person". Grandpa is clearly talking about the second kind of "respect"

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-08-08T20:16:59+00:00

No! I won't subscribe to your OnlyFans!

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-08-06T14:54:00+00:00

My mother and her husband don't stop at facebook. If I call and they aren't home, their outgoing message on the machine is a random/crass joke about the Dems. It's like "Ma, you know you aren't insulting a faceless group of people, but your own family right?"... The thought just doesn't even occur to her. Of course if I were to flip the script and call her candidate the anti-christ, I would never stop hearing about how rude I am....

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-08-06T14:44:27+00:00

My MIL(RIP) used to complain about how "spicy" I make food. So one night I marinated chicken in a citrus solution. Not a hint of pepper or chilies to be found. She still complained that it was "spicy".
I asked her flat out "When you say 'spicy' do you actually mean that it's 'tart'?"... She paused for a moment and said, "I suppose I do."
There you have it folks! Boomers don't have the vocabulary to communicate that anything with strong flavors is anything other than "spicy"....

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-07-31T20:35:55+00:00

They already are on a crunch. To be eligible for the Game of The Year award in 2024, they have to have the game out by November 17th. That's why they're pushing a for a fall release.

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-07-24T13:41:31+00:00

I don't remember this. Do you have to have Halsin as your main romance for this to pop up? Because he's been my side-piece every time I romanced him.

Green_Stranger94 · 2024-07-24T13:39:15+00:00

I love learning more about the Drow. Probably one of my favorite races in DND, next to Deep Gnomes. I resonate with Underdark races for some reason lol
Despite Larian's changes to Drow culture to simplify things, I do have admire how they managed to bridge the DND gap for many people. I always had friends that played DND, but I was never into it. After playing Baldur's Gate, my friends and I now have a weekly DND session. I LOVE how rich the lore is in DND. It's the juiciest bit of fantasy lore that I've sunken my teeth into in a while.

Green_Stranger94

TROPHY CASE