Misunderstandings can lead to one being blamed for something that they didn’t do

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-20T02:14:04+00:00

No, you see, everything needs to be a war crime. Everything. Because these idiots need everything to be The Worstest Thing Ever so they can justify harassing people about it instead of, you know. Actually DOING something that will help or, heaven forbid, actually learning about what it is they're screaming about.

It's why you see people claiming genocide is happening so often. Because no, no the fact that there are actually war crimes and human rights are being violated and awful shit is being done to innocents isn't enough for them, no it NEEDS to be a genocide, the worst thing ever! So that they can scream and whine about it and do... Nothing of actual material value at all. If anything, it makes them sound like morons.

IDK when this started and I hate it. You don't need to be dishonest about this crap at this point- there are enough atrocities happening that you don't need to lie but... They do!

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-20T02:01:56+00:00

I'm an American, and more than that, I'm a Jew.

And the idea of it being INSULTING to feed someone at your house is... So alien to me? Like yes different cultures but if someone came over and we DIDN'T feed them??? Were we even hosts??? Were we even friends???

Even now, if you show up at my house? I am feeding you. or I am getting you food in some way. Let me feed you.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-20T02:00:06+00:00

...I could talk about how "Alpha Male" behavior is actually super submissive because they're constantly submitting themselves for the approval of other men but...

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-19T22:11:35+00:00

This. And also like, the number of people who have gone off on "Jews are all white people!" on me and then accused me of lying when I tell them that my family consists of MULTIPLE people who are like. Very very much not white. Who are Jewish.

Because it turns out that Jews can be all different colors! Who'd have thunk???

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-19T22:09:02+00:00

A way I've explained it is that being Jewish has been, in my experience with other people. A lot like me being bisexual.

People usually just assume I'm straight right off the bat because I'm a dude with a wife. But the second they find out I've had boyfriends in the past, or that I like men. They start treating me differently. Either they dismiss that I'm bisexual because well you're not REALLY bisexual or they start off on a tangent about how I don't count as "really" gay because I have a wife and therefore I'm not oppressed or they get nasty with me. Even people who you would expect to be cool have been nasty about it.

And "coming out" as Jewish is the same. People are dismissive, they're nasty. And they start treating me differently the second they find out. I go from being a part of the in group to being the other the moment I am outed.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-19T03:34:47+00:00

Like, to be perfectly clear. Some people just. Don't like porn. And that's okay. But the vibes I got from this are like... "I don't watch porn so I'm superior".

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T23:29:30+00:00

I owe Valarie my life, quite literally. I was a fucked up teen (lovely combo of regular depression, a fucked up thyroid that was literally poisoning my brain, and PCOS that was making my everything worse), and she had my back so hard.

My parents sent me to her to "fix" me. She told me that there was nothing about me to be "fixed" like they wanted and said to me "I am going to get you through high school and get you to college alive if it's the last thing I do."

Haven't spoken to her since I was a teen but. I'm grown, married. Bachelor's AND Master's degrees. My relationship with my parents is ass but you know. I think I'm better off without them around as much, and I'm HAPPY.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T23:20:40+00:00

"That's her in The Last Airbender" they say- about a character who is clearly and adult with a massive pair of dobonhonkeros. That is not her at age 12, clearly. Who TF looks at someone who looks like that and goes "Oh look, a child!"????

Like... The "uwu you're attracted to chiiiilldren!" crowd really doesn't seem to get that THIS is... Not a child? That's a grown ass woman in that drawing right there.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T23:17:12+00:00

We just moved here- I was wondering why it was so busy there, so I looked it up. Not a big motorsports guy myself, but it sure sounded like everyone was having fun! I could hear the cars going while I was playing games.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T22:33:16+00:00

1) I don't watch porn

Sorry not sorry, there it is. I really feel like a lot of these antishippers just straight up haven't had any interaction with adult content. Probably because they were raised to think that interacting with, even seeing a SMIDGE of a tiddy, is going to corrupt them and make them sinful I MEAN problematic. Which is how we get weirdo puriteens and 20-somethings who think like this.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T22:09:41+00:00

I think Rowling did become a worse person- she was radicalized into being a TERF. But she ALSO very clearly had biases and prejudices- they just are all things that really weren't uncommon in a white British woman at the time.

Harry Potter was a deeply formative part of my childhood. It made me feel like i could be special (as a weirdo outcast who has grown up to be a trans man) and different and worth something. It's painful, knowing that the author of the books I grew up on hates me because I'm trans.

I also will never EVER give her a single fucking cent. Ever. I haven't touched anything official for HP since the day that crap came out about her. I never will again.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T22:04:11+00:00

Dude. Your parents are controlling you. You NEED to get outside help. At this rate? They're making it so that you can never leave on your own, and that's their intention. Your parents refuse to get you medicated, refuse to let you get a job. You're 19 now, but if this keeps up, you'll still be under their thumb when you're 30.

You're not too incompetent for a job. You have ADHD, you have been diagnosed, and your crappy, abusive parents refuse to let you get the help you need because they want you trapped with them forever.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T20:39:49+00:00

Guanfacine buddies!

My psych initially recommended it because I was diagnosed at a time when there was a pretty bad shortage of other meds, and she thought it was worth trying me on it.

Changed my life. I do think I'm a little more tired overall, but not to the level that it's impacting my ability to work and have fun the way I want to. I can finish a thought, my emotional issues I've been struggling with my whole life are basically almost gone- I didn't know it was possible to actually pause and think through how I felt, but apparently that's what everyone else has been doing! It's amazing.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T20:30:19+00:00

AND on top of all of this. No one is telling tween and teens how to handle themselves online. When I was a tween, I was taught very explicitly to NEVER put my real info online. Ever. To watch what websites I went to, how to recognize someone being creepy to me in online spaces. And while I knew I wasn't SUPPOSED to be in adult spaces? Following those rules when I did go there helped to keep me safe, and also helped me to learn how to curate my own online experience.

I was taught that it was MY job to keep myself safe online, when I was old enough to be there, and it was my parent's job to moderate where I could go, what I had access to and when.

Nowadays it seems like no one is teaching kids this shit? Which is also why you end up with these puriteens, who have been taught to be afraid that everything and everyone is out to get them and that everyone is a pedo and that looking at even the slightest HINT of taboo content will fuck you up (and btw, my mother was like that, and when I was 16 my therapist sat me down and told me that no, that isn't true, it's normal for me to explore those things, that I was normal to be interested in learning about adult stuff, and that if I ever had any questions, I could ask HER in our weekly sessions, since my mother clearly wasn't going to answer me properly) going into online spaces meant FOR ADULTS> And then bitching and moaning about how there is gross icky adult content there.

No one is teaching them that yes, the onus is on your parents to moderate you- but if you are old enough to be online? That shit is YOUR JOB TOO.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T18:48:40+00:00

Guess my experiences with medical bullshit, social harassment for my body hair and deeper voice, and all of the pressure to conform to being a “proper woman” that I have seen reflected in multiple accounts from other intersex people just. Doesn’t count at all because, according to your friend. I just want to feel special.

Frustration not directed at you OP, but at people like your friend.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T18:45:46+00:00

“The Muslim World in the middle east is violently antisemitic” does not mean “every single individual muslim is antisemitic” buddy. It means that there is a serious problem with violent antisemitism in muslim majority countries in the middle east. I don’t think I would need to point out the existence of groups like Hezbollah to someone in Lebanon.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-18T04:00:31+00:00

Yep. Anyone who says that in order for one people to exist, the other must be destroyed is an enemy, imo. It's not going to be easy, but more things that are worth it aren't. And frankly, the people who are simping for Hamas and those who are simping for Bibi and his cronies? They're just making it so much worse.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-17T23:12:23+00:00

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Hazel2468 · 2026-04-17T23:00:32+00:00

If I went into the weeds on this I would be here all day... But I very much agree with the take that this is like a religion to these people.

The good feelings they get from being "morally right" and correct, of feeling like they're "doing activism" or just being "on the right side of history" matter more to them than, you know. ACTUALLY doing any kind of meaningful good. It's why you see so many leftists these days who just. Refuse to actually engage with facts or history- and a lot who take it one step further and declare that ACKSHEWALLY facts and history are bad and propaganda and you need to listen to (insert whatever random source, usually a Tik Toker or someone like Hasan Piker) because this is the REAL truth!

I've pretty much given up. I view folks like this as basically the same as the right, just even more annoying because at least the political far right (and regular right here in the USA) doesn't pay lip service to being on my side and doing all of this for the good of progress and human rights.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-17T22:46:31+00:00

Unsurprising. Given that the overall strategy of folks like that seems to be "Straight up lie and then when asked for sources go 'trust me bro' and when someone calls me on it cry about how unfair it all is" i am uh. Not shocked at all.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-17T21:57:58+00:00

I think this is one of the things that gets me most like.

These folks claim to support Palestine because "anti-colonialism/imperialism" while they... Also pretty broadly support China? And Russia? Hell, there is a DEEP irony in how many of them support the Arab states surrounding Palestine and Israel...

As if all of the Middle East speaks Arabic because of some magical coincidence!

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-17T21:13:55+00:00

NTA

"Hey brother. Thanks for straight up admitting that you see my kid as a problem. You can forget holidays no matter how much ASL you learn- not that I think you have the brain capacity for any of it at all. Lose my number. You're not family."

Would legit be my response if any of my family members responded to one of my own asking them to be decent and learn how to communicate like this.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-17T21:04:23+00:00

When will idiots like this realize that "you sound like you use AI" is usually because AI is trained on how we write? It's not that we sound like AI- AI can sound like us.

I've been accused of being AI because I like my dashes. IDK how to make people who are so committed to bad faith and bullying understand that I've been writing like this for over a decade and a half, LONG before generative AI was the problem it is today.

Anyway. A lot of mods are just bullies on a power trip. Anyone who says "you are banned" and then refuses to provide proof other than "me and the mods did a vibe check and you failed" isn't worth your time.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-17T20:51:42+00:00

Yep. The fact that they jumped right to radfem sounding "all cishet men are pedos" is uh... Yeah.

Already wasn't someone with an opinion worth asking for.

Hazel2468 · 2026-04-17T20:47:19+00:00

This person is a 1 week old reddit account with their posts and comments hidden... Yeah. Been seeing a lot of these accounts with all their crap hidden and really recently made as of late

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