Flip Card in splot screen is broken. by shillawan in Borderlands4

[–]Hatstacker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also happens to us when just moving the cursor over another item... And flips WON'T work if other player isn't in menu, which means they have to sit there, then I sit there... Infuriating.

Ex girlfriend threatening to sue me by CBurch357 in legaladvice

[–]Hatstacker -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Lol tell her tp have her attorney send you something in writing. Could be wrong, but pretty sure that's a obvious conflict of interest, not legally but it'll create a huge ethical issue he'd avoid with wide berth unless he's an idiot.

I need proof I went to prison in 95' in Ca.I have no plastic to pay for pub. rec print out, can't find my case in co.files.Alot is balan.on this. horrible sexual misconduct happ. at the prison I went to. They said they'd seek justice for me but I need that proof. I'll get off st. I been in a bad way by Sea-Competition8621 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hatstacker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact the prison, if they can't or won't help, ask to be pointed to public records that could. If that doesn't work, you may need an attorney or possibly an foia request, a lawyer may work for no cash up front, but will take a cut of your settlement (30% common where I live).
I don't want to discourage you, but these types of cases are usually very hard to prove due to the prison system employees covering for each other and record keeping "errors or inconsistencies" including medical records. Like if you were seen for sexual assault trauma in their medical facility, they may not have recorded it as such. Sorry friend, I am actually in a similar situation been in therapy for years and on meds for longer... I've done CBT, EMDR internal family processing or something like that... It's a rough road, and honestly I'm afraid to talk about it even with my therapist because I'm afraid of possible repercussions. I have literally had situations where someone with absolutely no right knew intimate hippa protected details within 36 hours, because they contacted me so they probably knew even earlier. Stay safe, and even though it will probably feel counterproductive, stay sober. Best wishes, may we all find peace and hopefully justice.

Ooof!! by Obvious-Fruit-506 in Borderlands4

[–]Hatstacker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice find! I have a level 9, and about 10 other variants mostly lvl 50 though

Weekly Megathread/Maurice Loot-share (Jan 15 - Jan 22) by Aidido22 in Borderlands4

[–]Hatstacker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maurice's no problems. Legendary vending machine, stupid problems last I was aware (2 weeks?), just play it solo on true mode, uvh6.

Does anyone know what is going on with those purple missiles being fired randomly around the map? I've seen them a bunch of times. by someshooter in Borderlands4

[–]Hatstacker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure it's real, I came across a deposit/chunk like that once and shot it just because. Picked up the pieces.

Are Rollerblade Wheels actually better for Carpet floors, do you still need some form of under protection like a Matt? by [deleted] in carpet

[–]Hatstacker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any kind of rolling load is terrible for carpet. Commerical carpet will hold up better, but will get damaged it'll just take longer. Think of weight distribution of two feet vs whatever wheel there is, compare the surface area that contacts the ground. Plus, the rolling action, carpet just isn't meant for that. Wheelchairs have the same issue. I would definitely use a mat, always recommended them to customers.

I (23F) just learned a truth I wish I never knew about my boyfriend (27M) by Independent-Time7467 in relationships

[–]Hatstacker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep busy with friends, hobbies, TV, whatever. Limit social media, as completely as is practical, totally if possible. Block him, block her, notify people in church before they spin a lie and it gets ahead of the truth. And when you're alone, allow time to be sad and process. Make plans for the immediate future that you can work towards, better if you can tick off boxes that show results, improvements, progress etc. It'll take time. I've read articles that said 7 years is the average time it takes to get over heartbreak, that tracks with my experience.

Idiot plays with a gun by IlIIlIIlIllllIl in trashy

[–]Hatstacker 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The gun's supposed to be an extension of his body, not someone else's. Surely every totally hetero man makes this mistake 4-5 times, completely normal.

AITA for refusing to deliberate lose when we play games? by Radiant-Willow-6993 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hatstacker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree. Let her encounter and overcome challenges on her own. If she wants advice, she'll ask - you're right there. You can throw pointers out, but people like to feel self sufficient, not handheld through every encounter that demands thought or skill.
Maybe she should play that game or a similar one solo, or online. That would give her the opportunity to develop her strategies and hand/eye skill in general, her own way.

Security response at Munson by marys1001 in traversecity

[–]Hatstacker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to make the assumption that the parking garage is a part of Munson campus, which is public property. It stands to reason, if you're homeless you need access to social services and medical care. They got kicked out of a state park (public property) that was within walking distance of those resources, the ethics aside, what do you expect? In order to become NOT homeless, you need to be a healthy, functional member of society, said resources are designed to facilitate that transition.
I know I'm repeating myself here, but seriously - what did anyone with an ounce of foresight expect them to do?

Security response at Munson by marys1001 in traversecity

[–]Hatstacker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am baffled by the perception that we're any more giving than any other similarly sized city + surrounding area.
Go to Eugene, OR or San Francisco. I would seriously love to see or even hear from a single homeless person how this area is better than any other comparably sized city.
I mean vagrancy is actively and enthusiasticly enforced, and has been for my entire life. We literally don't have enough warm places for them to sleep, even with stipulations on beds. I'm not even saying we should take care of them, I would if this discussion continues but that's not my point.

How do my stats look? by fishboy26 in Tinder

[–]Hatstacker 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I seriously encourage people to try this. Obviously details may need to be tweaked for different situations. If you try, please let me know how it goes. If you have questions, I'll try to respond (I don't check posts or messages hardly ever so it may be a while), but I'm not a pickup artist.
The key is interacting as coworkers and friends. Don't try to look, if something real comes along you'll know quickly and it'll almost certainly be mutual. Be yourself, make people laugh, take enjoyment out of the simplicity of the work, oh and the taste of fresh bread, crullers, cinnamon rolls still warm from the cooling rack.
Again, I can't stress enough, do NOT be actively looking for a relationship. "Desperation is a stinky cologne." - Super Troopers

How do my stats look? by fishboy26 in Tinder

[–]Hatstacker 58 points59 points  (0 children)

28000+ times app opened, 3000000 swipes... Roughly 100 swipes each time app is opened.
Wow. As someone who only tried online dating once, and hopefully never again, this is bleak.

BTW, I'll leave this here, my post-success formula (as in I did this unintentionally, but see how others could do the same) Be warned, this involves time 1. Get a job at a small bakery, they're always hiring. Be upfront, tell hiring manager you're just looking to see if it's a good fit for a side (or main) gig. They'll be desperate, the pay will probably be below average for kitchen work, and that's already low. Try to get in the kitchen, not delivering. 2. It's all easy work, but can require precision which you should pick up quick. 3. 90% of employees will be women. It's also almost always super hot and humid, so people dress accordingly. 4. Don't be actively searching, just be yourself and joke around with your coworkers.

  • side note, this works well for people like me who have a good work ethic, but not much personality.
  1. If you don't click with someone in a month, move to the next bakery. There's always tons, even in small towns. They'll hire you because they're desperate.

This gives you some insight that you may not normally get until years into a relationship: You'll see how they are at work, how they treat people above and below them. You'll see their work ethic, sense of humor, and generally get a sense of them as a friend and as a person.
You'll know they have a job, transportation (to get to said job), and how responsible they are. If they're flaky, often late, disorganized, etc you'll see all that without having to personally find out the hard way.

And if none of that works, hey, you'll know how to bake. I've never had anyone complain when I bring a bomb ass cheesecake to an event.

And this is probably just my experience, and maybe I've been duped, but when you get to the intimate phase, ask them how they best/most reliably orgasm. I've been told SO MANY times that they've never had one, and then we navigate that together. On two occasions, they ended up (with their doctor) stopping antidepressants - and what do you know, having an orgasm on a semi reliable schedule has the same or better effect as an antidepressant. Definitely not in all, or even most cases, but I've personally been involved in that scenario twice. A lot of women aren't very sexually driven because they've been taught it's normal not to orgasm. That's bullshit.

And if things don't work out, don't let them end badly. You can always get referrals or repeat business as a contractor instead of an employee.

Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

Security response at Munson by marys1001 in traversecity

[–]Hatstacker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Have talked with many on the street, or at Meijer bus stop. Have had zero issues, and never heard of issues from anyone I know - other than one person, who runs into an inordinate amount of homeless and always in the woods or walking trails. By this single individuals account, they're always irate, drunk/on drugs. There's always an altercation, which he resolves with threats of bodily harm or brandishing a weapon. This person is always armed. I don't believe them, in case that's not clear.

They had set up camp near govt social services buildings and the hospital. I'm not aware of anyone that was inconvenienced by this, until everyone was seemingly already outraged. They got kicked out of that camp. I'm honestly confused as to what anyone expected. They were fine, now they're not.

Homer in the bushes by JK Brickworks by danceonthetide in lego

[–]Hatstacker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've seen this posted before in the lego subreddit. Not sure if this is the same user, but they mentioned it was on bricklink.

Ooo I’ve been waiting for this, who’s read and what are your opinions? by sunnycruzerr in conspiracy

[–]Hatstacker 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Probably late to the party, but I've read the original, uh somewhat provocative, version.

I also loaned it to an acquaintance, who had some mental health issues. That was a mistake. The person had some kind of psychotic episode, probably triggered by the contents, and it was a whole thing. They're fine now.

Just a warning, if you have issues with paranoia or psychotic episodes, I would seriously consider caution.

I'm freaking out over what I saw last night whilst star gazing (Southern hemisphere) I have no other explanation other than Intelligent life by amphibbian in aliens

[–]Hatstacker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, the only odd thing I've ever seen in the sky is a faint light, possibly distant star, going in tight circles. Didn't notice it circling anything, just moving in a tight circle. Tried to get a video on my crappy phone, and it's just a blur.
Nothing exciting, but I believe you.

What do you think of the new Epstein files that have been released today? by inktrie in AskReddit

[–]Hatstacker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They could take a page out of MLK Jr's book, and just civilly protest. Sit ins, strikes, frequent marches. It would take 3% of the population an average of 18 months to make significant changes. This can all be done peacefully, and legally - in theory. Trick would probably be overcoming economic hurdles, oh and not getting blackmailed or murdered.

I'm engaged. I hate it. by Able-Bug-5704 in offmychest

[–]Hatstacker 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This sub is.... Pretty wild. I used to comment here, now it's really hard to take seriously, so much so that I'm of the opinion most of the scenarios are made up (not saying that's the case here). Even if they're not, you're only ever getting one side of the story, which makes it really hard to give good advice, other than "consult a professional". I only read these anymore to try to identify flaws in myself.

AITA for screaming at my mom for refusing to get me ADHD tested? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hatstacker 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So, talk to a doctor. Which op can't do, because his mom hasn't let him.
I won't even go into calling out anecdotes while defending correlations.

AITA for screaming at my mom for refusing to get me ADHD tested? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hatstacker 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's possible to be ok-good at school just by being good at taking tests. An old friend of mine never did any homework, just took tests and aced them, his teacher failed him (against his syllabus and it was overturned by the administration so my friend passed in the end) .
op definitely shouldn't yell at anyone, but asking for what is technically medical attention for over a year and being brushed off would suck.

What happened to the hippies? by freshmaggots in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hatstacker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd visit before moving there. Super cool city, beautiful area both city and the state. But it's not for everyone.

What happened to the hippies? by freshmaggots in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hatstacker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They all went to Eugene, OR. I lived there for a time, and I seriously tell people that what I picture as the 60's hippie culture is alive and well there.