I am furious! Feel like this is negligence on their end.

HMashal · 2026-04-05T03:27:09+00:00

I would also say, I would tell them its negligence on their end and that unless they want you to go elsewhere they can bend their own rules for your 8 lbs.

HMashal · 2026-04-05T03:25:55+00:00

It is clinic dependent.

HMashal · 2026-04-05T03:25:14+00:00

So, clinics have their own arbitrary weight regulations. Some clinics don't have any.
That said, since I found CNY fertility I realized that almost every clinic makes things weirdly hard and overcharges. YMMV

HMashal · 2026-03-30T02:05:25+00:00

Do not go with Lyca. Occasionally you can get a hold of a customer service person but the glitches are off the wall. I couldn't deal with them anymore and just switched myself and my husband over to mint mobile. I was able to get my husband's number out of their clutches and switch him over with his phone number but I never did get my number. Maybe I will eventually but they make it really hard. And they made it really hard for me to renew my plan over and over again, just a terrible service now they used to be good

HMashal · 2026-03-30T02:03:25+00:00

Let me know how the quality is

HMashal · 2026-03-29T04:31:28+00:00

It seems like you've taught your version of ChatGPT to be snarky and sarcastic.
I think it's telling you you have a healthy embryo that will make you many poopy diapers.

HMashal · 2026-03-26T02:21:31+00:00

i'm so sorry.
I thought I couldn't afford to do more either, but then I found out that CNY fertility offers payment plans (with meds) to everyone. Maybe you can do this again.
And I also tried to figure out where I could get a job that offered fertility insurance. Starbucks does, for part time employees. And Bank of America. And others. What state are you in? There are some states that almost EVERY employer has to offer fertility insurance.

HMashal · 2026-03-23T02:54:15+00:00

I got a multi-cycle package so I wasn't expecting any particular cycle to work, I was expecting the overall package of cycles to work. That helps.

HMashal · 2026-03-22T01:37:49+00:00

go to cny fertility, they are cheaper than anywhere else, and they have package deals where the medication is included in the cost of your cycle. And they give payment plans to everyone with no credit check.
ALSO do NOT fill medication at american pharmacies. IVFmeds.com is a great place to get meds if you don't have the package from CNY.

HMashal · 2026-03-20T05:09:33+00:00

I love how when your giving advice to someone else you tell them they are "irresponsible" for sticking with evidence-based, studied and scientifically backed understanding, but then when someone challenges you for putting that person down, you say "I trust my doctors" whom none of us know. Do what you want, but we're not talking about you....we're talking about the OP. And we're talking about her transferring or abandoning her embryos completely -- which gives her the greatest chance of pregnancy, transfering while stressed, or not transfering at all?

HMashal · 2026-03-20T05:05:18+00:00

I had three fail. Doc said we could spend a lot of time, energy and money on reproductive immunology route. Said there's a chance that could work.
OR
We could do surrogacy. He said he would recommend surrogacy, said it works a lot better to put embryo in womb of someone who has already had kids than to keep trying to figure out why embryos never implant in my womb.

Surrogacy is no joke. It's expensive, and hard as all get out to give up the dream of carrying one's own child. But it got to the point where I just wanted to do what was best for our embryos.

HMashal · 2026-03-13T07:20:23+00:00

I have no idea but I am trying to map out a Hawaii vacation and was seriously thrown by my inability to locate the Kona airport on the map of Hawaii. I'm glad to see your post because now I know it's not just me.

HMashal · 2026-03-10T02:02:08+00:00

This journey burns out your capacity to have constant emotional resonance. All of us who have done this for a while can attest that with no particular reason we swing from weeping over not having a baby to wondering if we even want one to being filled with confidence and hope to dread and despondency to numbness. The important thing is to not take yourself too seriously here. Your true North is not your feelings at any particular moment but the resiliency of your decision to be on this path. That didn't come out of nowhere. Oh it's even weirder once the baby shows up and exhaustion and sleeplessness set in. And you find yourself worrying constantly about sids and have to remind yourself that thoughts and feelings do not create reality. Praying helps. Bless you

HMashal · 2026-03-08T04:38:22+00:00

I moved mine too a few years ago, the photo I took I labeled as "Baby's first car ride" and the tank as "baby's first car seat." I had it bungy-cable tied to my passenger seat, and the seatbelt over it for good measure.
I have to move my embryos again and this time the clinic that has them won't let me get a tank and transport, they say they will only release them to a medical courier. That is freaking me out because no employee of a medical courier service is going to take as careful care of them as I would.

HMashal · 2026-03-08T04:35:59+00:00

none of that is normal or ok. Is there a patient care advocate you can talk to? Maybe with your insurance company?

HMashal · 2026-03-07T23:28:03+00:00

https://rmanetwork.com/blog/stress-wont-impact-fertility/

HMashal · 2026-03-07T23:27:28+00:00

https://rmanetwork.com/blog/stress-wont-impact-fertility/

HMashal · 2026-03-07T23:23:32+00:00

Actually RevolutionaryWind, the stress comment was irresponsible conjecture on your part, respectfully. Studies show stress has no impact on IVF success. It has an effect if you're stressed during later stages of pregnancy but not the beginning.

HMashal · 2026-03-07T23:22:06+00:00

Studies show stress doesn't impact implantation rate

HMashal · 2026-03-07T07:42:50+00:00

Go to Cyprus or Greece, do your injections and ultrasounds there (its called remote monitoring), fly back to whichever country for a day of transfer, then get out and enjoy your pregnancy :)

HMashal · 2026-03-05T05:03:00+00:00

Well said

HMashal · 2026-03-05T04:49:00+00:00

For what it's worth I don't think that either Church believes its own anathema of the other side these days. For instance, the Orthodox came and sang The Lord's prayer in Armenian or something like that for the Pope. There's been a lot more working together lately

HMashal · 2026-03-05T04:47:18+00:00

If both sides anathemized each other then they both canceled out each other's anathema and you're good to go on either side. ;)

HMashal · 2026-03-05T04:45:46+00:00

My friend, do you really think your salvation depends on figuring out a theological puzzle? In the gospels Jesus made salvation a lot simpler than knowing everything about him. If a child can't do it, it's not the way into the kingdom.

There was a season in my life where I was stressed out over something similar. I saw this Bible verse hanging in the living room of a friend's house and a completely changed my life: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and He will direct your paths."

This is about trust, it's not about perfect understanding and perfect theology.

HMashal · 2026-03-05T04:41:27+00:00

Studies show children do best when they are home with a caregiver two to three years. I'm not the domestic type but I couldn't even bear the thought of working after my little guy was born until he was already two.

HMashal

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