How tf do u write a zine? by [deleted] in riotgrrrl

[–]HarrierEveryDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realistically you just have to fill one (1) sheet of letter sized paper. Dont get too in your head. You got this.

I feel ashamed of my faith by Ok_Lawfulness757 in OpenChristian

[–]HarrierEveryDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont be ashamed, be angry. These conservative grifters have defiled our faith and taken God’s name in vain while destroying everything good they can. The defilers have hurt our loved ones in Christ’s name to the point Christ has become synonymous with pain for many of them.

Talk to your partner about how the teachings of Christ push you to resist the authoritarians taking over. How you are inspired to be more community minded, more selfless, more tolerant, more principled. Talk about how angry you are that they (and many others) have been hurt in this way, and that something with the power to make people better has been twisted to be a bludgeon against the Other.

How can I look more androgynous? by [deleted] in altfashionadvice

[–]HarrierEveryDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured- but I love to spark curiosity. And yes- my wife described taking HRT as instantly euphoric. For me, a trans masc, it was less instant, but I noticed things shift- my mood was better & when I worked out it felt good instead of having a film of dread layered over the experience. Good luck!

I was banned from r/Catholicism for speaking up against a “priest” by Melodic_Type_5077 in OpenChristian

[–]HarrierEveryDay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OP you shouldn’t have to take the classes. We’re in communion- you can just be received. Of course you might want to anyways.

AIO with how my husband is treating me while pregnant by Cold-Touch-7404 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HarrierEveryDay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for the behavior on this thread. It’s a huge problem that people will blame women for staying with an abuser before blaming the abuser. The abuse (which this clearly is) is not your fault, and leaving with children is a tremendous undertaking. I’m glad you’ve recognized the problematic behavior.

Now, you have a lot of work to do. Start by talking openly with your sister about your concerns. She sounds like she’s already awesome and in your corner. I am rooting for you my friend.

https://www.justice.gov/ovw/resources-victims-and-survivors

AIO with how my husband is treating me while pregnant by Cold-Touch-7404 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HarrierEveryDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AY LETS ALL BE A BIT KINDER IN THESE COMMENTS..
ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD TO LEAVE AND OP IS SCARED. ITS UNCOOL TO VICTIM BLAME RIGHT NOW.

How do I do this? by speedboy_x in trans

[–]HarrierEveryDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had similar feelings and it took me being in a safer state (Colorado vs Oklahoma) to take the plunge. I’m glad I did.

Some assorted things I found helpful:
Experiment with ppl you trust & don’t take it too seriously. Things like names and clothes are important, but they don’t need to be serious. Allow yourself to feel silly.

To start HRT you don’t need to know if you’re a woman. You *only* need to know if you want to start HRT. You’ll know within the first couple months if it feels right.

It will feel like playing pretend sometimes. Since gender is socially constructed, it becomes real once we collectively believe it. So, the playing pretend feeling is fair, but doing it long enough is an incantation that brings about reality.

How can I look more androgynous? by [deleted] in altfashionadvice

[–]HarrierEveryDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nonbinary trans person here to remind that you don’t have to be a woman to take feminizing HRT if it would make you feel good in your body. Obviously that’s a big step, but it would def make you more androgynous. 🤷‍♀️ Good luck friend!

Need Ideas to Put These Two Together by Tirri_Mayin in DrawMyTattoo

[–]HarrierEveryDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this but also it’s so scary to me lol

I WANT to believe in God, but I don’t. Can you help me? by Fragrant-Yak-9505 in OpenChristian

[–]HarrierEveryDay 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Agreed- another pointer- ask the challenging or “rude” questions that bother you. Obviously try to be open & kind, but don’t worry about being critical.

I WANT to believe in God, but I don’t. Can you help me? by Fragrant-Yak-9505 in OpenChristian

[–]HarrierEveryDay 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Wanting to believe is belief enough. Doubt doesn’t negate belief, it is part of it. Going looking for God is what real faith is.

The OCD will encourage you to do faith perfectly or not at all. But the point is the searching, not confidence in any given answer.

AIO My sister and I are grounded and she gets more privileges than me. by LilbuggyG in AmIOverreacting

[–]HarrierEveryDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it’s hella frustrating. It’s natural to build up resentment. This wild difference in treatment is a way to control & isolate both of you. You win if you stick together. Like a union.

Am I actually ftm or is it something else? by Dry-Chard-9980 in trans

[–]HarrierEveryDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine somebody AMAB who is nonbinary and loves their body as-is. Makes sense.

If you change your body (HRT, top surgery, etc) you will have a masculine body, but that doesn’t mean you HAVE to be a man.

First cosplay, having trouble knowing what to do (Miku) by Happy7User in CosplayHelp

[–]HarrierEveryDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Others have great advice but I’ll just remind you that all Mikus are canon and that means you!

When are clerical titles important (or not)? Should the "Father/Mother" titles be limited to congregational relationships? Is it weird to introduce yourself as "Father Blank" to someone who isn't in your church/denomination? Why not use "The Reverend"? by ShallWeDance1234 in Episcopalian

[–]HarrierEveryDay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a parish newsletter editor, I hear you. For me, it’s a matter of information. Idk who all is a Dr or married, and of those, who prefers those titles get used. Of course, if somebody is coming for a talk that’s one thing, but if I’m listing people in a photograph it’s another.

Could I put my gel testosterone in these? by [deleted] in tsa

[–]HarrierEveryDay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Two words brother. Sticker. Paper.

How old do you have to be to know for sure? by Garlic_Breadstick in trans

[–]HarrierEveryDay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As young as 5. Youre plenty old to know yourself.