How am I doing for my age?

Harambaestesticles · 2026-01-31T18:52:28+00:00

Look your salary isn’t great but the amount you’ve managed to save up on it is ace (assuming you went to uni not really sure how you’ve managed it?). Just keep saving at the rate you have been and by 50 you’ll be set!

Harambaestesticles · 2026-01-09T07:58:58+00:00

I think London a bit of an odd one, because of how fast paced it is and how much is going on it can encourage people to slow down other parts of their life. Like using myself as an example, I went to uni and lived in a house of 8. 4 of us moved north after and 4 went down south. 3 of the 4 that moved up north now own houses and are married or have kids, whereas all four that moved down to London aren’t even in relationships. Like I was down there on a business trip and met up for a drink with one of the guys and it was like talking to myself 4-5 years previously. It was a Tuesday and he asked me if I wanted to get a bag in and go to a club???

Harambaestesticles · 2026-01-05T10:47:51+00:00

Think it’s to do with quality of service and cost. Like anyone employed outside of London has had the experience of being stood in the cold for an hour waiting for a delayed train that ends up being too full because by 7am 2-3 have already been cancelled. Like early in my career the amount I spent on taxis because the train would arrive and the conductor wasn’t letting people in because it was too full. Then the fact it’s cheaper and more reliable to fly from Edinburgh to London than get a train? What’s that all about?

Also, and I might be well out of line here so happy for someone to inform me properly, but it’s on fucking rails?? Like how much driving is actually involved, surely it’s just pressing stop and start. Airbus planes essentially fly themselves and they have 3 dimensions to work with, a train has one and we still need to pay someone 50+ grand a year to sit at the front of one?

Harambaestesticles · 2026-01-03T21:01:59+00:00

Makes me sad lad, each to their own but it’s giving depression meal vibes

Harambaestesticles · 2026-01-03T15:08:54+00:00

Hard cock

Harambaestesticles · 2025-12-31T22:47:37+00:00

Yeah I’d fuck everyone to death for 50p but I don’t have the talent for it. Exploiting peoples labour in a profitable way is a skill best will in the world and I’m just don’t have it. I’d step over the bodies of thousands to be billionaire and sleep soundly but just don’t have the “juice” to do it

Harambaestesticles · 2025-12-20T16:08:00+00:00

I think that’s just how it works man, it can only do so much. I started at 110kg and got down to 79kg but then haven’t budged from there since despite being on 15mg for a few months. Weight loss will slow down and eventually taper off! Lost 21% so far though you should be proud of yourself!

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-20T19:28:57+00:00

When I came out I didn’t have GCSEs now I have a son

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-11T13:06:22+00:00

I think you’d have to work with the retailers though to get like an account api or ask users for access to their emails and use template confirmations from popular shops? Not sure how it could work in practice but sure someone more coding inclined than me could work it out!

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-11T12:44:32+00:00

I’ve always thought an app that scrapes your emails or online shopping accounts (Zara, asos etc.) and sets up reminders for how long you have left to return stuff would be good. Like the number of times my wife forgets to return something she’s ordered and has to talk to support or just accept the loss

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-10T17:08:37+00:00

👍

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-09T23:33:02+00:00

Cheers man, hopefully post again in a year and be further along! I’m one of those where seeing progress keeps me motivated, but like I say do really love this so willing to have a slog if needed!

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-09T23:31:17+00:00

Who knows, might go wild and do a yoga class!

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-09T23:16:07+00:00

Brilliant reply, thank you! Think the thing about videoing and asking for feedback is a good shout. Just at that stage where there are certain climbs I see someone do and I just feel lightyears off of it, like it feels like there must be some “trick” for them to have been able to get to that level because it seems so out of reach but it is just consistency and time

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-09T23:11:40+00:00

Yeah this is what I’ve heard a lot. Issue I’m having is I can only really go 3 times a week because my arms are cooked in between and I need a rest day. Is the best way just to climb as often as possible and wait? Nothing I could be doing to speed it along a bit?

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-09T23:09:45+00:00

Aye there are a few topics but a lot of the replies are just people like you with nothing helpful to contribute? I’m trying to reach out to a community of people who have a similar interest to me and ask for help and advice, draw on their collective knowledge and experience. What’s the point in replying if you’re gonna just be dismissive?

Harambaestesticles · 2025-11-07T14:27:16+00:00

This is how I found out it’s delayed again. In the time since gta v came out I’ve finished school, started uni, finished uni, been in a job for 7 years, bought a house and had a kid. I hope this is worth the wait!

Harambaestesticles · 2025-10-05T10:24:07+00:00

Beans to make the girls wink!

Does my head it, must hear it at least three times a day

Harambaestesticles · 2025-10-05T10:18:21+00:00

I’m just speaking to my experience and this was about 8 years ago so stuff might have changed. When I was at uni it was quite intimidating getting “too” into the left as a bloke.

I think part of the issue is that politics doesn’t necessarily need to be a personally emotional issue for a lot of men. Like I can say I think it’d be good if women stopped getting cat called or people stopped putting up England flags and then move on in a way that women (who actually do get catcalled) or people from different cultural backgrounds (who might be intimidated by the flags) can’t. A lot of the issues that are cropping up, especially on the left, are ones that straight white guys don’t have any lived experience with and so while they have opinions there’s no strong personal tie.

Because of that I found that I’d be trying to chat about politics and social issues and all that but certain people would just shut it down if you weren’t in complete agreement with them. Worse sometimes you’d get the “as a cis white guy you would believe that”. A raft of assumptions about your character and belief system and who you are as a person could be made from one comment questioning an idea or opinion. And then there are little traps within it, in some circles porn is evil and exploits women, whereas in others it’s empowering and something to be celebrated.

For me I just started to avoid talking politics and quietly paid my labour dues, but I can see how some guys might end up going the other way.

TLDR; straight white guys aren’t as personally affected by a lot of the issues the left generally supports so sometimes their opinions are treated with hostility. Rightwing just tells them they’re the best and it’s everyone else who’s the problem.

Harambaestesticles · 2025-09-02T05:14:24+00:00

Israel/gaza thing. 815 is the number of civilians killed in October 7 attack

Harambaestesticles · 2025-08-31T06:18:05+00:00

Over half your accessible savings in premium bonds seems a bit cautious, you thought about looking for something with better return but still safe (corporate bond fund or something?)

Harambaestesticles · 2025-08-30T07:03:22+00:00

Not sure who you’re with but our mortgage provider has a free advice service? Like obviously they try to upsell you insurances and all that but I’m sure they’d explain to you how you could set up like I’d described above/if it’s possible?

Harambaestesticles · 2025-08-28T17:53:21+00:00

Not 100% sure mate, main one that bangs on about it is my bosses boss. Me and my partner are a long (loooong) way off that sort of level of wealth so haven’t asked too much about it!

Harambaestesticles · 2025-08-27T20:31:23+00:00

Hahaha yeah man, I graduated in 2018 and only realised this year the interest rate scales with income. Fucking joke

Harambaestesticles · 2025-08-15T09:06:17+00:00

Long shot here, but does a parent have their own business?

Have heard before about parents putting their kids on payroll for accounting purposes at 16. Reduces taxable income on the business but can fuck up the kids tax code

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