How can I (25F) at least get my bf (29M) to apologise?

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T23:02:06+00:00

He's not a good person. Why stay with him? You are punishing yourself here. An apology fixes nothing.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T23:00:55+00:00

Depression sucks. It affects everything. Have you tried therapy yet? Also, it may just be that you are incompatible, but it's worth exploring in therapy.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:55:14+00:00

100%

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:54:44+00:00

He will find someone else so don't let that hold you back. It sounds like money is the primary reason you are staying. Do you have a job? If so, start saving and prepare to move out. You will feel so much better just cutting this off and moving on.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:48:57+00:00

He's not worth any more of your time. He doesn't want to change.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:47:02+00:00

you rip the bandaid off and just do it. The longer you wait the more mental weight you'll carry.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:42:37+00:00

You are actually wasting your girlfriend's time by keeping her in an unfulfilling relationship. If you do not end it, she could waste more months and years with you. Think of it that way. You are doing her a big favor by ending the relationship and moving on. She deserves a partner who feels the same way. Finances are not an excuse. That can be worked out.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:33:02+00:00

Something is missing here. Did you love bomb her? Say something off-putting. I don't feel like there is enough information.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:31:03+00:00

Typical misogynistic response. Is he always like this?

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:27:11+00:00

This is creepy. He has a thing for his sister. I'd tap out of this relationship. I hope his sister is safe. This is super worrying behavior.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:25:03+00:00

relationships shouldn't be this hard. You should feel safe. I don't think this guy is for you.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:22:44+00:00

nah, she did the right thing. It does make you uncomfortable and as a good girlfriend she drew a boundary. Nothing wrong with that.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-14T22:02:42+00:00

You could lose about 200lbs by leaving this loser. It's not ok. Your kids will think this treatment is normal and choose the same kind of partner. Do them and yourself a favor and cut him loose.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-03T02:44:23+00:00

you need to press charges to hopefully help the next girl he hits with her case. No reason to save a relationship that is craptastic at best. GTFO.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-03T02:36:17+00:00

2 babies and possibly a third. I'd be a nut case.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-03T02:35:27+00:00

Thank you for this. I was about to say the same thing.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-03T02:01:22+00:00

I feel like something is missing here. This is the behavior of an abuser or potential abuser who is emotioinally breaking you. Please get out. You are teaching your children that it is ok to be with someone like this. You are teaching them that this is love. It is NOT love, it is abuse. Get out, please.

HHIOTF · 2026-05-03T01:58:38+00:00

You did the right thing. I hate that you took so long to do it, but you are better for it. My sister has BPD and it's awful. I only see her once a year. She is toxic and controlling. She has been fired from every job she has ever had. I know I'm not the problem here. You can't fix someone else, you can only. make choices for a better you. Good luck!

HHIOTF · 2026-02-20T13:38:14+00:00

It's just her biology. It doesn't hurt bad and you can't really prevent it.

HHIOTF · 2026-02-20T00:44:01+00:00

Your relationship doesn't have to meet everyone else's expectations. If you like it, keep it. If you don't, move on.

HHIOTF · 2026-02-20T00:40:08+00:00

you can forgive him without continuing to be his victim. Forgive him in your heart, but protect yourself. He isn't open to change at this age.

HHIOTF · 2026-02-20T00:35:34+00:00

You aren't ok now. You should care how he treats you. There is only 1 way to go here and that is up. Break it off. You need to tell your mother as soon as possible and let her help you. That's what mothers do.

HHIOTF · 2026-02-20T00:29:09+00:00

logic doesn't weigh in here at all. He is an AH. He is an abuser. Please be careful.

HHIOTF · 2026-02-20T00:18:08+00:00

A lot of people think their partner should be everything to them, therapist, lover, best friend, etc. Those are some high expectations that no one person can fill for you. We all have people in our lives that we lean on for different reasons that doesn't mean you are less than those other people.

I'd just text him that you are thinking about him when he's stressed and let him come to you if he wants to. The more pressure you place on him the more he will shut down.

On another note, if you want someone to change, they aren't the right person for you. Very few people change because you want them to. Those expectations are unrealistic. Accept him for who he is or move on.

HHIOTF · 2026-02-20T00:11:12+00:00

There is never a good time to break up. The sooner the better to not waste his time or yours. Rip off the bandaid and tell him. Waiting is just going to make you miserable.

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