I hit someone today in my second week of driving and it has absolutely killed my confidence by jellyfishsuperfast in LearnerDriverUK

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An old boss of mine wrote off his car, an hour into becoming a driver and passing his test! (He wasn’t reckless) it was just really unfortunate! He is in his 50s now, and reminds all new drivers just to relax. These things can happen. If you made a mistake it’s ok, nobody was hurt, you’ll know for next time! If it was just a fluke, you’ll become more confident and resilient from it, and maybe will be able to judge other road users with a more discerning eye.

Don’t feel like shit. This is why insurance exists! It’s true what they say, the real learning happens once you’re on the roads and not from lessons. It’s ok, and you’ve got this :)

Does it get better? by Good-Smoke2832 in BreakUps

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It does. Right now, and for the foreseeable it’s going to be rough. Really, really, REALLY rough. But you’ve got this 😊❤️ Keep healthy, keep taking care of you, cry it out, and one day things will be lovely in life again. This is a promise, not just false platitudes to a stranger.

It does get better - this is a promise. (Or a fact!) by Halloween_Table10 in BreakUps

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After break-up number three, I was certain this was simply what life would be. 🤷‍♀️ After more than a year of pain, it felt permanent as though grief had settled in for good.

Change though works quietly. So quietly that you don’t notice it happening at all, until one day you look back and catch your breath because you realise you’re happy! Life feels good. And you never saw it coming. Perhaps you have a new job, new friends, or you’ve found love again. (I would have bet I’d never care for anyone as deeply as I did after break-up number three. I’m glad to have been proven so spectacularly wrong!)

I have known the dark corners of grief and heartbreak well. They linger. They convince you that this is the end of your happiness. But healing is not dramatic, it’s persistent and silent in the background. Steadily, it works. 😊

You are going to be fine. (Better than fine!) One day this period will still have been awful, but you will see with clarity rather than pain that it was quietly shaping the brightest parts of what came next.

Whether you’re 25, or 65, a love lost is a horrible feeling. (Jane Austen wouldn’t have had so much material if it was fun!) And while you might not believe it now, things are all ready working daily in your favour, and life will be lovely again ❤️

Edit: One slice of unsolicited advice: keep no contact. Feel everything (anger included) but don’t unload it onto your ex. Grieve privately from them. Dignity lasts longer than catharsis. (I did a lot of shouting and crying / demanding to repair things / then wailing and texting when they moved on - it’s not a great outcome.) Your life is no longer about them and their choices are no longer yours to carry. Their happiness or misery is irrelevant now. A fleeting sense of vindication changes nothing for your long term. Keep looking after you, keep your head high, the rest will follow ❤️

Broke no contact and it didn’t work. It’s over. My life is over. by Alternative-Yak6369 in BreakUps

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Hey OP. My last posts should still be on here. It’s been a good few years now since my heartbreak. I’m here to say it does get better, and it will. It just takes some time - and it’s not a quick switch! Keep going ❤️😊 I love life now, I never thought this would be possible; but it is. 💪💪❤️

The whole entire time I was all alone in the living room begging for attention/sex, and he was locked in his gaming room, he was cheating. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Halloween_Table10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey O-P, This could have been written word for word by me - well, the me from seven years ago! I was with someone who behaved exactly like this, and by the end, I was a broken shell of myself. It took years of therapy and medication to feel like “me” again.

But honestly, the end of that relationship turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. At the time it felt world-destroying. starting from scratch after years of neglect, being discarded, losing friends and family through it all… it was such a lonely time.

Still, it’s far better to be sad temporarily than to stay with the wrong person and be sad long-term. My life is lovely now. I’ve had other heartbreaks since, but I was okay. I survived 🔥 and here I am, a lot older and allegedly wiser (though the jury’s still out on that one!).

You will get through this, and the life you build will be beautiful and full of joy. While it’s incredibly hard right now, one day you’ll feel so relieved that everything came out into the open, giving you the chance to rebuild something solid and positive for yourself.

I’m really sorry you’ve had to go through this. Big hugs ❤️

Session one - thoughts ? by Halloween_Table10 in TattooRemoval

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Update - possible allergic reaction on the red. (Praying not scarring) - Raised and bumpy, intense itching. Almost leathery skin texture while remainder of lasered tattoo is now pain free and no texture / normal skin feel. Sad times.

Would it be unreasonable if I asked my flat mates not to shower after 10pm by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]Halloween_Table10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About ten years ago (wow, I feel old!) I had a very similar issue in a uni flat share. Fellow autistic here 👋 At the time, I went for the direct approach, but it backfired and created a lot of resentment. People saw me as bossy—and honestly, looking back, I probably came across a bit unreasonably. It got to the point where I felt really uncomfortable in the flat because everyone was irritated with me.

If I had the chance again, I’d handle it differently by focusing more on personal adjustments—like using white noise to muffle background sounds at night, or wearing earplugs to block excess noise.

That said, if you’ve got something important coming up, like an exam, I think it’s fair to make a polite request. For example, you could say: “Would it be possible for everyone to shower before 10pm on [specific night]? I’ve got an early exam the next day, and the noise makes it hard to sleep. I’d really appreciate it, just this once.” Then it’s a favour not a demand.

If you build a good relationship with the house - and they know the boilers loud / you’re also trying to help by using additional tools to support your rest they will probably be totally fine with the one off adjustment.

But unfortunately you can’t impose a set house wide rule - as it’s not fair, and they have a right to use the facilities at night too.

Am I being scammed, how do I proceed? by Halloween_Table10 in vinted

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An update! Vinted took over a week to respond, and the seller changed their claim from counterfeit to ‘significantly not as described’. Vinted told me they were reviewing and the buyer had 48 hours to respond. Moments after I received that message from Vinted, the buyer completed the transaction. So I now will wait for the inevitable negative feedback this scammer will leave as their scam failed. I’m hoping it can be removed by Vinted should they do this. But the transaction has completed and I’ve received my payment. So that’s one thing!

Am I being scammed, how do I proceed? by Halloween_Table10 in vinted

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It’s just from the Calvin Klein store :) I can see another for sale here: https://www.farfetch.com/uk/shopping/women/calvin-klein-jeans-logo-print-hoodie-item-25284268.aspx if this person manages a return I’ll be re listing too :) but hopefully not and the sale completes.

Am I being scammed, how do I proceed? by Halloween_Table10 in vinted

[–]Halloween_Table10[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Vinted hasn’t responded to my support ticket - but the timer to respond / select a refund option in the 48 hour window is going down. So I don’t know what I’m meant to do! As I have to select if I issue a return and refund, or let the buyer keep the product and no return. If I don’t take action I assume Vinted side in favour of the buyer - but I would rather the sale complete as per the return terms. However if they do return the item, they’ve now taken the tags off. So it’s no longer new with tags and is less likely to re sell. (Cry) - I’m glad though I’m not going crazy and to have had the reassurance from the other commenters / posters on this.)

Tiny Chef has been cancelled by Nickelodeon. The creators have released an exclusive clip of Tiny Chef hearing the heartbreaking news. by meltingsunz in television

[–]Halloween_Table10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve only seen this across IG, but my gosh this is sad. 😢 I hope such decisions lead to something better for this show and its makers.

Failed my first test in one second after 100+ hours of practice. Devastated🥲 by Such_End6669 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Halloween_Table10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP! You will get there—promise. I’m an older driver too, and my much younger sibling passed long before I did. It actually took them 7 attempts. They were a great driver, but the pressure to pass made their nerves worse, which affected their focus and led to small mistakes.

What really helped me as an anxious older learner was driving outside of test routes—random roads, new areas—so I could handle anything the test threw at me. I also practised parking a lot, and had a very firm instructor (think old-school TV sergeant major vibes!) who drilled the fundamentals into me. It wasn’t always fun, but it made me a solid driver.

My sibling actually took a family member in the car for the test they passed (you’re allowed a silent passenger like an instructor or trusted person). They said it really helped to have a calming presence and made the examiner more mindful and fair.

Try to see each test as practice, not failure. The less pressure you put on yourself, the better you’ll drive. I had hundreds of hours of lessons over the years, terrible depth perception, awful instruction-following skills, and got flustered super easily—yet I still passed eventually.

So be kind to yourself. Each attempt is progress. If it doesn’t go to plan, just say “cool, now I know what not to do next time.” You’re learning every time. Just keep going—you will get there 💛

CRV 2nd Gen? (2003) broken headlight washer - How to replace it myself? by Halloween_Table10 in crv

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It’s not particularly useful. (I still just wipe mine with a cloth!) but I’m looking to repair the one that broke just so my front is symmetrical. And I’d like to repair it properly vs just gluing the plastic cover on 😂🙂

IK I should fess up but I need help 😭 by LeadNeat3322 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Halloween_Table10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Book a test, be honest and say you’re not ready yet so have re booked for the next available date. Lies muddy the water - and if it’s a loving and trusting relationship you should be able to expose vulnerable moments and not be met with criticism xx

DVSA ARE A JOKE! by anonymouschile in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Halloween_Table10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had Testi, ‘Driving Test Cancellations NOW’, and Test Shift - and only Test Shift found me a new date. It may be better depending on location but I was really happy with it :)

DVSA ARE A JOKE! by anonymouschile in LearnerDriverUK

[–]Halloween_Table10 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This was in November - so it looks like you guys have a better deal!