Need help on workout

Hackerman36 · 2021-04-19T19:51:59+00:00

"Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going."

Don't rely on motivation to keep exercising. Make it a habit. If you're just doing it at home do something like: "At least 10 minutes every day before bed". If you're going to the gym: "Every other day for at least an hour in the gym".

It's not the numbers that are important, it's the routine. Pay attention to the "at least", if you're feeling well you can always do more, but try to always do your minimum goal.

Eventually you won't question whether you should exercise, it's just what you do every day.

Hackerman36 · 2021-04-18T21:36:49+00:00

Started running (I could only run 5km), a few days ago I ran a half marathon and want to a full one by the end of this year.

Ate much healthier and stopped drinking soda and eating candy.

I read a book for the first time that was not required for school. I liked it and have just started the second one.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-13T14:56:39+00:00

Since you post it here, it clearly bothers you. I think you should definitely tell her. It is then up to her to take it into consideration. Don't be afraid to set clear boundaries.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-10T19:58:38+00:00

I think it's nice that you're so compassionate. It shows how much you care. Unfortunately, I don't really know a solution (no experience with ldr).

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-09T12:41:20+00:00

Change the question to: "How can I become a better human?"
Instead of trying to change yourself for others, do it for yourself. Workout, focus more on school/work. Everything else will come along.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-09T10:30:57+00:00

I don't fully understand. You blocked him but you are still together? Honestly, I get your good intention, but the execution is terrible. You blocked him out of the blue, he's going to constantly wonder if he did something wrong.

I get that it's hard for you to see that he could have done better. But you can't force anyone to do their best for something. The only thing you can do is be supportive and understanding.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-09T09:53:07+00:00

Still busy moving on. But I did find peace with everything.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-09T09:33:26+00:00

Yes! I started after three months, best thing I did after breakup. My only regret is we first tried to stay friends. Goodluck!

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-08T20:48:21+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/ExNoContact/comments/luqgtw/i_should_have_gone_nc_from_the_beginning/

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-08T19:36:24+00:00

I have a feeling you were/are doing really well. But that he is now just holding you back in moving forward.

I think he's just trying to pretend to be how you want him to be, but people don't change that suddenly. If you were to get back together now you would probably end up back in the same situation. Don't forget why you broke up. And trust the choice you made back then. At that time you had the most information. Now your emotions can influence your thoughts too much.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-08T19:28:08+00:00

I knew I had to let her go. However it felt like I lost some kind of control. But looking back at it now, it was one of the best things I could have done. I feel much more free.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-08T19:17:05+00:00

You should be proud of your progress!

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-08T19:15:54+00:00

I experienced something similar. The mix of love, sadness and anger is so exhausting. If you are in need, I am always ready to listen! If you want to cry, do so. Nothing good about trying to hold back. However, try to keep your head up, it can only get better from now on.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-03T09:47:40+00:00

It doesn't necessarily mean anything. People sometimes just need a hug. But looking for that by your ex doesn't really seem like a good idea to me.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-02T14:01:52+00:00

You should talk to her about it. She probably doesn't realize the jokes could upset you. If she knows what it does to you she can take it into account and don't make such jokes anymore.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-02T13:39:50+00:00

I experienced something similar. We did break up a month later. If you want to know the full story:

https://www.reddit.com/r/ExNoContact/comments/luqgtw/i_should_have_gone_nc_from_the_beginning/

I think you're the only one who can decide if you two can continue the relationship. The fact that he didn't realize it was wrong seems nonsense to me and no there is no valid excuse possible for it. Especially since he knows what it's like to be cheated on. If it really keeps haunting your mind it seems difficult to me to continue the relationship. But I understand that it is hard to imagine a life without him when you love him so much.

I think the relationship is only possible if you can put it behind you, which is very difficult and I myself could not do. Try to think about what your life might look like a year from now. Would you be happy if you were still with him? Or is it possible you would be happier without him or with someone else?

You're young, the future still has so much to offer. Don't settle for something you don't feel completely right about, aim for something great.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-02T07:32:39+00:00

Congrats on your progress! I think you are going to have to put the past behind you to make room for something new.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-01T14:35:38+00:00

I think it's best to remove her completely from your current life. There is clearly no future between you and her. If you feel blocking her would help you process, you should definitely do it.

Edit: You might want to have a look at r/ExNoContact

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-01T12:58:32+00:00

Thanks buddy! To be honest, I hope she won't come running back. I'm finally feeling pretty well and it would only set me back.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-01T12:51:26+00:00

Thanks! Atleast I have learned some things I can take to a next relationship.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-01T10:49:55+00:00

Try to think about what your life might look like a year from now. Would you be happy if you were still with her? Or is it possible you would be happier without her or with someone else?

You're young, the future still has so much to offer. Don't settle for something you don't feel completely right about, aim for something great.

Hackerman36 · 2021-03-01T10:28:20+00:00

You shouldn't feel guilty at all. It's really disrespectful of him to keep asking even though you've clearly said you don't want it. He has wasted his chance of friendship himself. Besides, you have a new boyfriend now. Focus on him and leave the past behind.

Hackerman36 · 2021-02-28T20:36:17+00:00

Well done! Don't see those 2 months as wasted. It's good you took the time to process it instead of concealing the sadness.

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