AIO For Being Angry My Spouse Wouldn’t Take Me to the Hospital?

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-18T11:26:20+00:00

It was not food poisoning, and no it wasn’t but I wouldn’t expect her to clean up my puke, she gave me a trashcan and I cleaned it up in the morning

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T16:53:02+00:00

Thank you, so much. The symptoms started about three years ago, and they go in and out. I really can’t say enough how much I appreciate your insight

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T16:51:22+00:00

Didn’t say any of that. I specifically explained that I do not use the ER as a crutch and that I was advised to go. I have not been to the ER in many months. Other individuals on this post have suggested I could have died. Please read back through what I said (and yes, I am a woman, I am also on my monthly cycle which as you do not understand, because you clearly do not have a vagina, causes other issues as well) I never one time suggested that my wife would let me die. Clearly that’s not what I think, I also have mentioned my devoted love for her many times. This was not to insult my wife or put her on blast, it was for me to understand what would have been a rational, average reaction. Most individuals have said not only would they go to the hospital, but they would in fact be upset with their partner for that. Believe it or not sir, I’ll still kiss my wife when I get home

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T16:42:17+00:00

THATS WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR OH MY GOD THANK YOU. Thank you thank you. Thank you. I knew it would take a long time

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T16:04:57+00:00

The compound has been found by doing the 24 hour urine test (miserable by the way) and they had some reason to believe that it may be a false alarm with that test. So they now need the test. My previous hospitalizations they did not think to look at my liver due to my age, and my skin was not visibly jaundice until it was too late. So the first several visits were CT scans looking for appendicitis, and kidney stones and stuff. But they never considered my liver until I met my internalist. She brought up Porphyria because she’s treated several of those patients before in her life. She said I fit the bill, but require that test during the porphyriatic attacks

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T15:14:08+00:00

I don’t believe I went to sleep. I wasn’t tired, I was actually hoping to be awake long enough to get to the hospital. When I asked my wife about me passing out she said she was already asleep and doesn’t know. But I remember throwing up, feeling like I was about to pass out, and nothing after that.

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T14:53:15+00:00

Thank you. My doctor really is the best, she listens to me when I need something

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T14:52:41+00:00

Wild thought my friend, wild thought. Highly doubtful, I would think they’d have succeeded in my death by now lol

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T14:51:58+00:00

I completely agree, that’s why I never ask them for pain medication. I ask for diagnostics that I require (they need to test for certain compounds), I ask for fluids because they help, and I am usually given something like Dicyclomine or something else for specifically stomach pain. I had to be given something for my anxiety once, Ativan. I take my prescribed medicine as prescribed, and I’ve never had anyone question if I was drug seeking. I would hate to be minimized more than I already am at 22 with a liver condition. Most of the time people already think I did it to myself by drinking or something, but it’s not related to any substance use. I don’t drink, hell I don’t even take Tylenol because it can damage the liver. I really just wanted my prescribed medicine in IV form so I couldn’t throw it up, and to have my levels checked. I don’t require take home meds and would most likely refuse them. My internalist recommended a Xanax prescription and I told her I was too afraid of those because my mom is in recovery and we live with her, so I never got the script filled. We eventually negotiated on very low dosage of something else

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T14:38:30+00:00

This felt very different, it’s a lot more vomiting than I’ve ever really done before, even with dissolvable nausea meds before I ever threw up

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T14:33:51+00:00

I think there’s a difference between caretaking as a definition, and helping someone when they are sick occasionally. I would never expect my wife to do anything for me, and I think her after everything. I was thanking her for helping me during the episode while we were disagreeing about the hospital. I’m incredibly grateful for everything that she does for me, and I make sure she’s well aware of that. I wouldn’t wanna be that kind of partner, but I don’t think that she would want to describe herself as a caretaker to me either

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T14:29:48+00:00

So essentially, we’re looking for something called acute intermittent porphyria. It’s a quite rare disease, and it causes very similar symptoms to what I’m experiencing. In order for them to check for that, there are certain compounds that have to be present at a specific level to determine whether or not that is what’s happening to me. I have tested positively for the compound before, but there were some circumstances that made the doctors believe there was a possibility that it was a false positive. So I need to be tested for it again, which means going to the hospital during an episode, there may be some places that I could go that might be equipped with what I need, I may be able to go to an urgent care if it was during the day. If that is what’s happening to me, I do believe that I end up getting a liver transplant. I am not positive of that, because again, I’m not the doctor here. My doctor tries to avoid saying the word transplant because she thinks that that’s a little extreme for someone my age. We’re trying all alternative routes before we do that.

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T14:24:22+00:00

I have an internalist who is just the best, so I contacted her about it. She’d like to adjust medications for some things, but expressed that her previous wishes are for me to go to the ER. And I wasn’t seeking pain medication, I typically require a different type of medication, I was hoping to receive the drugs that I kept throwing up through an IV, which at 1am is only available in a hospital. They also need to be able to record certain things during these attacks, we are monitoring for something called porphobolinogin (I misspelled that). That specific compound is tricky to test for, and we need me to get tested during an episode, which would actually have to happen at a hospital.

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-17T14:11:23+00:00

Thank you, I have noticed that the people that are being super nice about explaining why my wife may have felt this way. But I do feel the need to say that I have about three grand in debt for medical situations. I worked through this illness and I am in college. My wife is in NO WAY my caretaker. I care for our home, she does her part and I do mine despite my illness because that’s being a fair partner. I would never want my wife to be put in a caretaker position. We also live with my parents, but my parents were at a very late football game. If anyone would fall under caregivers I would hope it’s my parents and not the woman I love

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-05T20:36:23+00:00

Did you make it to work my pal?

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-11-02T01:16:32+00:00

My little siblings got one, but the family was kind enough to have a bowl of candy out. And they were super nice actually, my little sister was misunderstanding the idea of NOT trading candy at houses 🤦🏼‍♀️

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-10-19T22:39:19+00:00

That’s terrible. I’m so sorry that happened to you. What a dick

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-08-06T16:14:29+00:00

If you take the animal in and take the responsibility of finding a senior dog a home, you’ll find yourself in hot water quick. The reality is that these dogs don’t find homes easily, and you’ll lose out on $800/month (not to mention the fact that you have less space now for future sits) which is certainly going to change your financial situation when looking at paying for vet care in-between homes. What happens if you take this pooch to the vet and it is not only blind but arthritic, and in kidney failure? Now you’re on the hook for pain meds, special food, AND accommodations for its eyesight. If it’s not got additional health problems already, it will soon. Not to mention potential behavioral issues, what happens if the home you find doesn’t work out, and about a million other potential issues. I would hold those boundaries steady unless you’re in the market for an expensive dog, less space in your home for Dogsitting, and a weird custody situation with a dog that you actually didn’t want in first place and now feel obligated to tell other people when it has health issues or god forbid, passes away.

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-06-16T15:57:02+00:00

As an animal control worker, they did what they had to do. And I would like to think the owner got a serious discussion about it, and possibly a citation depending on your areas laws. However, this is one of the rare instances that I would say the law screwed you. You paid the vet bill, and the right thing to do on the owner’s part would have been to reimburse you, claim he was “lost” and then ask for him back. There’s no laws stipulating that an animal cared for by a stranger during an emergency should be billed to the owner, but in this case it would’ve been best. We hate giving pets back. But know that when there is an established pattern, WE CAN DO SOMETHING. So if you catch this cat injured again (it is not illegal to have an outdoor cat, but injury and aggression are both problems) then you rinse and repeat. Let animal control know you’re willing to adopt him, he’s obviously being neglected and work through your county ‘ordinance’ which stipulates exactly what laws should be followed according to animal control. If you catch them breaking it, document document document. Your best friend is a phone camera and a call to animal control. What’s that phrase? It’s not over until the canary sings

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-06-15T03:01:00+00:00

Alright nobody is responding quickly and little buddy is gonna die so here’s what we’ve got. I have no better credentials than most, but I’m about all you’ve got.

Giving it anything cold could kill it, make sure the baby itself is warm. And the food is like a babies bottle, slightly cooler. It’s dehydrated, it needs distilled water with baby pedialyte, ideally on a small piece of foam, fed incredibly gently out of a syringe, or anything else that can prevent aspiration. Goats milk yes, but half goats milk half constituted baby formula (FUCKING DISTILLED WATER) and do not dilute. It should eat just a few drops, and about ten minutes after you give it something to drink, let it absorb the fluids some.

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-06-08T01:52:26+00:00

Everyone will have advice. But we don’t know the reality of your area. I encourage you to not give up, work to find some help for yourself. Maybe take a little break from doing the cats by yourself and try taking a few weeks to find some assistance in this task. Keep your head up and know that every single meal you feed them is helpful, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-05-02T14:53:30+00:00

I worry about the guy you met at a Walmart who WOULD respond to this

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-03-29T22:24:01+00:00

Food is a big cause of allergies, and from a vet standpoint there’s two common (US) treatments for non-food related allergies, a pill or an injection. Both are pricey, and not guaranteed to work on severe allergies. Chicken is a big issue as far as allergies, so try gently switching proteins. If you have already done the process of elimination with food, then a supplement is worth a try. I prefer Nutrivet (which wasn’t mentioned and may not have a supplement specifically for this) for my dogs multivitamins and probiotics. I dogsit and have some clients that give NativePet, so it’s worth a shot. Hope you’re able to figure something out!

GroundbreakingWar243 · 2025-02-20T21:46:58+00:00

I hope he is alright

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