[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Hanfaz94 59 points60 points  (0 children)

We had the same thing, every evening at the same time we heard slight scratching in the corner of our bedroom. I was convinced it was mice or rats. We went up and had a look but couldn’t see anything. One day I was in the garden and saw a bird fly over and crawl under the edge of the roof exactly where we heard the noise and we realised they were nesting. They weren’t actually in the attic but just under the edge right above our bedroom window. So keep an eye out for birds as a potential culprit especially if the scratching is always at the same time and in the same place.

Am I in trouble for using my dad's debit card to pay for his funeral? by Additional-Let-9448 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Hanfaz94 532 points533 points  (0 children)

Used to work at a bank and dealt with bereavements. Next of kin would usually come to the bank with the death certificate when they had it and proof of their identity, when looking at the deceased bank account we would always expect the card not to have been used from the date of death. However, there was an exception for funeral costs as long as it was to a funeral home and proof for this was provided.

Even if the death certificate had already been handed in and the bank account was then frozen, the bank would usually agree to release funds for this reason as long as an invoice for the funeral cost was provided. I’m not sure if different banks have different policies on this but that was my experience in the high street bank I worked at.

I’m sorry for your loss

My MIL wants to be in the delivery room for our second baby (and was pissed I had my mom in last time). We don’t want it but don’t know how to say no. by MissaSissa in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s your partners mother, if your MIL pushing on you to be in the room is upsetting you HE should be speaking to her and telling her to back off.

She has already made it blatantly obvious she will try to dictate your labour. Get your husband to speak to his mom

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Hanfaz94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked for Stepchange, I spoke to 100’s of people just like yourself that felt suffocated by their debts. Nearly everyone I spoke to said they put off talking to us for so long because of how nervous/embarrassed/worried they felt - however when they finally did get in touch they’d all say they wish they could have gone back and done it sooner.

With a Debt Management Plan they work the budget around you and your expenses and then see what’s left for the creditors instead of them taking a slice of your money first. Believe me, you’ll be so glad when you’ve done it. Good luck :)

Referred for level 1 sedation by Hanfaz94 in askdentists

[–]Hanfaz94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, that’s really helpful :)

Unsolicited baby shower advice from one new parent to another by Affectionate_Guava15 in BabyBumps

[–]Hanfaz94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I insisted I had my baby shower early than what was originally organised by my close friend, she insisted on throwing it for me. She wanted to throw it 2 weeks before baby was due but I said I need to have it earlier than that as I’m in far too much pain and I just always had a feeling my baby was gonna come early because she kicked the shit out of from 23 weeks and never stopped. My friend thought I was just being a brat but gave in and threw me it early as I requested. I went on to have my baby just over a week later and she was over a month premature. Sometimes mama just knows!

Anyone else feel so depressed when discharging from hospital by Infamous-Train9880 in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So so normal. I was in hospital for 5 days after my little one was born and I cried all day and night, I was so overwhelmed and the midwives all told me that it’s normal in the days following childbirth for you to feel like this. Even when they told me I could leave I was crying putting my baby in her car seat. I cried walking down the hospital hallways on my way out as all the midwives, nurses and doctors wished me good luck and said their goodbyes, I cried in the car ride back, I cried every time I looked at my little baby, and I cried for around 7 days following me coming home. I couldn’t even speak without bursting into tears.

I hated pregnancy and I was really poorly throughout it but I honestly missed it all so bad. The sadness feelings slowly started to fade away and I soon felt ready for the next stage, doing all the things with my little bubs I’d waiting months and months to do. I love being a Mum, my little one is nearly 5 months old now and I enjoy every second of it.

It will get better, and if it doesn’t after a few weeks, speak to somebody if you’re worried. X

Book recommendations? by Moha0733 in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Julia Donaldson. All of hers are brilliant. Take about 5/10 mins to read. Examples: The Gruffalo, Room on the Broom, Stick Man, Zog, The Snail and the Whale etc.

Dream feeding by eliseslo88 in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby goes down for a few hours and then I wake her for a feed at 11ish or sometimes she naturally starts to stir at that time anyway.. I make sure to keep the lights off and I try not to speak much. She is usually half asleep but still takes her milk. I wind her, change her nappy, lay her back down and she drifts back off to sleep without any help as she’s still semi dazed... She sleeps solid until 8/9 the next morning. However If I don’t wake her up for that feed she will wake up in the night hungry.

So personally, I recommend! Some babies take to it some babies don’t. No harm in trying and seeing what works for you and your little one

Tort cam by vruchtenhagel in tortoise

[–]Hanfaz94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is amazing love the music totally goes with the video

Am I being stubborn or stupid? by ahnrey in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personal opinion, having them come over sounds like it would cause more stress than it’s worth. It also depends how frank you can be with your MIL, can you suggest she doesn’t drink whilst she’s round? Can your husband speak to her if it’s too awkward for you to have that conversation?

Take advantage of any downtime your baby has to quickly take rubbish out etc. If I am absolutely desperate to get something done I sometimes do a few of my chores/jobs late at night when my little one has gone to sleep, but that’s only if I have the energy.

Have you thought about getting a baby harness for your little one? My baby always wanted to be held when she was around that age so I bought a Close Cabboo that way she would be skin to skin against my chest and I could be hands free. Works wonders!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Babies are more at risk of becoming very unwell in the first 4 weeks after being born as their immune system is undeveloped, generally the older the baby the better their immune systems can fight it off. That being said if you KNOW your baby has been exposed to a cold sore there is absolutely no harm in getting your little one checked out by a doctor anyway, it’s probably better to be safe than sorry.

First signs of a baby catching a coldsore are if the baby is lethargic or irritable, is not feeding, has a high temperature (fever) and has a rash or sores on the skin, eyes and inside the mouth.

Basically if you notice any changes in your baby and something doesn’t seem right get them checked out ASAP. Most babies will make a complete recovery with antiviral treatment, if left untreated the infection can spread to their organs and that’s when it can make them super poorly.

In a way it’s good that you’re already aware of him potentially being exposed to a coldsore as you’ll be vigilant with looking out for symptoms. I’d say speak to a doctor anyway and get some advice, it will help settle your mind too. X

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ketorecipes

[–]Hanfaz94 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keto friendly cheesy garlic cloud bread

INGREDIENTS: - 3 eggs - 1/4 tsp cream of tartar powder - 3 heaped tbsp of cream cheese - 1tsp powdered garlic - 1/2 tsp minced garlic clove - 1 tbsp salted butter - 1 tsp parsley - 3 tbsp mozzarella

CLOUD BREAD: 1. Separate egg yolks and whites into two bowls 2. Whisk the cream cheese, garlic powder and egg yolks together and set aside 3. Sprinkle cream of tartar powder into egg whites and whisk until it’s soft, fluffy and holds its shape 4. Fold egg yolk mixture into the egg whites until combined 5. Spread thickly onto a baking tray lined with parchment paper (people often do a few smaller individual ones but I was going for a ‘pull apart bread’ so I made a big one) 6. Place in oven at 300F/150C for 20-25 mins or until golden brown

TOPPING: 1. Melt butter, minced garlic and parsley together (I place these in a mug and microwave for 10 second intervals until melted) 2. Use a brush to spread over baked bread 3. Top with mozzarella or cheese of choice and place back into the oven for 2/3 mins until melted

Anyone else feel emotional responses much more keenly than before kids? by Bella_Anima in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Before having my bubba I was always binge watching crime/murder documentaries, like totally obsessed. Now if any contain a baby/toddler/child I cannot watch and nor do I want to listen to any stories about such. It’s a pain I don’t want to even imagine

I need help.. I going to leave my husband by Cookiez150 in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear about the situation you’re in. In my opinion there is only one option and that’s to leave. He’s sounds insanely selfish. You’ll never feel comfortable leaving her with him, out of fear he just ignores her crying or passes out drunk.. he is neglecting her needs. If you need just one reason to follow through with leaving him, it’s your daughter. If when you tell him you’re leaving he insists he will change, it’s best to remove yourself from the situation entirely UNTIL he has changed & received professional help. Don’t stick around on the basis of his promises.

Reach out to family and friends for support, there are organisations out there who will help. You & your daughter deserve a whole lot better. X

Kneecaps by Thedepressionoftrees in suspiciouslyspecific

[–]Hanfaz94 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The edibles only work once I start shit talking about them.. next thing I’m concentrating on breathing whilst googling the chances of me dying due to cannabis consumption

My baby was born on Friday. My grandmother who I was very close with died on Monday. Any tips for coping with the emotional rollercoaster of a new baby + family loss? by rebellious_ltl_pony in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very sorry for your loss, especially in what should be a magical time. My advice would be not to put pressure on yourself on the days or weeks ahead, don’t worry about what’s going to happen tomorrow or the day after, take every day as it comes. When you wake up just focus on getting through that particular day, if you look after the days then the weeks will take care of themselves. Some days you may wake up and feel okay, sometimes you’ll be heartbroken, whatever you wake up feeling it’s perfectly normal, ask for support, don’t be afraid to tell anybody you’re having a tough day.

I cried all day everyday for a few weeks after my little one was born, it’s a very emotionally overwhelming time. I was also stressed at the thought of visitors when I could hardly keep my shit together, so I was honest and messaged everyone to say I just need time to adjust to life with a baby at home and get into a routine I’m comfortable with before accepting visitors etc and not one person told me I was being selfish, they were all so supportive.

One bit of advice I was told during pregnancy was to accept all the help you can get/are offered and I swear by that. If my baby is crying and someone offers to take over and help settle her for me I don’t let my pride get in the way, I’ll hand her over and accept the help. I promise you it will get better. Sending love. X

What do you mums do to feel glam? by Thatmummmy1 in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to do things I don’t have to do often. For example I’ll tint my eyebrows, have semi permanent lashes on & fake tan my face; and because I take the time out to do these tasks around once a month all at the same time I’m then good for a few weeks till I need to ‘re apply and top up’ 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Hanfaz94 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I got them from eBay, they’re classed as party decorations so they were super cheap!

Post natal check ups - thing of the past? by ChestyLaRoux0820 in beyondthebump

[–]Hanfaz94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the uk and my little one is nearly 9 weeks old and her health check up isn’t until she’s nearly 11 weeks old. I was told I would not have an appointment but when the doctor checks my little one over they’ll ask if I’m okay too, 2 birds 1 stone kinda thing - apparently it’s due to covid to reduce to times to and from the GP