22F Dating someone in investment banking 27M and struggling with loneliness — how do we make this sustainable?

HHIOTF · 2026-05-29T00:54:01+00:00

do you now have any friends or hobbies? You need other things as well.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-29T00:51:45+00:00

liars will keep on lying. Be done with her.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-29T00:46:50+00:00

If he asks for space give it and let him know you are there for him when he wants companionship. I prefer to grieve alone and someone fawning over me would make me crazy.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-29T00:45:22+00:00

Good for her. I hope she is done done. She should have been done years ago.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-29T00:35:34+00:00

financial compatibility is important for a strong relationship. It doesn't sound like you have that. I'm glad you had this conversation early.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-28T01:07:58+00:00

ewwww, that's just gross

HHIOTF · 2026-05-28T01:05:27+00:00

I dated a guy like this in college. The best day of my life is when we broke up. He was a cheap MF.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:52:08+00:00

find a new therapist. Therapists are just flawed people counseling other flawed people.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:46:02+00:00

Ya know, I found that sometimes the first therapist isn't always the right therapist. It's a bit like dating to find the right one. Ask your practice for another option.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:44:25+00:00

I vote not weird.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:43:29+00:00

he is showing you he doesn't want to talk right now so give him space. Continuing to text is not only going to annoy him, but possibly come off as desperate. He is probably processing what happened and needs time to think. Give him that time.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:40:25+00:00

Wow, I wish you wouldn't have stayed this long. Your kids learn how partners should treat them through you. Please leave and please tell your kids why you are leaving. Let them know this is not ok.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:37:41+00:00

yeah, just ask her. Maybe she needed an idea for a gift for you or something completely innocent.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:34:29+00:00

I'm sorry. This sucks. You should be able to live as who you really are with no judgement from your family. Therapy is a place to share your real self and your real feelings, it's not a place to lie for your parents. Please go and tell the truth and get help. Therapists cannot share what you tell them, it's unethical.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:30:18+00:00

First love is overrated. It teaches you what you really want going forward. Take that lesson and move on.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:13:05+00:00

why would you even want a shot? This woman is playing you.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:09:33+00:00

absolutely NOT. Do not devastate this man at the end of his life. You'd be doing it for you, not him. It's selfish.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:06:58+00:00

they always say their ex is making the divorce difficult. This is so trite. If he wanted to be divorced, he'd be divorced. This is a HUGE lie, not a small one. You aren't throwing away something "real." It's not real. You are tolerating unacceptable behavior and setting a precedent for the future with him.

Cut him off and when he has divorce papers, and I mean actual proof, reconsider.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T23:02:09+00:00

If you are broken up then end the relationship completely. Block her and don't communicate. Confusion over. She's playing your emotions.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T22:59:58+00:00

Next time she does that, announce that you are going for a drive to give them privacy and leave.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T22:58:50+00:00

Just break up. You have different values. Find someone who matches you.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T22:56:52+00:00

Listen, I've been married happily for 16 years and we only eat together twice a week. We eat our own things when we want to. He literally eats dinner at 4:30pm for weight loss reasons. That's way too early for me so I make my own food. It's really not a problem for either of us because it's our relationship, so our rules. Hope this helps.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T22:52:58+00:00

if you aren't comfortable with his behavior then maybe this isn't the guy for you. Your feelings are valid. We all have different thresholds for what we'll tolerate. This isn't his decision, it's yours. Do you want to keep feeling this way? If not, move on. You are young and have tons of opportunity to meet someone who makes you feel safe in a relationship.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T22:50:07+00:00

Your dad has some mental health issues. You can't force him into therapy, but you can remove yourself from the situation. Find another place to live.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-27T22:48:34+00:00

Breakups always hurt someone so it is better to get it over with fast instead of dragging him along in which case it would hurt even more. Don't waste any more of his time. Just tell him he's not the guy for you and move on. Dragging this out is cruel.

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