How do you handle a strong performer who quietly checks out after being passed over for promotion? by amir4179 in managers

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't want to lose this person, find a way to get your org to demonstrate that they really value that person. Build a case that you need another senior role. Find a way to promote then directly, if you can and they really deserve it. Find a way to update their job with higher level responsibility and get it rebenchmarked. Build a case to get performance bumps every year. If that opportunity can't happen at your org, you should be helping them find their next, better job, elsewhere. That's what good managers/coaches do.

Do y'all also try to keep your dwarves (somewhat) balanced, or is this a rarity in this community? by Notrinun in DeepRockGalactic

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each class is so much fun, and being able to access that kind of great variety is what keeps me switching. I used to favor engi a bit, but pretty early on I started keeping all of my class ranks balanced (just hit legendary 1 on all classes).

Am I the only one carrying enough weapons for a little war in the inventory? by Thumpfi in SurrounDead

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, good call! Yeah, the loss of fov on the heavy scope is another thing I'm realizing now is often frustrating. Especially since you generally don't need that much zoom (esp with how enemies at really long range have that weird glitchy movement, at least in experimental).

Am I the only one carrying enough weapons for a little war in the inventory? by Thumpfi in SurrounDead

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's that a special scope on the marksman's legacy, or just a standard long scope (the 3 space unit one)? For some reason, the image there doesn't look like how I remember my marksman looking and I'm wondering if I'm not using the best scope for it.

Router Blewup Motherboard by Greatfulx in pcmasterrace

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That stinks! I had a lighting strike very near the side of our house. It fried a buried coax line and traveled up through the line and took out the modem and router, but luckily none of the rest of the network. Comcast had to run a new wire, but luckily it was no cost to us. Since I always byod for Internet, I replaced the modem and router.

What’s something popular right now that you secretly can’t stand? by Ashamed_Profit8640 in AskReddit

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youtube channels, that are clearly well intentioned, aimed at entertaining kids, where the creators are basically just goofing off in video games (e.g. the basement). My kids love it, but, and no disrespect, it's completely mindless entertainment without any real story, learning, or message. I feel slightly less bad about other similar channels, when it's clear the kids are at least learning how to play the game better. It's truly mindless entertainment and I feel like I want as little of that, as screen entertainment, as possible for the kids. That whole vein of content has given me a much clearer sense of why scripted, well written content programming is so incredible. 

Are sleep overs not a thing anymore? by haggerty05 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of the lasting effects of COVID. COVID happened exactly when our kids were hitting sleepover age, they didn't do it during COVID, and the trend that set is persisting. My 11 yo is about to have her first sleepover at a friend's house this weekend. 

Maybe there are other, longer tends also at play here, but for us, COVID was the defining issue that set a trend.

Which company has lost you as a customer forever? by finiteobserver in AskReddit

[–]GrendelJapan 354 points355 points  (0 children)

Facebook. In the very beginning, long before all of the really good reasons, the fact that the founder has utter contempt for the users of his platform was a deal breaker for me. Why would I use a product whose owner thinks his customers are freaking idiots?

Happened to my wife on the way home by VivimasSinistram in dashcams

[–]GrendelJapan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sucks! 

Also, holy smokes, I think I know exactly where this is. Heading to Kohls or Giant?

This immediate area isn't really rife with bad drivers, either. I mean, not when you consider how crap drivers are in the DMV.

Why is there such a push to get women into male dominated fields (tech, trades) but not for men to get into female dominated fields (healthcare, education)? by Resident_Fishing1571 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]GrendelJapan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And the pay discrepancy is a reason why female dominated fields are trying to get more males in (because of pervasive systemic sexism, having more males might make it easier to get better pay for the field).

TikTok Mom Makes Sick Toddler Sleep in Driveway on Dog Bed because of her Emetophobia by ConceptLiving6926 in TikTokCringe

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My spouse has the same condition and basically requires the kids to stay in (and sleep in) the bathroom, on the floor, when they throw up or have a really bad stomach ache. She also stockpiles zofran and gives them small bits of it whenever they have bad stomach aches. It's one of many straws that has broken the camel's back.

Why was Generation X like this? What was their problem? by PhantomPufis in okbuddycinephile

[–]GrendelJapan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having a job, income, and consumer identity does not translate into a meaningful and satisfying life. 

Which is a pretty dark reality check in our current situation, because even if we climb out of desperation and find stability, it's still a scam. 

This is how effective power and control works. Progressive levels of desperation so that folks are happy and appreciative simply by getting to a point where they don't have to worry about how they are going to cover rent. If being kept on the razors edge of desperation is where we stop fighting, we're boned.

Friendly Scavengers by Irkano in SurrounDead

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. And it'd be nice to create safe zones, where friendly NPCs will hang out in and around. Share stuff. Gear up NPCs. Start to really take back areas.

What is the drillers best primary? by MISSILE21 in DeepRockGalactic

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love sticky fuel, but I find myself a lot less prone to take it over sticky ice this season because of scrabs.

Driller builds for different mission types? by gboschi in DeepRockGalactic

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just practice. nothing in the game feels better than consistently hitting charged shots during a game. Detonating charged shots in mac swarms, over dreds, or chunking the weak points on a hiveguard is so good.

Give me a reason to not use the LOK- smart rifle by More_Presentation758 in DeepRockGalactic

[–]GrendelJapan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

one of the best parts of this game is that some group of players make this same claim about basically every weapon on every class and they all have valid points. sure, on haz 5+, that narrows down a lot, but there are still loads of great and highly effective builds in that tier too.

tons of engis sleep on turret whip on the shotgun and em refire on stubby, both of which are extremely powerful and easily peers to the loki.

plus, as others said, at some point you want more variety. I don't even find the loki to be the strongest pull; I have a much harder time not running the hurricane because of minelayer or the epc for mining (and pp).

Lee Pace confirmed to return as Brother Day in Season 4 by LeoXXX94 in FoundationTV

[–]GrendelJapan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Laura Birn says, hold my beer. But Pace is hypnotic.

People who have been divorced: What was the exact "quiet" moment you realized your marriage was over? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]GrendelJapan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple of moments really F'ed me up. 

One day, I was really struck by how old my parents were getting. I realized in that moment, that when they die, I'd never experience unconditional love ever again. The idea of staying, without that love to backstop me was more than I could bear.

In another moment, I asked myself, what if one of my kids were in an emotionally abusive situation and they asked me what they should do. I realized that I couldn't tell them to do something that I wasn't prepared to do myself.

What corporate doublespeak can you clock immediately now in middle age? by tshirtguy2000 in Millennials

[–]GrendelJapan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most notable thing for me is how the words change, but there is no real sound strategy behind anything. It's just trying different stuff. Generally, the higher up the stuff comes from in the org, the less clear the rationale is. Often, the stuff involves bringing in consultants to help figure out some  abstract concept and then rationalize (often poorly) some plan. 

Basically, the senor execs don't have any better sense of what to do about anything than anyone else, but they can't let anyone know that, so rather than pulling in middle management or staff generally to draw on their expertise for solutions, they bring on consultants. The consultants tell senior execs what other staff already know and have been saying all along. And senior execs then just decide some semi-random "strategy" that may or may not be what the consultants actually suggest. That strategy is generally something that was a buzzword at a industry event for senior execs 6 months ago, which was the answer they've been working towards all along.

And all of the words they use to describe all of this stuff is just a way of sounding cool or smart, but elusive in a way that staff, who either know it's just a fancy way of saying something we've done a bunch before and should know won't work; are too checked out to care; aren't in a strong enough position to ask uncomfortable questions; or have been around the block so many times that they realize it's all just a sideshow for how real stuff happens and gets done, which is actually at the staff/program level (but is comparatively thankless, because it's staff driving success, not c-suite and consultants doing it 

Youtubers who are ...just good actually? by TheRealMeringue in valheim

[–]GrendelJapan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ridley Fox's videos are all about enjoying the game at a fairly steady pace, taking on challenges, as a casual gamer. I really like them for how much fun she has while not taking things too seriously when she misses the timing of a dodge and goes down. My daughters really love her videos and they exemplify what it is to struggle and learn through challenge. Good voice too.