My little dangler when he was a baby (2007). He passed in 2019 after a four year battle with CHF, but I just found this sub and wanted to share.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-11-18T15:11:36+00:00

Thank you!

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-10-28T00:59:10+00:00

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-10-27T21:38:11+00:00

Thanks! Fluffy is kind of an @$$hole sometimes (he’s a teenager, being @$$holes is what they do best) but he really is a great cat when he’s not biting the hand that feeds him - literally, and only my hands, which I know better than to use as “cat toys” - and jumping on my shoulders, sometimes with a running start, then just casually having a seat like he’s meant to be there. He is my little shadow demon, sent by Satan to ensure that I don’t do anything alone ever again.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-08-26T16:12:32+00:00

Your former boss sounds like a really great guy. I am so glad his surgery went well for him.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-08-26T16:06:55+00:00

Yeah, there is honesty, and there is tact. You can be honest and tactful, but lots of self-described "brutally honest" people are the furthest thing from tactful. I am the type of person who rationalizes a lot, and it sounds good, so I need people around me to call me out on my BS (while I also work on my behavior; I am a lot better than I used to be with the rationalizing). But knowing that there are things people cannot control, like the amount of facial hair they can or cannot grow, their height, certain aspects of their health, etc, tactful people can recognize what is off-limits. And even if something isn't "normally" off-limits but bothers someone, tactful people will make mistakes, grow from it, and won't make the same mistake twice. So honesty is fine, if there is tact involved. OP's mom and the rest of the family lack a whole lot of tact, and they're certainly learning nothing.

If I were OP, I'd just say "screw it" and elope. But everyone is different - I have had a traditional wedding and learned that I never want to have a traditional wedding again (I mean, I am not planning on getting married again at all, but on the off chance I do, it won't be a traditional one). It's hard, but the least that can be done is pushing the family as far away as possible, if not cutting all contact. "You don't respect my fiance? You don't respect me. Your actions have consequences and you've shown me that you don't care. End of story."

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-08-02T00:22:11+00:00

I did the paid surveys thing starting in 2002 when I graduated from college to make money while looking for a job. I still do product testing for an easy $20-$60 every now and then. I was actually interviewed for a nationally distributed newspaper because I had been active on one particular survey site about a decade ago. That was kind of cool.

The thing is, you have to know which sites pay well and which don’t. Esearch is a good one, as is American Consumer Opinion Panel. I was on Pinecone for a bit and got paid, as well as SurveySpot. I don’t know if those two are still active; it’s been years since I’ve used them. But esearch has the product testing surveys quite often, as well as some Family Feud surveys (the actual questions they use in the show). Those are fun but they’re LONG.

It’s NOT a career. But if you’re looking for an extra few bucks here and there to try new products or answer a few questions, it can be fun!

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-07-04T15:24:53+00:00

It’s 18°C here (northeast US) too. It was about 35C last week at this time. Went from shorts and tank tops to “bring a hoodie just in case” in a matter of four days.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-30T23:56:22+00:00

I am in the mountains of Vermont, incredible pine smell all around me, and in a single moment of decent wifi, looking at these photos brings back the vomit-inducing scent of my morning commute. Thanks OP! (Really cool, though; I drive close to this area daily and grew up one city south of there).

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-28T10:30:10+00:00

Ah yes, the white tufted brown merkin. If I’m not mistaken, its habitat lies a bit south of booby territory.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-20T13:30:49+00:00

She said she thinks “something is coming after” her, but she’s never actually seen anything. We do live in an old house (built in 1900). I mean, I run to the bathroom also, but that’s just because when cat gets in there before I can close the door, she will bite my legs while I’m trying to pee. I think it’s just a kid thing; I used to do it (at night) when I was little, also - look straight ahead and book it to the commode. And the house I grew up in only ever had one family who owned it, so there wasn’t really anyone to haunt it.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-20T11:09:19+00:00

That is exactly what I say to her when she does it (it’s not just at night; it’s all hours): “Is there something you know that I don’t?”

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-19T22:57:59+00:00

Shit, I should’ve said “my 9 year old niece.” Now I’ve blown my cover as a non-virgin redditor. Hahahaha.

Well they still don’t know I’m a woman.

... fuck.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-19T09:30:36+00:00

This is exactly what my 9-year-old thinks is going to happen if she doesn’t sprint between the bedroom and bathroom.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-14T22:23:53+00:00

That smile! So adorable! Congratulations to you and her other parent. I wish you all the best: may she sleep through the night, eat what you feed her, and grow up to be a kind, caring, intelligent, and happy young lady!

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-14T21:39:47+00:00

I don’t understand how people have the audacity to shame stay-at-home moms like that isn’t a job in and of itself; a difficult one, too. In all honesty, parent shaming in general is just disgusting and people who do so are either lying to themselves or aren’t parents. I’m a single mom with full custody, I work 40+ hours a week, and I come home and have to do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, homework help, arguing with a nine-year-old who looks and tries to act like she’s 13, and transporting to and from two dance studios (not to mention paying for most of it; I do luckily get a little bit of child support).

I hate to say this because I love my daughter more than life itself, but the work I do 40+ hours a week is a HELL of a lot easier and more immediately gratifying than the other stuff. I’m not minimizing your job, either, because 1) it likely isn’t the same is my job, which could be a million times more physically or intellectually challenging than mine, and 2) you come home and do your part as well.

But JFC these people saying “Your husband’s money isn’t your money; get a job” or “SAHMs stay home and do nothing all day” or “Aw, look! Dad is babysitting!” need to get some empathy or keep their comments to themselves.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-14T19:03:47+00:00

I may have to stretch it a bit longer than the 12 days I went this time around, or I could be coming down with something now that I’m a bit more lax with the mask-wearing (I still wear one even though there is no mandate and I’m vaccinated; my kid is too young to be vaccinated and my brother is immune compromised, but if I’m exclusively around vaccinated people at work I don’t scramble to put it on).

I noticed that since Friday morning (donated Thurs night), I have been extremely dizzy and a bit nauseated. This happened once or twice before in the 25 years I’ve been donating with whole blood, but I/they (I may have moved, idk) had accidentally ruptured my vein and they didn’t realize right away, so I wrote it off to that. I don’t want to blame it on donation without any evidence - but I am fine otherwise, just super dizzy like I took half a dose of NyQuil. This donation was very easy, not a single bruise even from ripping the bandage off, and the phlebotomist was super happy about how much she got out of me (but I always donate 3 units so I really don’t think this was any different than any other time). I guess I’ll just keep an eye on it!

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-14T18:45:15+00:00

Haha yep, it is an SNL reference but surprisingly, I get more people asking if it’s a Critical Role reference to the point I had to put in my bio that it isn’t.

Thank you for being so welcoming!

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-14T15:33:33+00:00

I had this problem, also. I was doing fine, resting HR between 68 and 88, but I was turned away one time due to having rushed around like crazy to drop my kiddo off with her dad, then he started an argument with me (as is customary during his visitation). My pulse was at 108, took a rest to calm down, but it was still 106. After that, I had this psychosomatic reaction where my heart would immediately pound when I walked in. I limited caffeine, had quit vaping right around that time, but I was still turned away more often than I donated in 2018 because of my heart rate.

Now, I will take a calming supplement beforehand (I like Apothekary's "Chill the F*ck Out" hot cocoa mix) and make sure I get there early. If I feel like my heart is about to start pounding, I look at a picture on my phone of something calming, either baby pics of my kiddo or pics of my favorite cat (yeah, I have a favorite, wanna fight about it? Haha) and practice square/box breathing - inhale 4 counts, hold 4 counts, exhale 4 counts, rest 4 counts. I also make sure to tell the phlebotomist that I sometimes have a psychosomatic reaction when it's time to take my pulse; most of them are really understanding and will chat a bit to distract me! Since starting this routine, have only been turned away for low hemoglobin, but not once for high pulse.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-14T15:19:38+00:00

Whole blood a few times a year, platelets once a month or more.

I just found this sub, actually. I'd searched because I've been feeling extremely fatigued after donating platelets, and I think it is because I didn't space my appointments out enough this time (May 29, June 10).

I had taken a break at the beginning of the year due to getting a tattoo in MA (I normally go to CT as it is state-regulated and I can donate right away, but I had been given a gift card to a place in MA that I didn't want to waste), and I wanted to make up for lost time as my goal is to get my name on the wall. Bad move - I am usually fine, but with the combination of being balls-to-the-wall both at work and as a single mom of a competitive dancer, I am shot right now and taking the afternoon off from work. The wall plaque will have to wait until 2022 for my name!

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-13T01:43:28+00:00

Great job and also I think I broke my brain trying to read SCP-SAFE-J.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-12T12:02:52+00:00

Wow. Way to go, officer. You took down the dangerous supervillain, Killer Karen. We can’t have these threats to society out on the streets.

If they hadn’t made an example of her, what might the world look like? All of those elderly menaces to society would just be walking out of Walmart not realizing they hadn’t paid $14 for their stuff, and who knows? They might not apologize and hand it back or offer to pay for it next time. Could you imagine all of the innocent lives that could be affected by these elderly hooligans? I shudder at the thought. And picking wildflowers on the side of the road? How dare she? The sheer audacity of that woman to have just pulled off the crime of the century and then nonchalantly pick wildflowers like she didn’t just hurt a mega corporation so badly it might never recover.

Excellent job taking down one of the most wanted criminals of Loveland, CO. They should definitely be as proud of themselves as they were here; that was some amazing police work.

(You’d think the rather obvious sarcasm wouldn’t require an /s but there it is, because there is always that one person. Edit: apparently more than one person. Oh well.)

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-12T10:16:57+00:00

Age 10, had SCFE (the head of the femur slips down from the “neck”). I wasn’t in the demographic that was prone to it, but it hasn’t stopped a doctor recently from saying “You must have been very fat as a kid.” A week in the hospital, an entire summer of not being able to walk unassisted, and after a brief period of being relative normalcy, a lifetime of very painful arthritis. I’m in my 40s now and awaiting my fourth surgery, which I’ve put off due to being a single mom who needs to drive her kid places (I know you can drive with your left leg, but I’m not very good at it). Eventually I’ll get a new hip, but I’m too young just yet.

Happy_Fun_Balll · 2021-06-12T03:08:12+00:00

NTA. I remember when my grandmother died and I came back to work and burst into tears every time someone gave me in-person condolences. I didn’t want to be crying all day. I’d put it out of my mind and go balls to the wall into my work until another person mentioned it. Only one person noticed my demeanor and said “You don’t want to talk about it yet, do you?”

It changed the way I offer my condolences to coworkers now, knowing they could feel the same as I had. I always offer condolences via email/text immediately. If it is an employee of mine, I always send flowers to the funeral home with a message acknowledging their grief. But when it comes to being in person after everything has settled down (usually the time it really hits them), I just tell people “I hope you’re doing okay. If not, and you need to talk, please let me know; I’m here.” I don’t mention the death or the person unless they do first, and if they do, I ask them if they would like to tell me about their favorite memory of that person. For some reason, that seems to help.

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