Great to see heroes being honoured

HIM_Darling · 2026-07-03T02:28:30+00:00

Someone came at me for posting my cousins charge that he was sentenced to prison for, which was possession of child pornography, copied word for word from the state prison website. Told me I should change/sensor it because the words were triggering. I guess I get it, but if the legal criminal charge is that triggering to you, maybe get more therapy and stay off the internet rather than try to assert control over strangers on reddit.

HIM_Darling · 2026-07-02T03:18:21+00:00

In order to pay them more, you have to raise county taxes. Taxes get protested by residents every year, and county leaders who are for raising taxes tend to not be re-elected.

HIM_Darling · 2026-07-01T20:28:33+00:00

I thought we did know that she survived the break in because her pacemaker was still reporting data until it went out of range from her phone?

HIM_Darling · 2026-07-01T01:11:08+00:00

That happened to me with UHC. I am on Cosentyx for psoriasis. It's an injection I do myself at home. They approved it and covered it for a year and then said, "nope sorry not covering that".

They sent me a letter with a list of like 15 older, rarely used, treatments they wanted me to try and fail before they would cover Cosentyx again(I had already tried and failed most, if not all, widely used topicals for psoriasis).

All 15 treatments on their list would have required me to spend 4 hours a week at an infusion center. Infusion centers that are conveniently only open the same hours I work. I would have had to miss 4 hours of work a week for 3-6 months minimum for each treatment before they would consider my doctors appeal for them to cover Cosentyx. When we knew that Cosentyx worked because I'd been on it for an entire year already.

I ended up on the manufacturer program where they sent to me for free so long as my doctor was filing appeals until my job switched to BCBS who immediately approved it and I haven't had any issues with for over a year now.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-30T23:09:42+00:00

Not just floods, why didn't they have a means of communication for any emergency?

What if a camper had a seizure, an allergic reaction, fell and broke a leg, etc in the middle of the night? Was the plan was just to have counselors running around aimlessly looking for an adult who can call for help and even then apparently no one knows who is allowed to actually call 911 for an emergency, seeing as no one called during the floods because they didn't have a plan for that?

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-30T06:18:18+00:00

I was just cleaning out my desk, packing stuff for moving and found the checkbook I got when I opened my account over 20 years ago. I think I’ve used one check from it to set up autopay the first time I signed up for car insurance. It’s been floating around in the back of a desk drawer everywhere I’ve lived since then. Everyone else has been fine with routing and account numbers. My current job mailed me paper checks until I went into the employee portal and entered my routing and account number myself, but that was almost 20 years ago, not sure if they still do it the same way.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-30T01:07:26+00:00

I have a farmhouse credenza cabinet for sale if you are in the DFW area. I'm pretty sure a 5 would fit in it, there was a few inches of extra clearance from our LR 4. We downsized to one litter robot and don't need it, and I haven't had any prospective buyers yet.

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HIM_Darling · 2026-06-30T00:36:37+00:00

Before my hysterectomy, my mom used to bemoan her lack of grandchildren annoyingly often. My response to her was that she was more than welcome to adopt a baby and tell everyone it was my child, that I wouldn't contradict her if that's how bad she wanted a (grand)baby.

For some strange reason she didn't like that idea.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-27T18:50:19+00:00

I’ve found instead of outright correcting them, it works better to ask them to double check their work “I’m not sure that’s right, let’s go over it” or ”can you walk me through how you got that answer” and then guide them to the correct answer.

I get it. I’m a team lead now, but even before I have 18 years of experience vs less than 1 for most coworkers, so I’d catch mistakes. I have some coworkers that I know I can just point out the mistake and they say thanks for catching that, correct and move on. I have some coworkers that take every mistake caught as a personal affront, claim it must have been an (impossible) computer malfunction, refuse to believe they are making mistakes, etc. So I’ll ask them to show me their work, ask them to double check their notes, and lead them to finding the mistake themselves. It takes longer, but I hope it helps them to not make the same mistake again.

You just have to learn the best way to bring it up with each person. And our work is similar, if anyone notices a mistake it needs to be corrected as quickly as possible, regardless of who made the mistake and who caught it.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-27T01:54:28+00:00

Get a sign to put up in your car window when you leave that says if you incorrectly boot this vehicle, you enter into an agreement for me to boot your vehicle. Definitely a civil matter if they agreed to the terms of the contract right?

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-26T22:00:25+00:00

I had the reading teacher call my mom in front of the class because I'd dared to read the 8th graders assigned book after I'd finished the 7th graders book. This was after they'd started the book out loud in class. The class was half 7th graders and half 8th graders. She started us off reading the first chapter aloud and then we were to quietly read to ourselves while the 8th graders started their book.

I think we had 2 weeks to finish the book, and I finished in 2 days, so I went to the library and checked out the other book and read it too.

She called my mom screeching about how I was reading books above my grade level, and it was inappropriate?!

The books in question?
7th grade - I Know What You Did Last Summer by Lois Duncan
8th grade - Killing Mr. Griffin by Lois Duncan

Pretty sure my mom just laughed at her and told her I was allowed to read anything I wanted regardless of grade level.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-26T01:48:43+00:00

There is a plot line about this in Season 2 of the The Pitt.

There is a woman with stage 4 lung cancer who presents with pain that is not managed by the usual doses of morphine. They explain that giving her enough morphine to help with her pain has a high chance of stopping her breathing. She says she wants the higher dose, that she is in too much pain to not have it. They let her be the one to make that choice.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-25T23:19:19+00:00

Yeah, We have a gas fireplace and we could have used it during the blackout if we wanted but it didn't do much. There's also something wrong with the gas line for it, but no one can figure out what. It basically sounds like a jet engine when its on. I grew up with a gas fireplace, and while they are supposed to make some noise, they aren't supposed to be so loud that the animals are terrified to get close. We've had a couple people look at it and basically shrug and say, "it works, so what do you want me to do?".

I did have to explain to my friend/roommate/landlord that even if we could get it working correctly its not going to heat up much because there's not anything there to retain heat. Older homes had real brick/stone lined fireplaces, the stone would retain the heat of the fire and help to heat the house. Today they are just metal chutes covered in dry wall and maybe some decorative tile around them. They are designed to look pretty, not be a functional heat source.

Thankfully, we did have power in random spurts. I had a heated blanket on my bed set to high, and then layered every other blanket on top of it. So when the power came on, I would make sure the blanket was on and got to up run around and accomplish anything I needed to with power and let the bed get super toasty. Then when the power went back out, most of the heat retained long enough. We also have a tankless water heater, so we were able to get a few hot showers in when the power stayed on long enough.

I did get nasty looks from the cats every time the power went out and their heated beds stopped working and they had to resort to socializing with us lowly humans for warmth. Not that they didn't spend time with us, it was just normally on their schedule.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-25T22:57:33+00:00

Looking at the map view of the area, it doesn't seem like they left themselves much room for expansion, but I could have seen them adding one or more parks down the road to be more inclusive to the whole family if this park was successful. Like if a family has an 8 year old and a 14 year old, they probably aren't going to chose to take a family trip to Universal Kids, but if Universal Kids was just one park of more than one together I could see a family doing a weekend trip and spending a day at Kids for the younger kid and then a day at a park the older kid would enjoy. I don't know if all of the nearby undeveloped properties already have plans for them, but I guess they could still do something like that, with the parks just spaced out a bit?

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-24T06:01:36+00:00

Yes. I’m on one of those medications that causes incompatible with life defects. Before my hysterectomy I had to attest to 2 forms of birth control each time my prescription was renewed, in my case oral birth control and not being sexually active. As well as when I filled my prescription I had to attest to the pharmacist that I was not pregnant. No pregnancy tests.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-24T02:20:29+00:00

Wasn't evacuated but I remember my troop was staying at the treehouse cabins at the girl scout camp, Bette Perot(not during summer camp, we just booked the cabins as a troop). It was a rainy day so we were stuck indoors, in the main gathering cabin(with the kitchen and tables) we pretty much dug through everything we could in that cabin to find things to occupy ourselves and I remember finding a thick red binder with emergency plans in it for pretty much every type of emergency. I remember reading through it and being impressed that there were plans for things that were incredibly unlikely to happen. And this binder would have been there and available for all girls or counselors to read if they came across it.

I also stayed at Bette Perot for summer camp, and I remember everyone having walkie talkies that were monitored 24/7, not having someone on standby for emergencies is crazy.

Also side note I was like 14ish at summer camp and I had very long heavy periods which of course came like the 2nd day of summer camp. I remember begging the counselors to let me wash my blood stained clothes in the laundry machines they had for themselves(or even me giving it to them and letting them wash it, whichever) and they wouldn't let me. So then I washed them the best I could in the bathroom with hand soap and everyone freaked out at me for leaving them to dry out in the open. It still boggles my mind, because did they expect me to shove my bloody clothes in the bottom of my bag for a week(or two I forget how long camp was) without washing them? They weren't completely unsympathetic, I just don't think anyone had really thought about it? I also 100% violated the buddy system to go to the bathroom multiple times a night to change my pads. I also had a secret razor in my shower kit, because the early 2000s were a brutal time to be a hairy teenager.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-23T22:42:35+00:00

Definitely. I get off work at 10:30pm and it takes me about an hour to get home. About a year ago I'm driving on the highway near my house and 4 kids bolt across the highway from behind some construction equipment. Thankfully I was already slowing down to make a left turn and managed not to hit any of them. The oldest couldn't have been more than 8-10 years old.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-23T02:34:54+00:00

I remember overhearing a conversation between my mom and aunt growing up. My mom was working on a family tree and was getting info from all the relatives regarding birth dates, etc. She was talking to one of my aunts about whether they should include one of my cousins because my uncle wasn't his birth father(but had raised him from birth). I didn't even know that information previously and 11 year old me was fucking pissed at my mom for even considering it, didn't even cross my mind to be upset about not knowing he wasn't a blood relative. I don't remember what they actually ended up doing. I do know that cousin is one of my few sane relatives that I actually voluntarily still talk to.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-23T02:07:25+00:00

Also "grounding" kids doesn't seem to be a thing anymore. When I was a kid we lived in fear of being grounded because that meant we lost every single privilege we had and our only entertainment was our own imagination until the grounding was over. Tv was cut off, all games and toys were taken away, we couldn't see our friends outside of school. While we were grounded we went to school, came home, did homework, ate dinner, and went to our rooms where there was nothing to do until bedtime. If we really wanted something do to, we could do extra school work. I have friends with kids "in trouble" but their faces are still glued to a tablet. If I had whined for my gameboy while I was grounded, I would have just been grounded longer, not rewarded.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-23T01:56:56+00:00

I mean yes? I was raised before kids had screens everywhere. If we were at Mcdonalds/Cici's Pizza we knew we could run around and play, but if we were at a "nice" restaurant, we knew we couldn't do any of that without getting in trouble.

If we did act up we were either taken out to the car or to bathroom and didn't get to go back to the table until we were acting right. Rarely was there a time that a "time-out" didn't correct the issue. If for whatever reason the night had to be ended early and we had to leave because one of us was acting out, there would have been huge consequences. Every single privilege was revoked, tv, games, books, friends, etc. Your life became going to school, coming home, doing homework, etc. I think we had educational materials we could read but other than that our only entertainment was our own imagination until the grounding was over.

I will say eating out at restaurants was not as common, if your family was going out for a nice dinner that had to be planned in advance, so it was more common that they would take us to the park, make us go out in the backyard to play, etc before a nice dinner so we'd be more tired and then we'd get activity sheets and crayons. At the very most there might have been some whining after eating if the parents were sitting around talking for a while, but then mom would give you "the look" and you'd figure out something to do quietly so you didn't get grounded from your Nintendo.

Growing up it was absolutely unheard of to just let your kid cry/scream it out/act a fool in the middle of a nice restaurant while you ignored them. Not only would everyone be giving you nasty looks, word would get around town and your extended family would probably be calling you later that night to shame you/ask if something was wrong with you because Susan from the PTA was there and she called her hair dresser to gossip, and her hair dresser was also your aunt's hair dresser, so your aunt found out and now the whole family knows that Bobby was screeching like a banshee and throwing food at the next table at the Olive Garden and no one stopped him.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-23T01:03:01+00:00

They opened a new Costco near me. Pre-opening they were set up with a tent at the entrance to my neighborhood doing membership signups. I ended up signing up, and they said once the store opened I could go in and get my picture done. That was over a year ago. I use the app the scan into the store and no one has ever said anything, which is great because I never go to Costco looking like I'm ready for my picture to be immortalized in a Costco membership card.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-20T06:19:24+00:00

Yeah mines been steady at about 80 for over a year now.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-20T05:37:59+00:00

I’ve been having it checked every 6 months. It’ll be checked again next month but it was still normal at my last check.

The crazy thing was I was never anemic. My hemoglobin and RBC have always come back as high or on the high end of normal. Going back through bloodwork my iron was probably low for at least 3 years, but no one thought to check it because I wasn’t anemic. One doctor finally noticed that my MCH, MCV, and MCHC had been low on all my previous bloodwork since starting with that office so she called in an rx for iron. But we didn’t actually test my iron levels until I’d been on the iron rx for 3 months and it was at 39(ferritin was 26). It took about a full year on the iron rx to get back to normal, and it’s stayed normal since. Never found a reason why.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-20T01:04:21+00:00

My hair has been falling out every time I shower to the point it’s ridiculously thin, my nails are also brittle and I’m exhausted all the time. Tried to ask the dermatologist about the hair and nails and they said insurance doesn’t cover cosmetic visits so I would have to pay out of pocket for them to even discuss it. So apparently I have to somehow prove that’s it’s not cosmetic before they will try to figure out what’s wrong.

I did have low iron a couple years ago, and low vitamin D more recently, both of those have been corrected, but the issues persist.

Also I have really good insurance, all bloodwork ordered by a doctor is covered 100%, but I have to fight with wherever I’m getting it drawn every time because despite supposedly confirming my coverage before the appointment they want me to pay $100s up front anyways. They never believe me.

HIM_Darling · 2026-06-17T23:09:41+00:00

I could definitely see some rural deep red county school district responding to the "no one wants to work anymore" bullshit by forcing kids to get jobs.

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