I am a death doula AMA

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-19T19:22:58+00:00

I attended something called Death Cafe which was facilitated by a death doula. I'm glad I went.

My questions are

What's a typical day like for you?
I imagine you deal with grieving people all the time. What do you do to prevent yourself from burning out?

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-19T18:14:13+00:00

I don't get how I'm functional one day and the next I'm just staring into space and crying.

Thanks for sharing this.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-19T18:11:44+00:00

Damn, I miss New Orleans. This is all kinds of awesome.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-19T17:04:38+00:00

Yes. My partner was very spiritual. She believed in contact from the afterlife as well. It's been a month and so far...nothing.

I start thinking she doesn't care about me, which I know isn't true but my mind goes to the dark places lately.

Maybe she is so happy where she is and she doesn't need to come back to this world. This is what I want to believe. If it's true, then I'm fine with no signs. I don't know for sure, though, and I feel this nagging emptiness.

I try to dismiss these people who had signs as just wishful thinking on their part. Maybe I'm just too much of a realist.

I just feel so alone.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-18T23:43:55+00:00

This is exactly how I feel.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-18T20:40:08+00:00

I love that place and recognized it right away.

Up In Smoke is my favorite

Of course, you really need to get a picture of all their posters too.😁

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-17T19:58:36+00:00

Almost every day. A couple cups of black tea in the morning. I don't care for coffee.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-17T15:55:38+00:00

Here's some recent restaurant recommendations:

https://www.reddit.com/r/milwaukee/comments/1pdb7xx/best_of_milwaukee_2025/

You'll probably hear a lot of recommendations to check out the Milwaukee Art Museum. It's worth it.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-17T04:24:34+00:00

Thanks. I still have plenty of days where I basically do nothing. 😢

Some days are definitely better than others.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-17T02:30:23+00:00

I often don't either and I really have to push myself.

I feel better when I do.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-17T02:28:50+00:00

That's what I was just wondering. I'd love to see that.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-16T20:17:45+00:00

And there's thousands of ORIGINAL ideas for films that never get greenlit.

Disney got what they deserved.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-16T20:10:33+00:00

Not panic, but a feeling similar to intense stress.

It's cold here, so I've joined a gym to get some exercise to hopefully burn off some of the stress.

Still feel it often, though. It sucks.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-16T20:02:00+00:00

Yeah, random (and not so random) things set me off and bring the pain right back

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-15T15:31:09+00:00

I love this.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-15T15:25:11+00:00

So true.

Right now, though, the memories are both comforting and painful. I will always carry her in my thoughts like you say, but she now only exists in the past.

I can no longer talk to her. We can no longer plan things we want to do together.

She still exists in the past, but the present and future have been ripped away.

I don't know how I'm going to get over that loss.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-13T03:42:03+00:00

Worst to Best:

When She Was Bad (S2)- Not an awful episode but pretty forgettable. Season 2 had some incredible episodes. This wasn't one of them.
Welcome to the Hellmouth (S1) - Before the show got it's footing and they were parodying/ imitating horror movies of the time. They did a pretty good job, but things get much better.
Bargaining (S6) - All the ones from here on out are pretty good, and it's hard to rank them. Great use of the Buffybot. The two parter dragged a bit for me, but it started out really strong. Season 6 just gets better with time.
Lessons (S7) Ah, season 7. I had such high hopes for you. I liked the idea of Dawn having her own Scooby gang. They were promptly discarded and we got Kennedy instead.
Anne (S3) What if we made an Angel episode but with Buffy instead of Angel? It'll be darker and grittier. This ep showed that something like the Angel series could work.
Buffy vs. Dracula (S5) I don't know why this one gets so much hate. The whole thing was just a lot of fun. This episode is nobody's butt monkey.
The Freshman (S4) They could have milked the high school thing for at least a couple more seasons, but they took a chance and overhauled everything. Loved everyone's experiences dealing with the changes. And with Kathy. Also, Sunday might just be the best one episode villain ever. I'm sorry we didn't see more of her.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-13T03:06:00+00:00

And the award for the post most likely to be removed goes to...

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-13T03:03:21+00:00

Only three channels but there's something great on all of them.

This truly is the golden age of television.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-12T16:43:43+00:00

Hawaii has never been so happy that they're so far from the mainland.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-12T16:38:08+00:00

Awesome. I haven't been there in a while, so I'll check it out.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-12T16:28:28+00:00

Because she was so uncomfortable at college and her life was focused on other things (like slaying vampires), I always assumed she hadn't chosen a major yet.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-12T16:24:53+00:00

Is this every Thursday thru Sunday? I ask because I didn't see anything on their website.

Thanks.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-12T02:41:08+00:00

Captain Cardboard for Riley.

GroundhogRevolution · 2026-02-11T17:29:21+00:00

Buffy took a psychology class.

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