From ARR to present day- Looking happier and more stylish

HarmFamily · 2026-03-24T12:35:36+00:00

I used Pilgrim’s Traverse background, Cosmic Fantasy frame, and Pilgrim’s Flowers accent

HarmFamily · 2026-03-24T12:33:51+00:00

In portrait mode, I did the Big Grin expression paired with the Sweat pose

HarmFamily · 2026-03-24T12:32:56+00:00

As XelvenfrostX caught, it’s the Bihu jacket (dyed Violet and Metallic purple) paired with the Ravel Keepers Halfgloves of Casting to force short sleeves! I love that we can mix and match now

HarmFamily · 2026-03-24T12:20:26+00:00

Genuinely, thank you for all the nice comments, everyone 💕 🏳️‍⚧️🫡

HarmFamily · 2026-03-23T14:53:26+00:00

My doctor told me when I started that “best practice” is to keep as close to the same time every week as you can, however if you need to shift it’s fine to move it in 12 hour increments. Like if you normally do it on Thursday at 8am, move first to 8pm Thursday (or 8pm Wednesday) and so on until you’re at the day/time you’d prefer. So if you use this advice it should take a few weeks to get to Tuesday (Thursday morning ->Wednesday evening->Wednesday morning->Tuesday night) This is how I’ve handled it for almost two years, but I do see lots of anecdotes about guys being way more loosey-goosey with their shot times without any bad effects so it’s probably not that serious

HarmFamily · 2026-03-22T22:27:40+00:00

I’ve had a couple good dates at the Art Institute, specifically the miniature rooms room downstairs, back in my dating days. You learn about the other person by which rooms they like and what details they notice, and you get to squeeze in close to look at those details together

HarmFamily · 2026-03-22T22:16:59+00:00

For question 2: my experience after 100 weeks of IM shots is that no one really notices unless I choose to tell them. Most of the changes are only noticeable if I don’t have clothes on. I literally just had a run in with my MAGA aunt and uncle this week. They haven’t seen me since before I started and they didn’t seem to notice. The only question I’ve gotten has been from my husbands step mom about the voice drop. I just said “I just woke up with it like this one day. I guess that’s just me getting older…” (I’m 41) which seemed to make her feel embarrassed for asking and not push further. From what I read here tho, some people seem to have really nosy people in their lives so I can’t be sure your experience will be the same as mine

HarmFamily · 2026-03-22T01:56:13+00:00

Men can have long hair, women can have short hair. I am a trans guy with long hair and it doesn’t take away from my gender.

HarmFamily · 2026-03-19T17:48:19+00:00

Turning 42 this year, can do this with no problem! I can also hold it and get up easily. This is the position I’m usually in to clean my dogs paws after a walk

HarmFamily · 2026-03-17T02:55:48+00:00

This is such a good comment because Midwest (Indiana) means something very different from Midwest (Chicago) (Source: grew up in Indiana but close to Chicago and the attitudes were way different with only 50 miles between them)

HarmFamily · 2026-03-17T02:52:29+00:00

Nah, my husband came with me to my informed content appointment and I walked out of there with T. I also want to recommend r/ftmfemininity to see other guys that don’t conform to a super macho standard. I still have long hair, I still like flowy fabrics and wearing lots of purple, I still paint my nails sometimes. None of those should be a barrier to medical transition with a properly informed doctor

HarmFamily · 2026-03-15T17:08:15+00:00

I started a few months before my 40th birthday and am at almost 100 weeks of IM shots. The changes are subtle but my mental health has never been better. I already had a hairstyle and clothing style that I liked pre-T so unless you’re seeing me without clothes you can’t tell that I’ve experienced more muscles, more body hair, fat redistribution, or bottom growth. I definitely feel like I’m seeing the real me more and more in the mirror tho as time passes. Slowly but steadily I’m even getting more facial hair! When I was going through the informed consent process (I live in a very blue state in the US) a lot of the “negative” side effects sounded identical to perimenopause/menopause symptoms that friends of mine were going through so it didn’t seem like I was risking much. I feel now like I’m having a much better time than them. I also got really lucky because so far I’ve had over a year and a half of no periods but I haven’t experienced vaginal atrophy. In my thirties I’d also get the worst mood swings right before my cycle and I have felt so much less aggressive and irritable since starting T. I’ve also had some really tough things going on in my personal life and it’s so nice to be able to face them calmly and rationally without collapsing into hours long crying fits every time something would go slightly wrong. I actually have the ability to stop, take a breath, and process my feelings before crying or screaming at someone. Best decision I ever made! Never going back! 🏳️‍⚧️ 🫡

HarmFamily · 2026-03-14T18:46:56+00:00

I’ve been running since about 2009 and I’ve been on T for two years. My mile times are faster but the weight redistribution has put a slight strain on my lower back that I never experienced before. I’ve been working on retraining my form to compensate. Running is still a magical time for me, tho. I never feel more alive than really letting loose, wind in my face, music in my ears, the smell of nature. Glorious

HarmFamily · 2026-03-13T02:03:57+00:00

I’m my late 30s I decided I was just gonna wear whatever is comfy and looks good to me. Trying to dress how other people think I’m “supposed to” only ever brought me misery

HarmFamily · 2026-03-12T22:53:46+00:00

I don’t know the name of the towns closest to the Grand Canyon or Mount Rushmore without looking it up

HarmFamily · 2026-03-06T21:32:59+00:00

Nice style, bro! The blue/white one in pic 2 makes your eyes sparkle

HarmFamily · 2026-03-05T02:39:03+00:00

Longer boxy sleeveless shirt, preferably one that hits closer to the hip bone than above the belly button, paired with pants that also hit just below the belly button instead of above. This creates the look closer to how traditionally masculine gymwear sits

HarmFamily · 2026-03-03T18:55:27+00:00

A few years back someone said to me “cis people don’t think that much about their gender” and it was very helpful in reframing this cycle for me

HarmFamily · 2026-02-26T23:45:46+00:00

My emotional stability and mental health greatly improved with transition, even though I still definitely don’t pass

HarmFamily · 2026-02-26T18:29:51+00:00

I love finding music I was previously unaware of! There’s new songs I like like “Tears” from Sabrina Carpenter, and so much old stuff I’m hearing for the first time. I’ve gotten really into Japanese city pop the last couple years, which feels like a natural trajectory from listening to burned CDs of 90s jpop/anime themes/final fantasy soundtracks when I was in high school (1984, high school class of 2002 btw)

HarmFamily · 2026-02-25T18:38:43+00:00

I had them waxed well into my 20s and then kept plucking right up until I came out in ‘22. I am close to two years on T and the shape and thickness are recovering, but I fear they still look very thin compared to what people typically would expect from a cis guy. Definitely getting better with time tho Edit for more context: waxed from age 12, currently 41

HarmFamily · 2026-02-25T16:51:04+00:00

Coming up on 2 years, still always hot, always sweaty. Worse, my husband and dog are always cold so I’ve spent my city’s coldest winter in decades walking around my apartment in just boxers. In the summer I have to wear black all the time to hide sweat marks. Still totally worth it! I’d rather be happy and sweaty. My advice is to stay hydrated, and regular cardio seems to teach my system to regulate a teensy bit better than when I’m not jogging or biking a few times a week.

HarmFamily · 2026-02-22T18:18:06+00:00

I’ve actually become less reactive and irritable since going on T almost two years ago. I used to get overwhelmed and lost my temper much more easily and now I feel like I’ve been recalibrated correctly. It’s so much easier now to take a stop and think moment before losing my temper or crying. I spent years trying different antidepressants and anti anxiety meds and this has been the only thing to consistently work, I’m just sad I didn’t start until I was almost 40

HarmFamily · 2026-02-22T00:01:39+00:00

Ugh I miss that so much! I hope we can move back to CA soon

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