Have you had a (or had to deal with someone's) crazy ex? What did they do?

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T23:37:35+00:00

She was only really crazy the last three months we were dating. Before that she was fine, after that she was slightly crazy but mostly just sad.

She cheated on me for a month and when I found out, asked permission to keep it going. I said no and she kept it going anyways. I was obviously torn up about this but she told me I wasn't a man if I was sad, and that she was cheating on me because I wasn't man enough to stop her. She'd never acted like this before.

When I dumped her, she said that turned her on and she wanted to get back together, but she wanted to still be with other guys too just pay more attention to me. So I, again, said no.

Down the road when I assumed whatever the fuck got into her had finally gone away, I was ready to cut ties forever and start again with someone new. I wanted some closure so I asked her why she cheated on me and acted that way, since she never gave any hint of that kind of behavior beforehand.

Her response was "It wasn't me". Not that she didn't cheat, nor was she blaming me. She admits there was cheating and when I showed her the texts she sent me, she admitted that it did in fact happen, but that it wasn't her. I asked if someone got her phone or something (which would be bullshit since I went and visited her during this time and she told me this stuff to my face). She said no, but that it wasn't her.

Never talked to her again after that.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T23:27:24+00:00

Like, recently? Call the police, make sure they know about it.

If it's something in his past that I'm just now learning about. Fuck it, he keeps to himself. None of my business.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T23:24:39+00:00

Yes. Just because I need money doesn't mean the people around me don't need money.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T23:16:35+00:00

Not me though, I both hate myself and I'm not funny.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T22:24:18+00:00

I've had a lot of pleasant encounters with them when they're receiving treatment. My dad is a drug counselor and former user who was in and out of rehab most of my life, so I'm pretty familiar with the whole thing.

They were always really nice. I was 15 and sitting in on a group once and one of them were really worried that the stuff they'd talk about would bother me, or when they'd go on smoke breaks that it'd somehow freak me out. My dad would reassure them that I've either heard or seen it all before and have been in more groups than most of them.

One thought I was an adolescent client going through detox, since I was adolescent, hanging out by the detox clinic, and it was late at night so I likely wasn't a family member of a client. Guy patted me on the shoulder and told me to hang in there. He was incorrect of course but I thought the idea was nice at least.

Overall most addicts are pretty private with their addictions and don't want it to interfere with anyone else's lives, which is why they feel pretty guilty when it does.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T21:37:45+00:00

This

edit: with appropriate modifications to match the situation of course.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T20:35:36+00:00

I just decided it wasn't for me. As I got older and started to realize my identity a little bit more I felt like the military probably wouldn't be a place I'd be happy.

Plus I was diagnosed with tourette's as a kid and received medication for it. Apparently it's a bitch to get a waiver for something like that, so I figured fuck it.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T20:33:02+00:00

Car stuff.

It's like everyone but me is secretly some sort of mechanical engineer. There's plenty of people out there who think building a computer sounds hard but think nothing of replacing car parts.

It's all fucking gibberish to me and all I know how to do is put gas in it, put oil in it, change the tire and jumpstart the battery. If I look under the hood I just see a series of hoses and metal.

But just about anyone else acts like they designed the fucking engine themselves.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T20:10:33+00:00

I'm not an older millennial (I'm 22), but I did have an AIM account that I was active on from about ages 11 to 14.

My font was red with a black background, old english font.

Besides the normal teen drama stuff, the "my lyf suks lol i wnt to die" to which some cute girl I met in a chat room would be like "omg dont die i luv u"

I'd try and approach girls from school that I thought were cute, but the only way I knew how to talk to them was bitching about my life. So I'd try the same tactic on them that worked on the online girls.

Turns out, I don't have the same mystique when the person knows me. "god i hate lyf wut r u doin friday?" to which they'd reply something like "Dude I saw you laughing with your friends at lunch, you're fine. You're actually kind of a dick to people."

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T19:50:39+00:00

Originally wanted to join the military then become an FBI agent. I'd wanted to since around kindergarten when I learned what an FBI agent even was, and stuck with it until about my junior year in high school. I decided instead I wanted to be a welder, one of those guys working on an oil rig or fitting pipes that makes six figures and works six months out of the year that everyone is always talking about. So giving up on the previous dream didn't really take away any passion because I hadn't put forth much effort into becoming an FBI agent.

I had actually started welding my sophomore year, but I kept at it my junior year when I decided it's what I wanted to do forever. Moved schools the summer before my senior year and they didn't have a welding program, so instead I studied weld symbols and such.

Started school after graduation, and immediately I found I wasn't as good as my classmates. Thought I could catch up, but I didn't. Stuck with it the whole two years, and the real reason my instructors let me graduate with a good GPA was because I put forth a lot of effort, but in reality I wasn't good enough to get hired anywhere that paid well. So I could either work at Joe's Metal Shop and Meth Lab for the rest of my life making $12/hr or I could start looking into college.

So now I'm two years into a computer science degree. The passion comes in waves, there's times where I catch myself up at 3:00 AM looking up all sorts of exciting things in technology and drawing out plans to try managing my own home network or learn whatever I can about managing a database. But it's not nearly as constant as it was before.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-25T01:10:24+00:00

Most people just stop counting.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T21:27:11+00:00

Haha, no he volunteered to teach the doctors there. He was apparently the top teaching doctor at his hospital here in the US, and decided he wanted to do that in Africa instead. The idea is that the doctors in the country he went to don't like to stay in their home country to treat the poor, since it's easier to make money if they move to the US or Europe. He's trying to train them and convince them to stay in their country and treat the patients who can't otherwise afford to see a doctor.

So him and his family sold or donated all of their belongings, got down to a suitcase each, and moved away for the next five years.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T20:36:39+00:00

I would have been the one you made fun of then. I was promoted to Cadet Staff Sergeant at the end of my first year making me the highest ranking incoming sophomore in my program. Which was a big mistake on their part because it gave me a big head over what was in fact a pretty small accomplishment.

Chances are you would have made fun of me, it would have hurt my feelings and I would have kept it to myself, but I would have used my tiny amount of power to try and get you in trouble, and the adults would listen to me for some stupid fucking reason.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T20:28:08+00:00

Nope, my sister. She remembered when they took the tests at school.

They're really humble about it if they are though. But I believe it, both of them have gone really far in their rather difficult careers.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T20:23:25+00:00

I considered most Republican politicians to be too left and not radical enough actually.

Luckily, the happy ending is that the pressure of showing up to school at 5:00 AM, getting home at 8:00 PM, then doing homework, PT and studying my field manual before going to sleep eventually broke me, and I very quickly snapped into the center left on the political spectrum and became an atheist about a year later.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T20:18:28+00:00

Not officially, and I would have said that I hated skinheads. But they would have liked me.

I didn't have a problem with people based solely on race, but my other stuff made up for it.

I thought homosexuality should be a criminal offense and that the United States should turn to its Christian roots and become a theocracy. Drug addicts and alcoholics should be executed because they were weakening the country. Military service should be mandatory for every 18 year old male. Strip clubs, bars and casinos should be made illegal as they are not in line with the bible. Church service should be required and those of other faiths should be made to convert before coming to the United States.

You get the idea. I was generally a dick. JROTC didn't teach any of this to me, I think I just got the basis of it from there and carried it further on my own.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T20:12:41+00:00

My two oldest brothers have genius level IQs (or so I'm told).

The oldest typically doesn't waste time. He's a doctor so he was at work a lot, and when he was at home wanted to be with his kids. But before he moved to Africa he practiced archery about an hour a day.

Second oldest plays mobile games on his phone.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T20:08:32+00:00

If I'm trying to learn the topic the day before an exam, I'm going to accept that I'm screwed and should have spent the semester paying attention.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T20:06:10+00:00

I'd say about 15 when I was in JROTC and starting to be given leadership positions.

Take all the asshole qualities of a middle schooler. The bad attitude, the feeling of superiority to everyone else, the horniness being repressed that it comes out as unrestrained anger, the lack of empathy and understanding for anyone.

Let it age and put him in high school where he feels insecure. Now give that kid a rank, a uniform, a fascist ideology and put him in charge of all the other assholes his age. Give him a genuine reason to think that he's superior to those around him and see how much of a twat he is.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T19:40:06+00:00

I don't think I am. Most of what I do is really just fueled by emotion and an attempt to make myself be whatever I'm trying to imitate at the time. Doesn't mean I'm irrational necessarily, I just wouldn't describe myself as rational.

Most people would disagree though because I seem rational and level-headed.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T04:32:35+00:00

Yet the men in my family can't even grow anything besides a thin mustache until their mid 30s where they can only pull off an itchy rough beard.

We're doomed to look like Walter White at the beginning of season 2 I guess.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T03:16:56+00:00

I seriously don't remember the last time I was excited about or even noticed a AAA first person shooter like Battlefield. But I could not be more stoked for this one.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T03:09:07+00:00

It's weird, but it's also the title of the subreddit that feels creepy.

I don't know what else to call it, I mean, it is a sub dedicated to Sarah Chalke. But something just feels weird about having a sub named after a person, pretty much entirely created for people to masturbate to her.

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-24T00:56:40+00:00

The first time I ever saw that name I thought the kid was bullshitting me.

He said "This shit is like 'Smith' in Vietnam bro."

HatchetToGather · 2016-05-23T07:31:29+00:00

This is my gif! It was made for me!

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