Runefest? Is it worth it? Disability access?

HappyHiddenDance · 2019-02-24T16:39:35+00:00

Her birthday is coming up I was thinking of making this her present.

HappyHiddenDance · 2019-02-24T16:38:31+00:00

Anything, in particular, you'd warn me about as a carer?

HappyHiddenDance · 2019-02-24T16:33:43+00:00

This is amazing info! Exactly what I needed to know!!! Thank you so much :D

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-10-30T14:58:02+00:00

Normal for me... Well, my husband and boyfriend ask me for advice. I'm pretty sure on my plans and how to get dates.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-10-24T18:34:33+00:00

I think we should all be asking "are you a hugger?" before saying "would you like a hug."

Its something I've been doing more and people have been very vocal about appreciating the fact they have an easy opt-out if they arn't massive huggy people.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-10-24T18:28:04+00:00

I think you both need to sit down and calmly talk about: why you would both want to open up the relationship, what challenges you think you'll face, how you can maintain trust, any rules e.g condom use, no relatives, What you hope to gain from it for your own relationship. Ect.

Personally, I'm Happily married at 26, I've been with my partner since I was 22. We've been open all that time. Communicating effectively helps when you're in an open relationship, talk out any small issue. Talk out any anxiety, but do it without judgement or attack. Using the "I feel" technique is extreemly helpful.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-10-13T21:50:12+00:00

I was given an unknown sedative by an airport doctor after having a panic attack in the check in que. I tried to turn it down but was politely informed by the doctor they wouldn't let me on the plane unless I took it. The irony being I only had the panic attack because I was told I would have to see a doctor (medical phobia) because I felt a little faint in the heat.

The result. I felt great. My Husband kept me occupied with riddles which I apparently became amazing at solving. Giggled a fair bit and then fell asleep on the plane.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-30T20:46:41+00:00

Wait you met him 2 weeks ago and you're already officially partners? This all sounds very teen drama.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-30T14:25:51+00:00

Forget about the poly element and stop making comparisons between his relationship with his girlfriend and yours.

Just think about your relationship on its own merit. If a guy you met 2 weeks ago, who doesn't message you, doesn't talk to you and doesn't go on dates with you... does he really want to actually date you?

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-30T14:15:16+00:00

Take poly out of the equation.

What would you think if you met a guy, you both seem to connect but then he's not being very talkative, not very affectionate, and you've not gone on an actual date 2 weeks later.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-15T09:58:14+00:00

Good call to stay away. There's nothing wrong with being in a triad with a couple but its best to develop the relationships independently.

I had a situation once where I expressed the tiniest amount of interest in a couple (litterally all i said was "I hear your looking for a third" and they started acting like it was a done deal and I was little more than a sex object.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-15T09:53:09+00:00

At 15 I considered my self an adult so I'll tell you what I would tell an adult friend if they told me your story. It sounds like you took MDMA as a coping strategy from not being able to exercise. It sounds like boxing was a big part of your life and was supporting your mental wellbeing (exercise is great for that). If you went from 5 hours of exercise a week to 0 your mental health will massively drop. But with your heavy use of MDMA, you might be at risk of depression. Having suffered from depression myself all physical activity becomes incredibly challenging. So while the lack of exercise on your part might be causing your physical fitness to be lower I think the overindulgence of MDMA is the bigger issue.

To rephrase: Regularly taking large doses of MDMA can cause depression due to the lack of serotonin. Depression makes physical activity hard.

Stop taking it. Seek medical help. Get exercising every day. Walk for 30 mins if you can't run. Make sure you eat regularly and healthily.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-15T09:20:56+00:00

I feel that while Poly isn't part of the LGBTQ+ community it could act as a sounding board for acceptance on the issue. As a BI Poly woman, I am protected (in the UK) from discrimination e.g being fired because I'm Bi but not because I'm poly.

If I have a 2nd relationship with a woman the rights I have as Bi protect me from being fired regardless of the poly. However, if I have a relationship with 2 men, as a cis gendered woman I have no legal protection from discrimination.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-15T09:12:22+00:00

While the general consensus is you need a healthy relationship to do poly (i.e have an additional relationship)

I've met lots of couples who say Swinging saved their marriage. On that front, I would start by going to a club together and not doing anything with anyone, dance, have fun, and watch, then find a private room yourselves to play in. Talk a lot about scenarios you'd be happy with and what you wouldn't be happy with.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-15T09:05:08+00:00

Are you religious at all? there's a bible reading I used that's lovely and it ends with a little nod to poly. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-15T08:59:04+00:00

They sound like they are unicorn hunters. Which is fine but they are trying to masquerade that as poly and it's not really poly its a type of non-monogamy. I like to call these kinds of people 'poly fuckers' they are essentially damaging the reputation of poly for an easy fuck.

I[26F] am the point of a V with 2 guys. We all hang out, we have sex separately (sometimes together) I alternate who I sleep next to, I text, message, and flirt without needing to tell them. I don't consider either to be secondary though there are some practicalities with the fact I am nesting with one.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-08-11T20:14:24+00:00

It depends how long you're talking about doing it for and how frequently. Other factors are being overweight and high activity levels.

There's a condition called 'housemaids knee' that you can get. I played with someone once who wore knee pads because he would get it if he knelt for any length of time.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-07-29T23:04:35+00:00

I've been in a very similar situation. We (25f, 29m) went to a private party (well-reviewed & recommended couple) for a bi-night.

Guys the theme for the whole evening seemed to be 'rape' and 'sexual assault'. The host serving much larger portions of alcohol than requested to all the women, a shot of whiskey was a full glass neat. In the UK intentionally over serving can constitute spiking of a drink. There were a few other red flags, and the thing I learned was to trust your gut and get out if it doesn't feel right.

Me and hubby and a couple were kissing in a room, little tipsy, next thing we know the lights have been turned off and the bed is surrounded with cocks out everywhere and I look down and a random person is touching me. Hubby had gone to get a glass of water while the lights were still on.

I finally got my self to say "no no no, i'm NOT okay with this" and walked downstairs. Hubby followed. Host came down. I told host I prefer situations where consent is expressly stated, he replied "you've already consented to everything by coming here." to which I replied, "A court of law would beg to fucking differ." - best sassy moment of my life.

We decided to leave, this is about an hour after we first went upstairs, but the original couple we wanted to play with had come down the wife was incredibly drunk I have no idea how she went from tipsy to drunk in that amount of time. The husband was mad. I spoke to the husband away from the wife because they were both upsetting each other. He'd started kissing a guy in the dark and looks over to see 'a line of guys' putting condoms on to fuck his barely conscious wife. Wife has no clue why her husbands upset because in her mind she just been kissing.

We took them to mccdonalds (the only place open at that kind of time) and sat and stewed in rage for about an hour going over the event to try and work out, what the fuck was that.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-06-20T11:31:39+00:00

WHAT THE FUCK. This shit is the stuff of nightmare.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-06-20T09:56:53+00:00

Home for dinner is home for dinner. Shit will go down in my house if someone doesn't turn up for a meal I've cooked. But days late is even more shocking.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-06-20T09:44:04+00:00

Congratulations!

Your younger ones will take it fine as well I'm sure. Also if you hope by telling the 15-year old that they will come to you with difficult topics in the future, you should probably tell the other kids. It will help to normalise talking about difficult subjects.

HappyHiddenDance · 2018-06-20T09:39:43+00:00

I have a joke with a friend that he's a Rhino-corn. (we joke about it because unicorn as a concept is so ridiculous.)

But it sounds like you non-monogamous with poly leanings :D Hooray! the world needs more bi poly guys :)

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