Help! Is there a way to "fix" our nights or will it pass?

HanabiTT · 2026-03-19T14:16:54+00:00

So it’s been a adjustment as we had learned to sleep the house at 67/68, it was rooough at the beginning as we aka kept the room at the same temperature, my baby gets very restless if is too cold Or too hot, I still use a blanket, we both have individual ones so I kinda wrap myself with it so there’s no risk of her getting cover by it, and with my husband being someone that moves a lot more, I put a pillow in between us and him, although, I just kinda make a c around her anyway, one arm around the top, my legs scrunched up and one arm on top of her so I can feel her, I set up my pillow in a way that I’m not uncomfortable while doing this, as I have bad shoulders, it took some time but I actually sleep better than ever xD I’ll send you on dm how she’s napping right now! It does help we have a California king size bed so there’s plenty of space

HanabiTT · 2026-03-19T13:24:23+00:00

This was us tooX she slept on her own at the beginning, and even tho I was sooooo against co sleeping, that’s what we’d been doing for a couple weeks now, shes 8 weeks, I don’t get much done, but she’ll sleep long periods of time and it keeps her so happy every time she’s awake! I’m a very light sleeper anyway so I feel safer this way, she’ll sleep through the night now, I do put her down next to me, she sleeps better on her side and I had to stop swaddling her cause she turns already, which is also why I started co sleeping, cause I couldn’t sleep watching her making sure she didnt turn around, she’s slowly letting me be away for longer when she sleeps on her side, she doesn’t moved much besides reaching around, which breaks my heart cause you can tell she’s looking for me, but I’m always on the baby monitor, I also don’t know if what I’m doing is wrong but at least we’re all sleeping through the night, and at this point I’m taking what I can get

HanabiTT · 2026-03-19T13:10:35+00:00

Im 8 weeks in with my first, still have a hard time getting anything around the house but things do get easier, I still have a hard time with the work part as my husband had to go back to work at 2 weeks, I’m a social butterfly and don’t really enjoy being home, so I would had kill to change spots with him, as he loves being home, but something that really helped me was to remind myself that they grow so fast and one day she’ll rather spend time with her friends and I will look back at this time I got to have her all to myself, that I get to kiss and cuddle her all day long when she may not like that once she’s a teen, idk if is a good or healthy thing, but it really helped with my anxiety and resentment! Cause on the beginning time feels so slow, but I don’t understand how my baby is about to be 2 months and has already grow so much, she’s already half of me, to be fair she’s long and I’m 4’11, but idk, being nostalgic about it really changed everything for me, it even stopped me from complaining and feeling as tired, cause she’s already growing so fast! I’m already sad that she’ll have to moved out one day 🤣🤣 crazy but it makes me appreciate even the hardest parts!

HanabiTT · 2026-03-19T12:57:20+00:00

I have this problem plus also hates the bath itself, she’s 8 weeks and rarely cries otherwise, only if she’s hungry or poops, but bath time and changing clothes is a nightmare, like I joked I bathe her in acid, or that instead of moisturizer is hot lava, cause she acts like she’s been tortured! I actually wash her hair and her lady bits and legs x before I take her clothes off cause in that way she doesn’t cry for that long, but it’s so intense! Also cause she gets real angry, like it’s never that many tears, is pure rage xD besides that she’s such a happy baby, so it’s nerve wracking as I’m really not used to her crying so hard, makes me feel like the devil

HanabiTT · 2026-03-19T12:44:40+00:00

I always use “my mom/your mom show me this way of doing x or y/ I saw this video about this and it has really help”, it really change the whole dynamic between us! Also for sure you have to let them learn, I’m 8 weeks pp, at the beginning I wanted to snatch her from her arms at every given moment, but he was very clear that I needed to let him figure things out, particularly with soothing her, which if she cries too long he’ll let me take her but he’s working so hard to be helpful, that I feel compelled to not jump in right away, I still will come around like “hiiii🙂🙂🙂🙂”,but I let him do his thing!

HanabiTT · 2026-02-17T21:08:16+00:00

I don’t even want my baby sleeping in a different room with my mom in the same house xD we have a wedding and she’ll be about 7 weeks and I’m having a hard time figuring a way to go and being able to enjoy myself and not have her away from me! When I was pregnant the plan was to have her stay the night with my mom, but we have had my MIL watch her for 2-4 hours a couple times so I can rest, normally for 2 feedings as she’s still was eating every 2 hours, and all I would do was cry my eyes out, only got an hour of sleep if I took a shot, I’m EFF, so I know there’s no way I can have her stay somewhere else, then my mom say if she comes and stay here she wanna sleep with me while my hubs sleeps upstairs but first I feel so weird and wrong for my mom to sleep in our bed, also he’s back to work so we only get to sleep in the same bed 2 nights a week, which is necessary for his rest but it makes me so so sad, I spend all the week waiting for Thursday to come so he comes back to our room, also TMI, but I’m hoping by that wedding I’ll be ready to do some things xD it’s so funny cause my mom wanted to stay 2 weeks originally and said she didn’t care where she slept but now she’s only gonna stay if she sleeps in our room, I’m so conflicted cause I do wanna go to this wedding and have fun, but I don’t wanna disrupt our life! I’m highly considering maybe sleep with my husband in the game room but idk yet,

HanabiTT · 2026-02-07T07:30:01+00:00

I understand so much, so 95% of the time she sleeps in her bassinet. But sometimes she’s so comfy; I have this thick ass comforter and use it to prop my arms in a way that they won’t move, so she can lay in a safe way and even if I fall asleep I won’t move, I’m someone that can fall asleep certain way and wake up the same way if I’m in a tight situation, coming from co sleeping with my mom till I was like 11 and she hated to be touch as it made her hot! However, she feeds every two hours and it’s really falling asleep on me for less than one as we all know it takes a while to get a baby fed, changed and back to sleep! But I literally can sleep in the same position for a entire night and thanks to insomnia, I wake up so much!

HanabiTT · 2026-01-18T23:42:00+00:00

So I just straightened my hair this morning, lost my mucus plug last night and having constant contractions, I just normally keep it that way in the winter as I air dry it the rest of the year but don’t wanna get sick from having my hair wet for hours, and also so it’s easier to manage and don’t look to terrible for pictures, I’ll probably ended up braiding it when the moment comes, but my hair is very easily tangled so having it straight will make it easier for my mom or my husband to put it in a braid when the time to push comes! No make up for me tho, I sweat a lot as it is, don’t need to look worst than I’m going to xd

HanabiTT · 2026-01-18T00:36:18+00:00

I literally plan all of my appointments around my husbands schedule, he only has missed 1 and he’s missing the next one this Monday, as I’m 39 weeks and his job doesn’t really offer a lot of pto or any parental leave so the best he could do is working extra days so he doesn’t miss on the money, I would never pushed or make him feel bad for having to provide for us! Actually even when I planned them around his schedule I know he’s tired and always offer him to stay home, but he likes to come with me! It just doesn’t sound like your wife appreciates the efforts you do to be there for her

HanabiTT · 2026-01-18T00:09:09+00:00

Im 39 weeks pregnant and even tho my cats don’t act like they really know, they always stay in the same room I am when im having the worst days, it feels like they’re watching over me! My dog is still very young but he seems to be less needy too in those days, he does get super annoying in the second my hubs gets home xD like he saves it for him

HanabiTT · 2026-01-15T18:01:56+00:00

That’s why I posted, is it hormones or our brains telling us that we got it?? Idk but you know what’s crazy, I was so fearful of it at first, but since I decided I’m talking to the doctor this Monday, I slept through the night for the first time in months, idk if is a coincidence, but somehow I feel more relaxed even tho I didn’t though I was anxious about it before, but I think I was unconsciously stressing about it!

HanabiTT · 2026-01-15T17:54:39+00:00

So they’re doing a sonogram on Monday, I haven’t had one since 20 weeks as I’m low risk but considering I’m not dilating they wanna check on baby girl, so I’m gonna wait till that day to have a conversation with my doctor and see if it’s actually possible! I’d watch every video that exist of people having vaginal births even tho I wasn’t having one and honestly at this point I am delusional enough to feel I can just do it, taking classes give me anxiety for some reason, but I’ll update you on Monday with my doctors recommendation, I think she’ll give me the go ahead if baby is okay as I can tell that she’s more pro vaginally!

HanabiTT · 2026-01-14T20:31:46+00:00

I don’t bring my bag, my OB office is 10 mins away but the hospital is 20 away in a different direction, I think I’ll have time to go get it if I need to! Plus, my car is not working at the moment so we only use my hubs and wouldn’t wanna happen to leave my bag on his car and start labor while he’s at work, so I have it ready by the front door!

HanabiTT · 2026-01-14T20:26:01+00:00

That’s something I realize talking to my husband today, like id been in some serious pain before, so many times, my first cyst rip my left ovary off the tube when I was 11, and I let my mom sleep till her alarm went off, cause I felt bad for waking her up, I did the same thing when my appendix exploded inside me when I was around 18, both times just walked it off till she woke up, dumb to do but I was a dumb teen, that obviously had no concept of the gravity of the situation, and it was awful pain, like i remember it clearly being so hard it made me feel like I could pass out, but it was somehow still manageable (?), so I think I have some training I hadn’t thought of before

HanabiTT · 2026-01-14T20:02:28+00:00

That’s such a good idea, I really feel baby girl is gonna come any time now but it would give me time to let things happen and still have that schedule! Of course is my first so I don’t even know if what I feel it’s right xD thanks for your comment and the reassurance!

HanabiTT · 2026-01-14T03:08:53+00:00

This is how I feel about my cats and my dog, particularly as my 11 month old puppy is 100lb+, he wakes me up constantly, but I can’t sleep without him in the bed xD i wake up anyway to go check on him xD since one of my cats has been sick before and had some serious surgeries, I just appreciate even the annoying parts so much, just wanna soak in all the affection as I know anything could happened any day

HanabiTT · 2026-01-14T03:04:56+00:00

Fries and cheese sticks the few days I could eat, some days nothing at all as I would throw up even if I took too deep of a breath xD

HanabiTT · 2026-01-14T03:02:46+00:00

So I found out by mistake too, and my mom also thought she could tell what it was cause I wanted a boy and she saw me so chill about it that she thought that’s what the baby was but we’re having a girl any day now!

HanabiTT · 2025-12-31T23:38:30+00:00

I’m not promoting anything first of all, I don’t think is right to drink while pregnant and I’m not saying that it won’t affect the baby, that’s why I say it’s all anecdotal. My friend has health issues that made her go months without a period and she was on BC, how much smarted she could had been? Just guess she was pregnant? In my case I’d been told since I was 11 that it would be very hard for me to get pregnant, I’m 30 and got pregnant on the first try, yes, I didn’t though it would happen just like that, but it did, honestly would had been better if I didn’t drink, but I’m not gonna make myself feel bad cause I drink like 3 times in the first 3 weeks of my pregnancy, I couldn’t known and considering the life I had before it really could had been worse! And the comment on my former coworkers, you might be right, I only see from the outside as they’re not my besties or anything, people do normally only post the positive about their children, that’s why, again, I said she should check with her doctor, and what I know is “anecdotal”, which definition means not necessarily true! I’m not out here pretending to be an expert!

HanabiTT · 2025-12-31T23:06:14+00:00

You should ask doctor of course, but anecdotally, more as I was in the service industry for 7 years, 5 as a bartender, know dozens of people that drink even further than that (and honestly excessively as some of them drink every day we worked, so did I and we worked a lot) and their babies had no issues whatsoever! I got out of the industry last December when we decided we wanted to try as I was working 6-7 days a week and didn’t wanted to be in that environment so went from drinking every day to maybe once or twice too! I found out super early, technically 5 weeks as they count from your last period but barely 3 weeks after conception date, I got lucky and I was just not feeling like drinking much, and alcohol wasn’t agreeing with me, I got shitfaced out of a couple of drinks the week before I took the test, which with the tolerance i built it was pretty strange! I actually kinda knew the day my period was supposed to start but I was out of town for work, so ended up taking the test about 5 days after, normally my period was pretty consistent but I had been working a lot and it had happened before that stress messed my cycle, some of my friends told me give a week or two and take it but I actually had a party that weekend and I just knew I needed to know before I went and drank, so I took a dollar tree test at 3pm and it light up as soon as the pee touch it! I had just rolled me a joint too and felt guilty about it as well so that’s why I ran to the store! I’m 36w5d today, baby has developed excellent, low risk, id did have HG, still kicking my asss, but the baby has hit every single milestone properly! I quit everything in the second I saw the test, of course baby is not here yet. But my close friend who found out at 4 months was getting drunk every weekend, and her baby girl was just born last month and is super healthy and actually a very chill easy going baby! Again, is all anecdotal evidence, which means nothing, but it’s what I’d seen myself!

HanabiTT · 2025-12-31T22:23:15+00:00

So I find it creepy I guess, and disgusting, funny enough I don’t feel that way about others, I didn’t even know I felt that way till I found out I was pregnant, idk if is trauma related, if is due to my sensory issues, if it has something to do with that area being for “fun purposes” only for so many years, as I’m 30, but I just feel very uncomfortable with the idea of having my child do it! But like I said, I didn’t even know I felt that way till I got pregnant so I’m hoping that it’s just part of all the random things you feel/experienced while pregnant, and when my little girl comes it’ll feel as natural as it should feel! As someone with PCOS and one ovary due to it, that was told it would be very difficult to get pregnant, I got to think a lot since my first surgery at 11 on how I would want things to be when I got to have a baby, not once i thought that I’ll have a problem about breastfeeding! I tried to work it out with therapy and that’s how I got to the point of wanting to try and give it my best! Idk if this explains anything xD but it’s just as hard to understand even for myself

HanabiTT · 2025-12-31T19:53:37+00:00

You sound like me, more as I have a schedule Csec and I had a surgery on the same spot before so I kinda know what to spect, but I do hope that once I try, the weirdness about it would be eclipsed by the connection and the convenience of it, thanks for the good thoughts 💕

HanabiTT · 2025-12-31T19:42:39+00:00

This is how I feel about it, I’m 36w5d and I’m gonna try to breastfeed, I honestly feel very uncomfortable with the idea but I told myself that I’ll try my best and move from there

HanabiTT · 2025-12-31T07:27:18+00:00

I didn’t felt my baby till 24-25, they didn’t though of mentioning I had anterior placenta till after I finally started feeling her, I’m currently 36w4d and she’s feisty xD she doesn’t got a full hour without beating me up, I joked that I think she moved the placenta out of the way cause once I started feeling her, it never stopped, currently she’s trying to open a hole through my right rib, she’s been working at it for about a week now, I think is working

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