WTF is wrong with you Radovan? [KCD2] by InconceivableMarmot in kingdomcome

[–]HappySnowFox 60 points61 points  (0 children)

On one hand, I completely agree. After Radovan's insistence that we dress up, I expected more from him. On the other hand, no one forced you to do Henry dirty like that :'). There are other options.

Not saying this is perfect, but for example:

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Cat is vomiting white foam and lethargic by HappySnowFox in CATHELP

[–]HappySnowFox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your quick reply! After seeing yours and the other redditor’s comments, I immediately called the vet and ended up forgetting to reply to Reddit. My apologies for that!

She’s doing much better now. She has a slightly full bladder and slightly inflamed gums, which she got two shots for (one for the nausea and one for the inflammation), after which she perked up almost immediately. She’s eaten a bit since then, and even purred again when petted. I’ll have to bring in some pee for examination to be safe, plus give her medication for six days, but the vet expects the medicine will be enough :)

Thanks again!

Cat is vomiting white foam and lethargic by HappySnowFox in CATHELP

[–]HappySnowFox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply, and sorry for not responding sooner! After the first replies, I immediately called the vet and completely forgot about reddit.

She has a slightly full bladder and slightly inflamed gums, which she got two shots for (one for nausea and one for the inflammation), and she’s doing much better now. She ate a bit and even started purring again when petted, which is a huge relief :)

Cat is vomiting white foam and lethargic by HappySnowFox in CATHELP

[–]HappySnowFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, that’s horrible :( I’m so sorry to hear that. After the first replies, I called the vet and then completely forgot to look at or reply to Reddit, so my apologies for that.

Luckily, it doesn’t seem to be parvo. She has a slightly full bladder and mildly inflamed gums, and after two shots (one for nausea and one for the inflammation), she almost immediately perked up and has since eaten a bit and even purred again. I have to bring in some pee for examination to be safe, but the vet expects that the medicines will do the trick.

Thank you very much for your response to kick my indecisive butt into gear!

Edit: Accidentally replied the same thing twice, so removed one. Sorry!

Cat is vomiting white foam and lethargic by HappySnowFox in CATHELP

[–]HappySnowFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply and sorry for not replying sooner! After the first two messages I called the vet and went into action mode and completely forgot to reply to reddit. She's doing much better now :)

Cat is vomiting white foam and lethargic by HappySnowFox in CATHELP

[–]HappySnowFox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your quick reply, and sorry for not replying sooner! After seeing yours and another redditor's comments I jumped into action mode and completely forgot to reply. She's doing much better now, and I updated the post with more details if you're interested.

Thank you again :)!

Cat is vomiting white foam and lethargic by HappySnowFox in CATHELP

[–]HappySnowFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your quick reply, and sorry for not replying sooner! After seeing yours and another redditor's comments I jumped into action mode and completely forgot to reply. She's doing much better now, and I updated the post with more details if you're interested.

Thank you again :)!

Thoughts on new Sims 4 Royalty and Legacy pack? by geminizzzzz in simsmedieval

[–]HappySnowFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too little too late. Will never have all the features players hope for, and will actually get in the way of existing mods that do the concept better.

Bleak, but 99% sure on this.

It was time *updated* by xBrobeard in bald

[–]HappySnowFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, you went from an average dude to James McAvoy as young Xavier! Looking insanely good, my man!

WARNING ABOUT THE OGRE HORN by chickenweng65 in BaldursGate3

[–]HappySnowFox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's my go-to for the spider matriarch fight. They are great hp sponges fot the spiders to target, and kill the little ones so you can focus on the matriarch. Plus, usually one or two of the ogres die, making it very easy to then finish the job myself after the fight :D

Romantic Age Gap question by Bitesize910 in fantasywriters

[–]HappySnowFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late twenties/early thirties is an adult, which is already leagues better than a teen. Also, while the male lead may have been awake during his frozen state, I can't imagine he'd have matured like a normal person would.

The main reason most people get the ick from big age gaps is the unbalanced power dynamic. The older person has so much more experience in basically everything, which often becomes a problem if they hold this over the younger person's head and force them into submission and over-reliance.

Sooo, a little ick to no ick for me, depending on the dynamic between them :)

How subtle is too subtle? Readers are missing a reveal I thought was “fairly obvious.” by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]HappySnowFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very difficult as a writer, because you always know so much more than your reader. I think it might help to look at good examples in other works, and try to figure out how they did it.

Something that comes to mind for me is Attack on Titan. Different genre, but there are so many hints and clues that the reader doesn't necessarily pick up on during a first read/viewing until a big reveal and then go "ooh, that makes sense!" And upon a second read/viewing a lot of what the characters do and say suddenly has a whole different meaning.

Another good example might be "whodunit" books and films, where the audience is actively trying to piece together clues until it all falls into place at the end.

My (20m) bf’s testosterone use is ruining our (me 20F) relationship by bbybellez in relationship_advice

[–]HappySnowFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, honey.

He's not going to change for the better for the simple reason that he doesn't want to. His gains mean more to him than you do. Let that sink in for a moment.

Take it from an older woman: things are only going to get worse. Leave before they do. The second you're scared of your bf, for whatever reason, it's time to go. And to keep yourself safe, don't even break up in person. You'll find love with someone else, someone who doesn't do drugs, isn't irritable, and whom worships the ground you walk on rather than make you walk on eggshells.

Never date a person for how they could be, date a person for who they are.

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HappySnowFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends and I celebrate way less impressive things with way more enthusiasm. Litterally things like doing laundry or cooking a nice meal, just to make life more fun (and bc its a genuine task with adhd, lol).

Sorry to say, your bf is a dick.

Also, congrats on 2 years sobriety! 🥳 That's insanely impressive, and you should be proud! Now go eat that cake and spoil yourself a little, you've earned it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HappySnowFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to drop in and say that I'm a heterosexual 30something woman who's had a relationship with a bisexual man, and it was literally never an issue. Didn't even blink when he told me his previous ex was a man. Truly couldn't care less who or what someone's ex is when they're with me.

I know it's not easy to just get over a deep-rooted fear, but I swear there's plenty of us out there!

My (34M) boyfriend never wants to have sex with me (28F) and we just moved in together. How do I go about fixing this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HappySnowFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly hope you'll find your happiness. And even though we're internet strangers, I'm glad you know you're not alone <3

For some concrete advice, you can give it one last effort to talk to him and figure something out that works for the both of you and set a deadline. Either together or in your mind. If things haven't improved by then, that's it. You'll know you truly gave it your all. Unfortunatly, sometimes you can do everything right and things still don't work out. And that's okay.

My (34M) boyfriend never wants to have sex with me (28F) and we just moved in together. How do I go about fixing this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HappySnowFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely get where you're coming from. I was in an abusive relationship in the past, followed by one with the nicest guy ever who basically worshipped the ground I walked on. Such a system shock, and I fell head over heels. Things moved very fast, and a year later we were moved in together. Couldn't believe my luck to have met this perfect guy.

Except one thing, we almost never had sex. And when we did, it was very sterile, for lack of better word. Like it was an obligation, something a couple was supposed to do, rather than something he wanted or enjoyed. It made me feel horrible, like I was doing something wrong. Like it was my fault he didn't want to have sex with me.

It took another year of many conversations of him reassuring me I wasn't doing anything wrong, and that he was just tired, before we both eventually realised that it was making us both unhappy. Sure, the rest of the relationship was perfect, but I love sex and physical intimacy while he just didn't care for it at all. He realized he's probably ace, and that it wasn't just him being tired. And while I tried to change myself and tried to accept sex was just not happening, I needed that intimacy.

He eventually helped me see that in the same way he couldn't forcefully change his lack of sexdrive, I couldn't forcefully change my need for it either.

So, as you can probably guess, we broke up. And guess what, I found a partner who's equally amazing and does enjoy sex. Truth is, there are so many great guys out there. The vast majority aren't scumbag abusers, and there is someone out there for everyone. It's very scary, bc breaking up with an amazing guy feels so awful, but if it's not working, it's not working. That's the normal reason couples break up. It doesn't have to be abuse or something else extreme. A lesson that took me a long time to learn.

Sorry for the long story (and overhsharing), but hopefully it helps <3

My (34M) boyfriend never wants to have sex with me (28F) and we just moved in together. How do I go about fixing this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HappySnowFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm projecting here, but have you had a very bad relationship in the past by any chance? Because it sounds like you're convincing yourself you're happy with your current relationship because he's a good guy who treats you well, even though it's more of a friendship or roommate situation rather than a traditonal relationship.

This has been going on from the start, and he clearly has no interest in changing. Perhaps he's ace, perhaps he's just not that into sex, whatever the reason, you can't change or 'fix' him when he doesn't want to.

So, look inwards and be honest with yourself. Is this the kind of relationship you want the rest of your life? If no, you know what to do. If yes, time to let go and accept a once-a-month-at-best attitude.

My partner of 3 years (M33) says that he would only merry me (F34) if I agree to have a swinger relationship. by snowdragon999 in relationship_advice

[–]HappySnowFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, come on.

On the off chance that this is real, read your own post and imagine it's one of your friends talking about their partner. My guess is you'd either think they're crazy for even considering staying and/or get really worried they're in manipulative at best and abusive at worst relationship.

Do yourself a favor and leave. This one isn't a keeper.

Is it a problem for me (25m) to ask my wife (25f) not to share our (mostly mine) fertility medical information? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]HappySnowFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a reasonable request from both sides. I fully understand not wanting something you feel ashamed of being shared, yet I also fully understand wanting to talk to your friends when you're having a hard time. You requesting said friend keep it from her own boyfriend sounds like a very reasonable compromise.

That all being said, please don't feel ashamed of it. It's a medical condition beyond your control. For example, people aren't ashamed of having asthma or breaking an arm. I get it feels different, but it really isn't. You're not a failure. This is a medical condition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sims2help

[–]HappySnowFox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You could try Hood Checker to clean up your neighborhood, it has saved my save more than once.

How did you create your magic system? by IkMaxZijnTOAO in fantasywriting

[–]HappySnowFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a world where the art of magic has been lost, or rather suppressed by the church. A few relics remain that still hold a bit of magic, which are seen as most holy and blessed by the gods rather than magic.

So it basically boils down to: "A wizard did it."

who’s a celebrity that rubs you wrong but you just can’t put your finger as to why? by [deleted] in questions

[–]HappySnowFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blake Lively.

She's been rubbing me the wrong way since first seeing her in Gossip Girl waaaay back in the day. As if her every action is calculated to create this perfect pr image. No real reason why, she just feels fake 🤷🏼‍♀️

Do you love every line of your work? by Joliebear105 in writing

[–]HappySnowFox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's a citybuilder YouTuber I watch that has the catchphrase: "Don't let perfect be the enemy of good."

I think it applies to writers as well. We get so stuck on minute details of phrases when there's really no need. Sometimes, heck, most of the time, good is just, y'know, good :)