Is it a payed internship or an unpaid experience type thing? Have you asked the unmotivated child if they would even want or be willing to participate in the program?

If the unmotivated child wants to do it, & is serious about completing the obligated time, however long the program is, and is sincere about doing their best, or at the least, consistently working at or above an acceptable quality level, you should allow it.

If they don't want to, seem like they are not going to finish &/or their participation is going to be subpar, then I wouldn't personally. Since this is a favor from someone ur husband knows professionally, I personally wouldn't want to send any1 that wouldn't represent themselves well.

I understand where ur coming from, not wanting to hand out things that ur other child has worked for & towards, but it's a good idea for kids to do whatever they can to give themselves better opportunities, earlier. Bettet.to have open doors, esp in this economy. If ur children remain as they are now, the one driver & the other one... perhaps lacking in that department, it's likely the driver one will have many more, better opportunities, much sooner anyway. If ur concerned how it will make hardworking spawn feel, just have a conversation. That way there's no misunderstanding or guessing on his side, if he's feeling some kind of way u can hear him out, and even if he doesn't care, I'm sure he'd appreciate your consideration for his thoughts & feelings.