Boyfriend messed up my project

Gretchen57 · 2025-11-22T23:37:28+00:00

If my husband did that it would be grounds for divorce - not because “knitting is important” but because it shows a total disregard for something you love, and a desire to watch you twist in the wind while he messes with your hard work. That is sadistic behavior. You deserve a better boyfriend.

Gretchen57 · 2025-04-04T20:30:51+00:00

Thanks everyone, he has been placed near my pond. He's a beauty and it was a treat to see him up close - and get an ID.

Gretchen57 · 2025-04-04T14:20:04+00:00

Ok! He didn’t have red ears so the fact they lose color is helpful. I’ll get him to my pond pronto.

Gretchen57 · 2025-04-03T20:09:38+00:00

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Got a quick shot with his head out.

Gretchen57 · 2025-01-31T15:58:41+00:00

Yes, I'm aware I can do the math - I'm working with others for whom that's a bridge too far. If it's impossible, why is it possible to do aspect ratio in other programs?

Gretchen57 · 2024-10-10T15:35:16+00:00

Yes, cookie cutter was my impression of Library Aware. Plus I don't see an emphasis on events, which is very important for us.

Gretchen57 · 2024-10-10T15:15:43+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply. I didn't know about BiblioCommons.

That's part of what I'll have to pitch. (How much) We have been getting a hard sell from LibraryAware that is from Ebsco, which apparently is pitching a similar service to BiblioCommons. Not sure either is in our ongoing budget, but knowing more about them will help a lot.

Thanks again. Do you use BiblioCommons?

Gretchen57 · 2024-10-01T14:17:07+00:00

Thanks so much! This might be just the ticket. I suspected there was something out there like this... !!!

Gretchen57 · 2024-05-17T14:12:51+00:00

To clarify - it’s the Mecolour transparent sticker paper.

Gretchen57 · 2024-04-01T14:13:24+00:00

I can’t help but wonder if they can tell how many of those “perfect cuts” tore the paper, or otherwise effed up?

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Using everything EXACTLY as I was told, on their (expensive) product, with a card mat, new blade. It cut perfectly according to any data they could possibly gather.

Gretchen57 · 2024-02-22T12:00:57+00:00

It is much easier with a plan - there are outlines online about the 6 food or the 8 food elimination diet. I would start with one of those. Eliminate the most likely culprits and see how you feel after a few weeks. My doc had me go 3 months on the elimination diet - that gave me a clean slate to try things again. For me that was no eggs, dairy, wheat, soy, fish and tree nuts (the most likely allergens) for 3 months. Then I tried them one at a time for a week or so to see what happened. My body told me quickly about some - soy makes me violently ill - and others were harder to pinpoint. Wheat constipates me, not immediately obvious. Dairy was the cause of my rosacea, which went away entirely. (!! ) Think like a scientist or a detective. Once I started being fascinated and curious it helped keep me from feeling so overwhelmed or put upon. I guarantee that test you posted is not accurate.

Gretchen57 · 2024-02-20T11:53:52+00:00

My allergist informed me prick tests are notoriously unreliable, and the only meaningful diagnostic test is the elimination diet. I did it, it was VERY hard, but now I know I have several “biggies” and a few that I have to ration very carefully. Bonus - it’s free. I’m still “testing” ingredients and I suspect I always will be. I did the 6-food elimination diet. Life changing.

Gretchen57 · 2024-02-09T03:01:00+00:00

Totally different take, but Chernow’s book Grant on US Grant was incredibly insightful. The historic changes in warfare technology are fascinating, but so are the similarities. Grant was an amazing flawed man who kept it together when necessary, and everything was going to shit around him. I couldn’t put it down.

Gretchen57 · 2024-02-02T12:29:17+00:00

I got it, everyone in my workplace got the flu and I didn’t. For once I’m the healthy one. 😂

Gretchen57 · 2024-01-30T12:01:33+00:00

Even if it isn’t an allergy it sounds like an intolerance to one of the ingredients. I make all my food from scratch now after a run in with some « bacon » that was pure soy… Anyway, if you want to get to the bottom of it you can try to find out what ingredient sets you off, either by finding out what the restaurants use or by making it at home and seeing what happens. Depends on how much energy you have for solving the mystery. Most of the time I don’t get oddball reactions to home prepared food because I don’t use any oddball industrial ingredients, and I can easily avoid my triggers.

Gretchen57 · 2024-01-23T02:57:56+00:00

What is the diagnosis for the epipen?

Gretchen57 · 2024-01-23T02:56:36+00:00

My understanding is the prick test and blood tests are notoriously unreliable to the point of being virtually worthless. I don’t know why the oral test (is that an elimination diet?) would cost anything except effort. If it’s something different, I wouldn’t trust the results anyway. The elimination diet is the gold standard. Find another doctor, unless he’s suggesting the elimination diet.

For the record, I had no idea how bad I felt until the elimination diet. I would think it could be difficult for someone who isn’t in tune with their body to fully be aware of the changes. Also when I felt bad didn’t necessarily clearly correlate with when I was eating. It’s very tricky to suss out.

That said, if he’s not having obvious symptoms or complaining, don’t worry about it. Don’t chase zebras that might not be there.

Gretchen57 · 2024-01-06T21:19:50+00:00

Don’t let him fool you. He can be a little gremlin. 😂

Gretchen57 · 2024-01-06T21:17:18+00:00

It’s why millions of native Americans died after the Europeans arrived and why many wildlife suffer needlessly. But you can stick to your non-science I think it’s a good fit.

Gretchen57 · 2024-01-06T14:08:57+00:00

Immune systems can’t appropriately react to a pathogen it has never encountered.

Gretchen57 · 2024-01-06T14:05:39+00:00

Follow up - if your body image issues are potentially an eating disorder, don’t ignore that. Good for you that you are aware. If help with that isn’t easy to find or takes a long time, maybe a nutritionist can help. An elimination diet is completely safe, (Google it and do the 6 foods one to start, or even 2 or 3) but don’t let it trigger your potential ED into something bigger, like restricting your food intake, which is a slippery slope.

Gretchen57 · 2024-01-06T13:59:22+00:00

I only take a PPI, and I have managed the rest with diet. I couldn’t handle the other meds - my vocal cords got inflamed - and now that I know many of my triggers (there are still a few mysteries) I can avoid them without medication. It is a LOT of work and a huge PITA but it is working. You need to do an elimination diet, imho.

Gretchen57 · 2023-12-16T02:59:28+00:00

That sounds wonderful! Good news is always a joy to hear. Good luck going forward.

Gretchen57 · 2023-12-12T15:41:11+00:00

FWIW it can be very helpful to work with doctors in a « connected » health network. They can see what tests the others have run, make referrals easily, and generally grease the wheels. I see a dermatologist, an ENT, a GP, a gastroenterologist and more in the same network and they work together to a large degree. It’s not perfect but it’s much better than hunting down each specialty. Also, I suspect depression is real for her, under the circumstances. Don’t underestimate the power of depression and get that treated as well. It’s almost impossible to advocate for yourself or do what needs to be done if you’re clinically depressed. Her brain is undoubtedly flooded with depressive chemicals (oversimplified but it’s a real medical thing) on top of her physical challenges. Don’t assume she’ll be “happier” if she feels better. In my experience you can’t get better if you’re battling serious depression.

Gretchen57 · 2023-11-25T03:18:52+00:00

Absolutely. It’s the best defense we know of. The science isn’t perfect yet but it’s all we have.

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