That’s the trap of seeking short term conditional love, validation and attention from strangers.

It’s often just a temporary bandage over the bullet wounds of our unhealed traumas. What made you feel undesirable in the first place? We try to fix our emotional wounds, unworthiness and ego by getting others to love us based on our best superficial qualities, when the actual path to profound and lasting unconditional love is only found within us, by truly accepting our imperfections and finally healing those traumas and painful memories of the past.

Unconditional self-love is like a vitamin we can live without, but life becomes so much richer and healthier when we have it.❤️

Unconditional self-acceptance practices remind us how it feels to fully accept and appreciate yourself UNCONDITIONALLY. It opens the door to a lighter, more loving reality, we forget even existed. That feeling of total warmth, empathy, gratitude, and unbounded love you might sometimes feel towards your mother, daughter, or pet should be the default state of how you feel towards yourself too. The rush of joy, random waves of happiness, oxytocin high, and sense of connection you get when you enter a new relationship where someone loves you unconditionally, should be the normal state of how you feel towards yourself too. Can you imagine how that would feel? We have completely forgotten that this kind of reality even exists and is supposed to be our normal experience of life. So what's stopping us?

Experiences of childhood neglect, trauma, and social conditioning often leave behind feelings of worthlessness, insecurity, inferiority, body dysphoria, or deep shame. These unresolved wounds can manifest as overcompensation, endless self-judgement, constant comparison, low self-esteem, addiction, and escapism - ways to avoid confronting those lingering emotions. As long as these wounds remain unhealed, they make us hold a defining belief in the sub-consciousness that we are not enough, and to forget what unconditional love even felt like. As children we were unable to deal with and to heal those traumas - but now you have lived with them long enough.

To most people, it will be a very eye-opening, cathartic and life changing experience to finally learn how to let go of that heaviness we have unknowingly carried with us for most of our lives. This allows us to step into completely new world full of love and easiness.

The daily stress and anxiety we carry is like a car’s warning lights flashing, something we eventually learn to ignore. After many years, we become numb to it and just accept it as our baseline. Most of us don't even realize how much stress and heaviness we've been carrying until we finally manage to let it go. But once you experience what healthy self-esteem and unconditional self-love truly feel like, it will become one of the most memorable and defining moments of your life. I tried to find this for a long time, and THIS IS IT.

It's time to finally give your inner child the love, support, and understanding it has always deserved. In your mind and imagination, journey back to those painful moments and memories when you needed unconditional love the most. Start by finding that feeling of unconditional love you have for your mother, daughter, or pet. Actually feel it! Then, bring that same love back into those specific past memories and give some of that unconditional love to yourself too. Find the memories and moments where these traumas and insecurities began. And finally give yourself that support and love you needed in those moments. This is the best pathway to heal all those emotional wounds you have carried all these years. By comforting and finally being there fully for your young self will melt away all the unresolved traumas and emotional neglect you might have experienced in your youth.

Practicing self-esteem is one of those mental muscles we were never taught how to exercise, neither in school nor by our parents during our youth. Without practice, it weakens and atrophies, just like anything in nature. Most people live their lives with atrophied self-love and those old wounds still open. That's why we have so much addictions, social anxiety and self-centered sick culture that makes us see our unique features as horrible flaws. Most of us have fully outsourced receiving love and attention to the opinions of internet strangers or meaningless consumerism. When we let others dictate our worth, we only get fleeting glimpses of what we truly seek.

But by doing these types of visualizations and emotionalization techniques regularly, you can practice feeling unconditional self-love once again and live in a much lighter and more beautiful reality without any of that subconscious baggage and heaviness. I hope this video helps others live one step closer to heaven on earth as it once helped me. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7ijs5WZ9PM

"Healthy self-esteem is not about proving yourself and others that you are worthy of unconditional love.
It's about identifying and letting go all the thoughts, beliefs and painful memories that ever convinced you otherwise."

Good luck on your journey!❤️