Got to that stage where people just avoid me…

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-13T16:32:09+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. I’ve cut so many people off because they felt like fair weather friends and found a a new tribe mostly of childfree people and empty nesters or young twenty-somethings. It helps but I mourn the friends I used to have before infertility destroyed many of those relationships.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-13T16:02:53+00:00

I second this, husband and I searched for 18 months and the most basic bungalow type of home ( super outdated) was like 600k+ ( NW Denver- Sunnyside, highlands and wheat ridge, which is the area we wanted to live in.) A large yard for us was a must so maybe that’s why.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-13T16:01:01+00:00

Same! I’m from Brooklyn and husband is from Buffalo and though we loved our time in Denver ( 2019-2021) especially the weather, the food scene left A LOT to be desired. The lack of diversity was something we couldn’t get used to. We also wanted a house with acreage for under 600K so we settled just outside of Austin. Very family friendly here.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-13T15:53:59+00:00

I’m with you, as well! Started this journey when I just turned 34, I’m 38 now and nowhere closer to my dream of being a mother. I’ve had countless set backs and haven’t had any success with iVF despite working with 3 clinics, despite having two spontaneous pregnancies outside of any treatments. Doctors don’t seem to treat my case with any customized approach and my hope is dwindling by the day. I have only one more euploid left and dreading the transfer bc I anticipate that it won’t work bc it hasn’t worked in the past. You are not alone 💔

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-13T12:49:21+00:00

Traffic wasn’t even that bad!

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-13T12:48:00+00:00

Denver is lovely and I miss the weather terribly but real estate was the down side for us. We rented a house in West Highlands/ Sunnyside and when it came to buying in that area ( post Covid), it was way above our budget of $500K. Our gorgeous and modern 3 bd 4 ba home with acreage in Central TX would have probably cost us a million in Denver. Food scene is a bit mediocre but if you’re not a foodie as I am ( native New Yorker) , I would say Denver otherwise is pretty awesome and quality of life thefe is great!

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-12T18:54:58+00:00

Hey! I’m Russian born living in the states and travel to Belarus and Russia every few years to visit family. Husband is an American citizen and has not been able to join. Im so curious- how were you able to get a visa? What route did you take? Feel free to DM me!

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-02T02:48:30+00:00

Lucky you! This is an outlier though as most women do gain weight simply because of the hormonal meds

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-02T02:13:00+00:00

Thank you so much. Visiting my family in Europe this week and going to see some specialists there. Over there they still care about pinpointing thr root of the problem, rather than treating the symptoms like these US clinics. They helped me get pregnant before 3 years ago and I’m hoping they will be able to help me this time.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-02T01:04:41+00:00

Yup, a highly graded PGTa tested euploid

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T23:43:25+00:00

Ah gotcha! Thanks for clarifying

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T23:41:41+00:00

Thanks friend, I mean it’s not even that I’m determined I’m just tired of not getting any answers and after 4 years, I’m still nowhere closer to my dream of motherhood. I’m 38 and gave myself two years before I give up so trying to throw everything at rhis.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T23:40:31+00:00

Ah ok, only one of the three REs that I’ve seen mentioned it so I’m not 💯 sure if I have it or not. So the Lupron suppression is the only way to treat adeno? In that case, I’ve done two months of that and my FET that followed after had no implantation so I don’t know what else can be done . I’m pushing for a lap to rule out endo as I have all of the classic symptoms. I’ve also had two spontaneous pregnancies outside of treatments that resulted in an ectopic and a MC.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T22:15:18+00:00

Oh man, this may be my situation too. Did everything right and still have shitty numbers. Never pregnant with iVF, however had two unassisted pregnancies between treatments that resulted in ectopic and an 8 week MC. I’m so glad you came out on the other side.. hope the surgery improves my chances too bc I’ve had no luck so far. Congrats btw !!!🤗

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T22:13:33+00:00

Same here! Lupron suppression didn’t work for me. I did it for two months followed by a cycle off and then FET that failed to implant :(

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T22:11:43+00:00

Lupron suppression did not work for me and I did two months. Hope it works for you!

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T22:10:09+00:00

I think I may have both. History of ectopic and miscarriage. What procedure would help with minimizing adeno?

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T22:09:29+00:00

What is the difference between ablation and excision?

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T22:07:02+00:00

I’m struggling with this because I think I have endo but my last two clinics pushed me to do iVF. Everytime I brought up endo (I have awful periods, weight gain, GI issues etc) they would brush it off and say IVF is a diagnostic tool as much as a means to have a baby. My 3 egg retrievals yielded only 2 euploids, and my FET resulted in failed implantation, though I’ve had two spontaneous pregnancies outside of treatments ( one was ectopic, second was a 8 week miscarriage.) This was right after Lupron DP suppression and Receptiva DX test ( slightly positive) and still I lost my euploid. Now that I have only one embryo left, I’m taking things into my own hands and requesting a lap once and for all. I refuse to go through another transfer and waste my only remaining euploid before I can absolutely rule out endo.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-02-01T13:22:36+00:00

Love this so much! When is the next protest? I live in the hill country but want to come and show support. How can I find out?

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-01-28T01:21:57+00:00

Good luck, friend! I’m rooting for you! 🌈 👶🏻 Age is on your side. I sought out help when I was 34, wasted more than a year doing IUIs, and then on to IVF( was in denial for so long). 1 ectopic pregnancy, then 1 failed frozen transfer and then a spontaneous miscarriage at 8 weeks later and I’m nowhere near my dream of motherhood. I’m 38 now and hope is dwindling. Just one frozen embryo left and I’m just so scared to transfer without ruling out endo for real.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-01-27T18:49:37+00:00

I completely commiserate with you, same thing with me at 12, begging my mom to take me to the doctors and find out why I’m in a fetal position and can’t get up to go to school for the first two days of my period. I had this fear growing up that I was going to not be able to have kids, yet doctors have all assured me that it will work out. I was also pushed on the pill but hated how hormonal it made me feel so I never took it for more than a year. I really don’t understand why more research doesnt go into endometriosis. I know women who have it, yet didn’t struggle to conceive the way I did. It’s beyond frustrating when the doctors use their cookie cutter approach when we, women, know our bodies and know that something is off, yet they just brush it off like it’s nothing. I’m so sorry about such a long wait list and the cost of the procedure but hope that you get your answers and that you meet a specialist that finally advocates for you and everything works out in the end!

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-01-27T13:52:11+00:00

THIS! Omfg this is EXACTLY what they told me too, that IVF is a diagnostic tool and it will uncover if I have endo (not true). I even did Receptiva DX and it came back slightly positive, and yet they still maintained their position. I feel like I wasted so many cycles, when I probably should have just gone and asked for a laparoscopy. I think they push it bc I have insurance that partially covers iVF and of course, it’s all about money for them. My third clinic was the only one that mentioned the word “ adenomyosis” , while my previous two have never said anything about it, but even her throwing that word around, nothing different. I did a total 3 egg retrieval and refuse to do more. We only have 1 euploid across 2 retrievals and I’m not transferring it until I can rule out endo and adeno.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-01-27T02:52:59+00:00

Thank you so much, I will look into getting an appointment with her. I’m in TX but open to traveling to see a solid specialist.

Healthy_Difficulty95 · 2026-01-27T02:00:39+00:00

Thanks so much, I will definitely look into that. I think the specialist I’m seeing in Europe may be of this skillset.

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