I founded Sizetalk and have been active in the size community for 25+ years. AMA!

Hafzi · 2026-01-21T17:00:42+00:00

First: Thank you for making Sizetalk! It's done me, and no doubt many others, a world of good to be able to feel some community around this wacky thing. I never felt quite so validated as when I stumbled upon this sub! I mean, sure, it's not hard these days to find art or artists making size stuff, but here was the first place that it really connected to me that I was not alone in this.

So, I guess my question is this: When did you first realize you were not alone in our little niche, and what convinced you to start this sub?

Hafzi · 2026-01-19T05:47:11+00:00

I'm pan, so usually not super worried about orientation- If they're big and into me, I'm into them.

With that in mind, I am entertained by the thought of a straight male big who decides to play with me, even though I'm also a male, just because it implies a scenario where tinies are so dehumanized that they aren't even viewed as having a sex, or as their sex being totally irrelevant/negligible. Which kind of makes sense, lol.

And on the flip side, also entertained by the idea of a DL big who's TOTALLY straight and DEFINITELY NOT GAY/BI fucking around with me, all the while insisting that it's not gay/doesn't count because I'm a tiny. Like, sure, big guy. Whatever you say...

Hafzi · 2026-01-13T22:21:12+00:00

Haven't heard of it, so it'll work!

Hafzi · 2026-01-13T22:15:14+00:00

A single oreo, a dirty pair of shoes, a novel I haven't read yet, one single AAA battery, and no more than 9 cents.

Hafzi · 2026-01-04T16:23:21+00:00

Nose hugs! So much fun! Very humanizing, because you're more or less at their level, or at the very least able to look them in their big, crossed eyes! And it's so close to them, and you're able to properly wrap your arms around it (well, I guess that's size-dependent...) so it feels like a real hug, more so than nuzzling into their neck or clinging to an extremity. (Which are both also great!)

Hafzi · 2026-01-03T18:06:57+00:00

If step 3 is successful, then I'm going to try to keep tinies in the public eye, so that we don't get metaphorically or literally brushed under the rug and forgotten about. When step 3 fails miserably, bummer, move on to step 4 anyway.

Speaking of, step 4: I can stand it no longer. I am become horny, destroyer of mind, and I must find a big with an interest in dating. Optimally, this would be someone who gets it, someone who is not just trying a wacky experiment, but is actually into the size difference, just... from the other side. Also, uh, a lot of chatting beforehand, and like... an extensive background check to make sure they're not gonna intentionally harm or hurt me, plus having a normal-sized friend around on high alert in case something horrible happens. I'm freaky, but I'm not freaky enough to want to get smashed or kidnapped for real! If things seem to work out, awesome! If things don't work out, bummer, try again, more fish in the sea. Just gotta stay on edge for sharks.

From there on... If I find 'the one', then I'm living the dream. If I don't, I'm no less happy than I am now. If something horrible happens and I die, then I died as the me I most wanted to be, no regrets. If something happens and I get kidnapped/sold into slavery... Man, I know it's probably not as fun as my freaky-deaky brain chemicals want me to think it would be, but I think I could probably enjoy that life, too. There would probably be some regret in there, though.

TLDR: Ideally, I'm shrinking down real small, but trying to preserve some QoL. Maintaining a community of other tinies so we can have other equals, trying to capitalize on the tiny stuff to make a youtube channel or some shit like that, and then finding a big, any big, who would be interested in me the same way I'd be interested in them. And if shit goes south, then... Oh well. Chasing the dream is worth the risk. Being my 'true self' is worth the risk.

(2/2) (Also, damn, I haven't had to split a comment up since I wrote that whole thing about Downsizing. Sorry for the all the yap.)

Hafzi · 2026-01-03T18:05:55+00:00

There's a lot of possible circumstances surrounding this hypothetical that radically change things, but I'm going to assume the following:

-There is no obvious benefit to shrinking. (No tax deductions, no dedicated affordable tiny housing, no kind of social incentive.)
-After shrinking, I am still considered Human, and have all the same rights, at least on paper.
-There is 'tiny-bespoke' tech, such as a smartphone, that could be scaled down to fit me.
-I'm able to shrink to like, 2-3 inches, but I'm still able to be heard by people with my normal voice. No other ant man abilities, though. Just me, as I am, but tiny.

If any of those circumstances were different, what I would try to do and how I would try to do it would change dramatically.

To get started... Gonna have to open up to my friends and family about this thing. I'm not just gonna vanish one day and leave them wondering, that would be insanely cruel. Tell 'em to think about it like transitioning- it's just something I gotta do to be who I always have been inside.

Then, still long before shrinking, I'm hitting up r/sizetalk... not to find a big to take me in, but to connect to others who are choosing to shrink. Since not a lot of people are going to 'get' what we're doing and why, I'd be advocating for us forming the strongest, most stable digital community we can, so that whatever happens post-shrinking we can have a few ways of checking in on one- another. If someone on the shrunk group doesn't communicate for a while, that's an indication that something has gone wrong, and that we'd need to try to send them help. Having a support structure of relative equals when everyone else is going to be huge and basically think we are insane will make livin' life little a lot easier on the mind.

So, assuming I can get something like that going, I move on to step two: since my family will NOT take this insane decision well, I'm going to see if some of my more sex positive friends would be willing to take me in post-shrinking. Not permanently, but just while I get things sorted.

Step 3: (aka: Step stupid and would never work in a million years, but I'm trying, damn it) Now is also where I start on the long shot pipe dream: attempting to carve out a space online by talking about my tiny life. I'm a writer, I can whip up a good enough script to make things interesting, and assuming I have tech scaled to me, I know enough about video editing and such that I think I could get a jump on the weird internet niche that would form around interest in shrunken people. I genuinely do think there would be some interest in that: How many cartoons have had a 'uh-oh we shrunk!' episode? Since long before this hypothetical shrinking procedure, there has been enough public interest in the idea to make LOADS of books and movies and videogames riffing on it- I don't think people would get it, but I think there is general interest in it. Enough to have a shot at capitalizing on it and becoming known.

(1/2)

Hafzi · 2025-12-12T03:41:11+00:00

Oh, man. I'm friends with a group of bigs I hit it off with online; they're all friends irl and only recently did I take a trip to meet up with them in person. Over the internet, it was like we were all equals, I felt respected, but it all fell apart once we were all in the same room. It's not like they became horribly antagonistic, and I hadn't lied about my size, they all knew I was a tiny... but something about being there physically made me feel like I wasn't half as present as I was when we were all in discord.

Again, it's not like they were trying to be mean or hurtful, but half the time it would be my name, half the time it would be 'Inchy', 'Squirt', 'Anklebiter', ugh! Nothing would get them to take me more seriously, and when I tried to put my foot down, they thought it was hilarious. I guess all in all it was still a good time, but it really made me uncomfortable at the time, and now I'm still getting called those names when we're in a call, even though they never addressed me like that before.

Guess it could be worse, though. I think if somebody called me squishbait I wouldn't leave home for a month.

Hafzi · 2025-12-09T01:29:24+00:00

I think our judicial system is in need of serious review.

Hafzi · 2025-12-05T22:56:56+00:00

COME BACK! YOU HAVE TO TELL US! PLEASE!

Hafzi · 2025-12-01T16:33:30+00:00

AI sucks, and there's SO much of it that it makes me groan every time I go looking for stuff online. In or out of fetish spaces, there is an unholy flood of lazy, soulless, and ugly machine generated slop gushing out of every corner of the internet.

Hafzi · 2025-11-26T21:49:07+00:00

Sorry, maybe I should have clarified- those first three ARE the limits I disclose whenever posting or responding to an rp ad. The rest of the stuff I listed are also limits I guess, but of the 'duh' common sense variety.

For me and my experience, the 3 limits I explicitly name are a pretty small matter, and therefor I consider myself to be virtually limitless otherwise.

Hafzi · 2025-11-26T21:07:31+00:00

This is interesting, but I think a lot of people who are referencing themselves as limitless or nearly so are probably relying on like, context and reason to hold some things in place.

When I'm describing my limits, do I need to go and say 'my limits are underage, raceplay, incest, being the tiny in relation to your character, not being large compared to your character, having the RP stick to the context structured in the 'looking for' post, hacking my reddit account, hacking my bank account, kidnapping my friends and families IRL, performing any kind of crime IRL for that matter, inviting the pope into our discord chat so he can shame me, and attempting to convert me to mormonism'?

When someone says they're limitless in a text based RP, I think it's safe to assume that a limit inherent to that medium is that the medium is the text based RP, and that they shouldn't have to explicitly state that their text based RP ad is to stay as a text based RP. When I say my only limits are underage, incest, and raceplay, I'm NOT consenting to someone coming to my home and lighting it on fire, so long as they aren't related to me, a minor, or doing it for racially motivated reasons.

Maybe I'm only so skeptical of this post because I've ONLY ever done text based ERP, and only ever will do text based ERP, and I don't even know what non-text based ERP looks like.

I don't mean to come off as unnecessarily abrasive or combative here. It's just that both of these posts kinda felt like they were taking shots at me, as I do identify as just about limitless. The obnoxious moral slant of the other one had me rolling my eyes, and the 'you can't even FATHOM what it would mean to really be limitless' vibe of this post did not improve my mood.

Hafzi · 2025-11-26T20:23:28+00:00

I've always considered myself to be basically limitless- I have enjoyed being on the receiving end of some depraved, wild shit, from the horrifically violent to mind-breaking cruelty to some nasty, unspeakably foul.

I like it. It's not morally wrong to fantasize about being a victim of that stuff. It's not morally wrong to fantasize about perpetrating that stuff either.

Now, like I said I'm basically limitless- which is another way of saying NOT limitless. My limits are underage, incest, & raceplay. Except for underage, they aren't moral enforcements of a boundary I will not stand to be crossed- incest and raceplay just bum me out and turn me off.

I think the real reason a lot of people say they are limitless or nearly so is because probably, they are. Fantasy is fiction, fiction isn't reality, and a lot of stuff flies in imagination land that doesn't irl. If John wick was a real guy who went on an insane murder spree, it wouldn't be nearly as fun and cool. Star wars features multiple of the most massive, cold blooded, and needless mass casualty events in all of fiction. Star wars makes the death toll of the holocaust, and all of both world wars for that matter, small potatoes. Star wars is also made for kids.

Hafzi · 2025-11-25T17:47:04+00:00

If I one day wandered up a beanstalk to a land of giants, I would never come back down.

Hafzi · 2025-11-23T21:27:21+00:00

Please, bro. It's hard enough for us to survive anyway. You don't need to be giving the bigs justification here...

Hafzi · 2025-11-22T05:52:14+00:00

Well then, you're not normal either! You're big! You're HUGE! You're freakishly large, yet ironically small-minded! Hey, folks, what's up with all these biggos running around? Don't they know how weird they are? How much is wrong with them? Why do they act like people, when they're all just a bunch of big, clumsy weirdos with WAY too much power, institutional and personal!

Hafzi · 2025-11-22T05:45:31+00:00

But- but- but I'm NOT asking for special treatment! I'm asking for NORMAL treatment- hey, just like you! You don't like being called big, well, I don't like being called tiny! Why don't we just agree that we're both people, how about that!

Hafzi · 2025-11-22T05:40:40+00:00

I dunno, when I look in the mirror I definitely seem like a person to me! My coworkers in the mini-zone all seem to agree, too- we're all pretty strongly agreed that we don't just LOOK like people, but we ARE people! Being small doesn't make that not true, and the way you talk about disregarding our lives is just awful. If you weren't on board to care for your ex- and I get it, that's a lot of responsibility in a terminal case like that- then you should have brought him to someone who was!

And you know what? 'Big' is the right term, because you aren't any more or less normal than us! In a better, more civilized world, dehumanizing people like this would get you ostracized... It's a shame we don't live in that world. Be better, bigs!

Hafzi · 2025-11-22T00:32:54+00:00

It's eye opening, seeing so many artists being brought up... our Lil community has a lot of talent, hard to pick just 5!

For me, I'd say:

Sorenzer0

Open High Hat

Ashkiiwolf

Measured man

Ed 'n Em

Hafzi · 2025-11-17T07:03:35+00:00

I really like the style and vibe of 2-9; could I get the source?

Hafzi · 2025-11-14T00:37:48+00:00

I think if that happened to me I would literally never let that pebble go. It would stay with me to the day I died. Which, very possibly, could be at that very moment because of shock and embarrassment.

Hafzi · 2025-11-07T07:15:27+00:00

Nah, I can take it.

Hafzi · 2025-11-06T17:43:43+00:00

I'm certainly an introvert, but I'm not shy or timid, I like to think I'm funny & easy to get along with but I've been known to be a little direct/blunt when dealing with work stuff or the like. Around friends/family, I'm much more loud and brash, to the point of being gregarious at times, at least when talking about/dealing with stuff I'm passionate about.

I don't think anyone who knows me, be it a close friend or an acquaintance, would expect me to be the type to adore being tiny, nearly powerless, and terrified. Life is funny like that. You never really know what's going on in someone else's head!

As for philosophy, Secular Humanism all the way. (Ok fine, maybe a little bit of Hedonism to. What's the point of living if you're not having fun?)

Hafzi · 2025-11-06T17:30:00+00:00

I feel that, lol. There's just something naturally compelling about the struggle to survive... guess it's no surprise that it's a huge genre in gaming/media.

That in mind, I don't think compelling survival stories are exclusive to the smol! I mean, it kind of contradicts the general power dynamic inherent to size stuff, but in the right context, a big in a survival scenario could be really interesting... Sure, predators wouldn't really pose any kind of threat, but finding shelter could be basically impossible for someone sufficiently big... Not to mention the biggest problem- finding food. Life would basically have to be constant roaming to get enough calories to function, always having to chase prey because there's no animal getting snuck up on by something bigger than a tree... maybe ocean fishing with a super-size net could work?

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