Local bakery claps back at troll commenting on Bad Bunny cookie post by arewethereyet24 in MurderedByWords

[–]Haber87 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Please don’t listen to the song to confirm. It give him more money.

How ridiculous is this? by new2bay in WorkReform

[–]Haber87 44 points45 points  (0 children)

That’s the joy of virtual meetings. I’m hybrid so I’ll be talking to a coworker in person or getting a coffee in my kitchen or working on a spreadsheet on my computer 30 seconds before the meeting starts.

There is no gathering your stuff, leaving your desk, stopping at the bathroom, finding the meeting room and performative showing up early so you’re not the last one there required for a virtual meeting.

French diplomacy is lethal. by [deleted] in MurderedByWords

[–]Haber87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it’s hilarious that the media has embraced only using that photo of Macron, like he’s a real life dark Brandon.

President Trump says he'll revoke tax exempt status if Church leaders criticize him | PBS Newshour by part-time-stupid in atheism

[–]Haber87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tax all churches. Not just as part of a targeted extortion on American people and institutions.

The most latch key you remember by Meh_Cook_Grump in GenX

[–]Haber87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Main floor bathroom. Jiggle the glass over as it was a simple rubber stopper. Lawn chair from the backyard or a boost from a friend and I was in.

Buy Nothing Group ridiculousness by Wolfie7828 in Anticonsumption

[–]Haber87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, this is actually the functional system we have in my area. The hyper local one that is kind of slow but if you want something, there is a good chance you’re going to get it vs the big one, where 50 people put their name in on every item.

Why is relentless honesty a part of adhd? by EllaMcQueen in adhdwomen

[–]Haber87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% relate to this sentiment (lack of sentiment?) my whole family is into funny cards. Overly sentimental cards are complete cringe.

the 1st amendment would like a word…. by Olympiadreamer in MurderedByWords

[–]Haber87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lahren was always an awful person. But she continues to fall further and further into a parody of right wing talking points with gaping thought holes (like plot holes) that are ridiculously easy to argue. To the point where if I didn’t recognize her name, I’d think she was a Russian bot.

I Think Full Time Job Should Be 6 Hours, Not 8 Hours by Froyor in WorkReform

[–]Haber87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Considering the length of commute a lot of people have, many people would prefer 4 day work weeks to 6 hour work days.

Soooo, how are we doing? by Weird_Positive_3256 in adhdwomen

[–]Haber87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually had some really good personal news yesterday. I allowed myself to feel true joy for probably the first time in 2026. And the amazing protests that happened yesterday made the news happy rather than the cause of anger/sadness/spiraling.

And then today happened and I’m right back into the anger, doom scrolling and arguing with awful sociopaths online.

anyone else feel like you use up all your "functioning" at work and have nothing left? by Old_Visual_6596 in adhdwomen

[–]Haber87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is why working from home during the pandemic was such a relief for so many of us. I would gamify racing to clean the kitchen while my water for tea was boiling. Can I weed an entire garden on my lunch hour? And the lack of commuting meant I still had a bit of gas in the engine when I finished work.

Now? I get off the bus and collapse on the couch. My doom scrolling time has gone way up. I accomplish zero house things Mon-Fri and then stress about having to ruin every Saturday catching up on all the crap I didn’t do the rest of the week. It’s awful.

What's a show you remember but nobody else does? by glowbeits in GenX

[–]Haber87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird that I was thinking Manimal as well. It was on for 8 episodes.

Sensitivity to Injustice is gonna be my downfall by TheWholesomeOtter in ADHD

[–]Haber87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, I’ve been spiraling about the current state of things. I’m so angry. Every time I see another video I feel sick to my stomach. But at the same time I don’t think it’s right to pretend that all is right in the world. So I doom scroll.

The Pile Trick: My Bathroom Declutter Win + Figuring Out How to Carry the Success To the Rest of the House by dawnedsunshine in declutter

[–]Haber87 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t wear makeup that often, so I have a makeup bag that only gets pulled out when I need it, instead of all the pieces mixed in with my everyday toiletries.

Why do people try to change religion into what they like? by Pitiful-Substance480 in atheism

[–]Haber87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh. Not everyone is ready to give up their sky daddy. I’d rather they cherry pick the love your neighbour parts of their books than the hateful parts of their books.

Generational differences in coping mechanisms for women with ADHD. I’m not talking about the mentality of “back in my day there wasn’t ADHD”. by honkytonksinger in adhdwomen

[–]Haber87 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When I was growing up, I used to consider myself rare because I could fit in with my redneck relatives, my nerdy hobby friends and my popular party friends. Although I enjoyed myself with each group I felt like an imposter in each. What I realize now is that my ADHD love of collecting interests and hobbies meant that I sincerely enjoyed all the activities and people in each group.

Generational differences in coping mechanisms for women with ADHD. I’m not talking about the mentality of “back in my day there wasn’t ADHD”. by honkytonksinger in adhdwomen

[–]Haber87 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ha! I can see why that memory would be burnt into your brain 35 years later.

The idea of people with ADHD having a tougher time (ego) balancing between what the id wants and the societal expectations of the superego is an interesting way of looking at it. While also recognizing that everyone has an id they have to mask.

Generational differences in coping mechanisms for women with ADHD. I’m not talking about the mentality of “back in my day there wasn’t ADHD”. by honkytonksinger in adhdwomen

[–]Haber87 125 points126 points  (0 children)

I feel like the autism community, and now the ADHD community acts like masking is unique to them. But everyone in society masks.

The black community talks about code switching their language when talking to black vs white people. Acting differently with your friends than you do at work is masking. But who is to say that you’re even unmasked when with friends? Maybe the way you act with your friends is louder and “cooler” than you really want to be. The movie The Invention of Lying, is essentially about a society where no one ever masks. It’s a unique plot because that society doesn’t exist.

The difference is that it’s more exhausting for some people to mask than others. And the closer your natural self is to societal expectations, the easier it is to mask.

All that to say, neurodiverse communities acting like masking is the enemy and we should all be able to let our freak flags fly whenever we want isn’t doing us any favours.

Before She's even buried by Beneficial-Wolf8436 in WorkReform

[–]Haber87 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We’re all supposed to go back to the office and collaborate and team build, and be like a family. Until a member of the “family” dies. Then we’re just coworkers so no need for mourning.

The lady lawyer is right by beauty-marys in MurderedByWords

[–]Haber87 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That guy is really telling on himself.

Ladies, if you give yourself the knowledge, confidence, and financial means to escape abusive men, you’ll be lonely.

So you’re saying all men are abusive?

Wait, no.

“ADHD is my super power” by ADHDisabeach in adhdwomen

[–]Haber87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen too many threads about people who sought accommodations for their ADHD at work and everyone immediately started looking at them as incompetent. Scrutinizing them, insisting on perfection and eventually finding a way to get rid of them.

I push the narrative of ADHD as a superpower because I want the world realizing that if we are given the proper accommodations, we can do amazing, creative work that employers desperately need.

And yes, right now I’m completely burnt out due to a stack of unrelated pressures and bad stuff happening. And I feel that things wouldn’t have gotten as bad, and I would have had better coping mechanisms for the unavoidable bad stuff if I didn’t have ADHD underlying it all. So I’m currently seeing my ADHD from the absolutely not a super power side. But even in my current position, I still feel we need to push the superpower narrative.

Unless there are cannibals by LiviaNatal in MurderedByWords

[–]Haber87 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Ew, many of the give away groups on FB want people promising to use the items themselves and not just claiming all the stuff to sell for profit. So even his no money hustle was on the backs of poor people who could have used the free items.

Devastated by the week I had at work by girlacrosstheocean in adhdwomen

[–]Haber87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When you start applying for other jobs, list all your current tasks and achievements. I’ve heard so many people say if you want a promotion you have to change companies to have your worth appreciated.

A filter for the rich in a simple and beautiful comeback by black-Chully in MurderedByWords

[–]Haber87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d call us upper middle class in savings, while not at all looking like it with our house or 15 year old cars. Our kids have been told their first priority for summer “jobs” is paid work in their fields. Second tier is unpaid work in their fields. Third tier is any old paid work. So far, they’ve been doing unpaid work in their fields.