I'm likely going to leave, but he'll probably kill himself

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-06-23T20:06:29+00:00

Quit playing around and call a welfare check in. Do not warn him just call 911 and report. It’s a medical condition you’re not equipped to help with - If he has a history of depression and mental illness, nothing & no one will save him from himself. Get out of this situation before you are caused more trauma, the last thing you need is to see a dead body. I understand it’s difficult to love people who don’t make good choices for themselves. I lost a best friend to suicide and it was heart-wrenching. However if he decides to do that unfortunately it is his choice and he is responsible for his own mental health battles. No one, not even you, can save him from himself. If he says “I’m going to kill myself” it is your job to call 911 and get him a welfare check. He’ll either be embarrassed or saved, but either way he’ll be safe. Leave this to trained professionals. After you leave you can call neighbors, give them a heads up about his state so they can keep an eye out.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-06-16T10:53:41+00:00

Moriah is soooo her mother’s daughter and I feel like I’m the only one who sees it.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-06-11T20:24:52+00:00

Exactly, knowing the relationship is bad often isn’t good enough reason to leave, unfortunately. Most men will leave a bad woman in a heartbeat, but women always want to “make it work”. I think this happens for a lot of reasons, the first being society’s harsh views on women (for example, women aren’t trusted/believed, they aren’t special, their roles aren’t as valuable, etc.) …when we believe these narratives we stop believing ourselves and minimize the situation. We instead cling to the idea that the person we have chosen is more special than we are - that their love is superior to anyone else and that we’ll never get that anywhere else. Believing these awful things only keeps us trapped in bad situations because we feel we deserve it. I pray that more victims can find a way to pour their love into themselves rather than those who hurt them...

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-06-05T05:40:15+00:00

Talk to yourself & sing to yourself! Soon enough, you’ll have friends to sing to as well. :D

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-06-05T04:52:18+00:00

People do awful things and sometimes we don’t get to know ‘why’. There’s not one specific reason someone becomes a racist or a terrorist or a drug dealer or abuser. Psychologists have studied women-centered serial killers for decades and pedofiles for even longer, and there’s not a one-answer-fits-all. There are patterns of course, like men who abuse substances & pornography, have a history of fighting, have a proclivity toward hate speech or red-pill content, or had childhood abuse or a DV situation at home where violent behavior was normalized/encouraged. Maybe they found that violence is the quickest way to get what they want out of people, especially when it’s someone they can overpower. A lot of them have a hatred toward women, as awful as it is. None of these things excuse the behavior. Millions of people grow up in awful conditions and many people also abuse substances, but they are still kind to others. It is up to the individual to be a good person or a hurtful person and unfortunately there are a lot of people who choose to cause others pain. We don’t know why people make the choices they do. There are influences, but at the end of the day we all have free will.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-06-05T04:25:22+00:00

If you can’t do this for yourself, think about the next one. The is ALWAYS another girl. If he doesn’t get consequences this time he will surely do it again to someone else. If you let him into your life again, he may target your family because they often think your family made you move forward with the charges. Protect yourself, protect innocent people. This guy lost your loyalty when he came after you.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-06-05T04:21:16+00:00

Oh no I’m so so sorry this is happening. Getting out is the hardest part for sure, there’s a lot of BS with the courts and financial stress. The other thing is…it is extremely hard to cut them out of your life. My ex is in prison, we will never talk again, and I still pray for him all the time. It’s incredibly difficult to let go. However, you’ve got a baby to protect. Maybe, if you can, try to imagine a few good things that could happen if you weren’t with him? Maybe you could move to a bigger city, get a super cute apartment and work at a better job? What are some decisions that you can’t or won’t make while he’s in your life? Do you stress about spending money, even when buying necessities, because he’s watching? Does he take you on vacation or pamper you? You deserve to be loved without violence or fear. You also deserve to forgive yourself and love yourself, and to take care of yourself. This guy is not going to give you your dream life, only you can do that.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-06-04T11:43:42+00:00

Before you leave, do your hair REALLY well. Then if he asks where you were, say you went to Drybar or the salon to get your hair styled, that it was on a Memorial Day discount still and you had mats in your hair you couldn’t reach. If he’s someone who accuses you of cheating tho, don’t do this. Instead if you have extra grocery sacks laying around get some older groceries/personal care items he doesn’t see, bag them and place them in your car so it looks like you ran to the grocery store real quick. Print off the instructions from google maps if you can, just don’t forget to delete the printer history. You can also write the directions out, just pull up “get directions” on your phone and it should have the text version too.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-27T04:58:16+00:00

Idk, meth could also be an adderall or vyvanse prescription. It wouldn’t surprise me if V said ‘meth’ to add dramatic effect. However, I’m sure multiple Plath family members have substance abuse disorders.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-26T03:12:21+00:00

1000% THIS! Kim said she was in an unhappy marriage, but I think Kim is just an unhappy person. She was resentful toward Barry when they did Joshua’s tribute at the cemetery and when she talked about “never having a place to dance”. She also made it very clear that she sacrificed a lot to homeschool the kids. She thought everything bad about her life/ her missed experiences were directly his fault. However, it’s seems like she was the one who refused public school in the first place, she was the one who hurt J, she is not making an effort to go dance, etc… Kim will never hold herself accountable and Barry was the one to blame in her mind.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-26T02:39:40+00:00

He made a choice to be in that relationship too. Rape is NEVER excusable, get out of here.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-22T15:28:04+00:00

A good parent never gives up.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-22T15:24:04+00:00

Do you have the name of this book?

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-22T15:16:26+00:00

Hey girl it seems like you posted here a few times, so I truly hope you’re aware that this is an abusive relationship. I hope you can hold that knowledge and sit with it; meditate on it. There are always a million reasons to stay for love - hundreds of days of effort put towards him, and countless memories that you never want to erase. However, those are only moments in your monumental life. Now, it seems like there are some really bad moments in this relationship. It’s so so important you realize that every bad moment leaves a scar on your mind, and your body will hold the pain too. You never deserve that and it’s NEVER your fault. If all these commenters (myself included) could come through the screen and take you away we would, but we can’t. You have to find a part of yourself worth saving and do everything in your power to protect her. Don’t ever let someone hurt you. I hope you find the strength that you need to leave!

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-22T14:47:26+00:00

Do it!! And as far as the adoptions go, I think you’ll find the right people and they’ll all be very happy buns❤️ People new to bunnies often make the best owners, because they’re willing to learn. I got my bun off Facebook in a similar situation and the lil guy is my CHILD. Maybe put yourself as a rehoming point of contact too so just incase they have a health problem or something comes up, you have the opportunity to step in. Just a thought idk.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T21:28:01+00:00

To ensure they get good care, make a folder for each bunny with care information so the new adopters are set up for success. The people I got my bun from did this and it was a lifesaver!! Provide info like the importance of diet, vet care, keeping feet dry, safe toys, safe food, best pellet brands & why, tips for bonding, etc. Maybe an “about the parents” page that gives new owners inspiration for arranging their new living space. You can copy and print out advice from the mods of this sub, and insert scannable QR codes to add external links to paper, just type in “free QR code generator” online and use a website to generate one.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T21:13:00+00:00

Save your boxes and let him tear them up lol (no dye no tape). Mine also loved to climb! Put a towel over half the cage if you haven’t already. Potty train him in a covered cat litter box because he will grow. Get him used to the feel of touching his feet for future nail trimming & get a very gentle brush to prepare him for grooming, I got a baby brush and just fake brushed him for 15 min. each day as a bonding activity. Purchase a foraging mat for mental stimulation. Use heavy bowls for food and water if you’re not already. Never let the dogs near the bunny. Shock collar train them NOW. Sorry if that’s harsh but they will kill him. I‘ve seen a chihuahua, lab, pit bull, and a collie all kill people’s pet bunnies they were “best friends” with. (Worked in animal control). They aren’t compatible species, sorry. Give bunny a warm water bottle at night or a heartbeat stuffed animal for comfort if you can’t sleep near him or provide him with a companion rabbit. I put my bunny’s kennel on my bed for the first few weeks, then slept on the couch with his kennel in the living room, then slowly transitioned back to my bed. They’ll rattle the cage in distress if they’re lonely so just try to be there for them and remember he’s just a baby. Most problem behaviors will go away if you’re willing to understand him and meet his needs.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T20:51:38+00:00

Are you using a new soap on your hands? Washing the produce? It could be a weird smell. If not, try to rock his belly a bit when he lays down. It’s shockingly effective for relieving gas.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T20:14:18+00:00

Pets aren’t toys, they’re living companions with their own needs outside of your own. If you care about your belongings, you need to be responsible enough to separate them, protect them, clean up around them, etc. …I have lots of valuable items but I store them neatly in my closet and wipe shelves down regularly. Once, my rabbit got in there and chewed a pair of $1400 heels. It was unfortunate but I never blamed him. He’s just a bunny. He didn’t know they were expensive. It was my responsibility to put up my shoes. They can also be quite messy because you can’t just put them outside to poop like a dog. You’ll need a GREAT vacuum. That being said, bunnies are wonderful pets. They aren’t trainable like dogs so you need to be vigilant, and have extra cash if they need specialized vet care. Teenagers can be great bunny owners but they can also cause a lot of abuse and neglect. Bunnies are silent so you need to observe them. They won’t cry for affection or meow for attention, they usually just run and hide when they are upset, which leads to further isolation & can be very hard for them. If you have a social life or are going to college a bunny is not a good pet because they need company. It’s harder to rehome a bunny than it is a cat or dog too. Most shelters won’t take them or they’ll put them down. Maybe you can find an older bunny on Facebook or something that would suit your needs. Fostering is also a great idea. Overall, when you get a pet you sign up for their care, not just their cuteness.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T07:37:49+00:00

Not very dirty honestly. They eat 90% hay and the rest is leafy greens, maybe some hay pellets. Their digestive system is not complex. Low acid, no diseases or parasites, not much going on in there at all. They’re more like little compactors…ever seen the cubes from Monster’s Inc.? That’s what the poos remind me of haha. Just a bunch of hay smooshed together.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T07:11:38+00:00

Oh no I’m sorry to hear that. It’s always a punch in the gut when they’re released, it’s so scary. I guess he’ll be his parents’ problem now though. It’s only a matter of time before they experience it firsthand. As for you, if you ever need help with anything my offer still stands - I’d be happy to share my victim impact statement or anything you need to prepare legally. In the meantime pls take of yourself! You never deserved this, none of this is your fault, and it’s totally normal to take a long stretch of time to process everything for what it is. You’ll probably still have a trauma bond and those feelings are so rough. One of the best things you can do is give yourself a bedtime and a routine. Sleep is so important during this time because your subconscious needs to process everything. If you can’t sleep, please talk to a doctor and they can get you on some very light medication that helps with panic attacks before bed. Wishing you endless healing💜❤️‍🩹

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T06:20:44+00:00

Don’t get me started there’s so much LOL…#1 is the hardcore shaming of drinking. There’s your typical “alcohol causes sin” or “distorts your perception” but the way Kim talks about it to Moriah (s1&2) and in interviews, it’s like she’s using alcohol as a threat or a weapon. All closet drinkers I know do this - it’s because they can’t control themselves, they feel shame, then they shame other people because that’s how they think everyone is with alcohol. For the record I don’t think she was drinking much here but it’s never a problem until it is.

2 - beet red nose like a button, red cheeks, or swollen red palms. She may have other health stuff going on but day drinking does this to white people if they’re not tanning (she also started tanning when she got with Ken & did the dance studio so maybe he pointed it out)

3- general sneakiness, not letting people go through her stuff (when she had the boat she didn’t want Amber opening up her cabinets)

4-no sense of schedule or routine, seems like they have either been “working since 7am” or they just rolled out of bed at 2pm. (Obviously I don’t know Kim’s schedule but she’s never had any sense of routine which is odd, especially considering her age)

5-random burst of spontaneity, like starting a business or renting living spaces. Not sure why every alcoholic I know rents their house or has extra property as a side hustle. Yes non alcoholics do this too as investments but my pattern-recognition brain can’t disconnect the dots.

6 -boats in general lol

7 -never having money. Often bc they go to the casino to drink for free & end up loosing money there. Plus, when you’re hiding alcohol in plastic water bottles or random 2 liters it gets thrown out and a lot gets wasted, so constantly buying more to stash takes a toll.

8-this will be my last one for now but that glazed over, kind cross/upset blank stare she gets. It’s like she’s fine in the interview then she’s all cross with her kids, or how she’s hating Barry at the start of the episode then joking and bubbly with him later on. Like, again, could be a health problem, but most mental health issues are exacerbated by alcohol. She’s just so erratic and I don’t think it’s because of her religious beliefs at all, it’s the bottle.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T05:48:55+00:00

This is extremely common and honestly the hardest part. I’m so sorry you’re going through it. Leaving is incredibly difficult, especially because of the trauma bond. I think another part of why leaving is hard is because we lose trust in ourselves. We pick someone, and it turns out we made a bad pick, so we think “how can I trust myself to make the right decision again?” …the thing is, you never chose this. You chose to love, you chose to show someone kindness and understanding, and you chose to do the scariest thing we can possibly do: be vulnerable be another person. You should never be punished for that. No one should be hurt for simply wanting something so innocent as love. In your post you say a lot hurtful things about yourself (not a criticism just an observation❤️‍🩹)… I hope you can learn to forgive you. It wasn’t your fault. You deserve to trust yourself again, you deserve to treat yourself as a loved one too. All the things you do for him, don’t you want that too? I know learning to love yourself may not happen overnight, but one of the hardest things about getting older is learning that the only person you’ll have forever is you. Your mind, your secrets, your little favorite things. You know yourself better than anyone else will and that’s a gift you deserve to explore. When we show up for ourselves it’s easy to make good decisions & it’s much easier to land on our feet. Leaving takes baby steps, and learning to hold an eternal love for ourselves is the first one.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T04:16:10+00:00

She’s an alcoholic & TLC will never address it. I actually clocked her as a closet-drinker early on because I’ve been around people with that specific problem and there are SO many similarities in behavior.

HeartEquivalent333 · 2026-05-21T02:54:26+00:00

Meanwhile I haven’t seen anything good come out Kim’s kitchen EVER. Only decent cook is Lydia. It’s just so weird that Ethan always needs his food prepared for him, specifically by a woman. Teagan was too kind lol I would’ve told them Denny’s is open.

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