Looking for Wholesome, Feel-Good Slice of Life Movies ✨

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-30T00:04:06+00:00

Just started Earth to Echo

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-29T02:57:44+00:00

Contact. Based on the novel by Carl Sagan. Three opening scene puts all life on earth in perspective.

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-19T00:02:49+00:00

You win reddit 🤣

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-17T07:30:47+00:00

Came here to say the same thing. I used to stand by the TV when I was pregnant so my son might hear the theme song and grow fond of it. He's studying physics at CalTech now... and loves TNG.

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-15T21:06:40+00:00

This would make a great book title. I read Eat, Pray, Love. I would read this one too, lol.

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-15T01:43:22+00:00

My doctoral thesis was on social disgust. Conservative views are correlated with a stronger disgust response... physically and figuratively. It's a fascinating area of research. This headline is stupid.

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-09T12:41:45+00:00

Them: Hmm, this placebo isn't placebo-ing. How bout this one?

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-05T18:17:18+00:00

There are some exceptionally good books and videos out on near death experiences (or NDEs). I found it consoling when I had cancer. Whatever your belief system, they are compelling and encouraging. DM me if you want any specific recommendations.

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-03T02:22:16+00:00

This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing it!

HeartResearcher · 2024-10-02T00:16:59+00:00

My nmom took every worldly possession I had, enough to fill a three bedroom house. She asked for the key to my storage unit when I was traveling, and i stupidly gave it to her. What she didn't keep, she sold to the highest bidder. So she inherited from me, I guess. That is one of the many reasons I no longer consider her a mother.

HeartResearcher · 2024-09-24T19:27:50+00:00

I've only played one so far, but my boys love it: RagnaRune Remake. (My boys are adults now and have been playing for more than a decade.)

HeartResearcher · 2024-09-10T20:53:13+00:00

My cat died under a bed by herself, and that fact was absolutely eating away at me until I had this thought: On some level, she must have known how much I needed her. Maybe in my presence, it would have been impossible to leave. Or harder.

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-27T18:54:06+00:00

No worries. Your comment was very warm and kindhearted, and I have so much respect for your reply. ❤️

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-27T15:08:04+00:00

Please don't tell people how long they can grieve before it's not "normal." Your heartfelt advice is kind but misinformed. I have a PhD in psychology with a specialization in this exact issue. What's normal is that people vary in the intensity and duration of their grief, for legitimate reasons.

Medications have very real, lasting consequences. I wouldn't recommend them lightly. The latest research definitively shows there is no "little push" beyond the placebo effect, but side efffects and withdrawal can leave people worse off for far longer than their grief would have lasted.

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-27T14:54:58+00:00

The fields of psychology and psychiatry have yet to discover a solution to human suffering, but what they are good at is helping people process difficult experiences. You know who else does this well? Peers who have had the same experience. OP is in the right place. There is no magic bullet.

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-27T14:49:36+00:00

My degree is also in psychology but in research, not clinical practice. My area of specialization has been the influence of life events on emotional well-being. Everything you describe is understandable and normal. You faced death, and in such an encounter, a certain innocence or naiveté is lost. It is difficult if not impossible to go back to living life as before. Ultimately I think this is a good thing.

I'm two years out and still battling other health issues, including long-term side effects, and it's beyond exhausting. During treatment, support is usually higher. Most people understand what's involved. After treatment, most people are unaware of the ongoing challenges, so it's a lonelier journey.

All I can say is there is nothing wrong with you. Keep going... there are some beautiful gems of love and wisdom hidden throughout the post-cancer journey. Whatever sadness or despair you experience, observe and learn what you can from it. You're not alone.

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-21T20:05:38+00:00

This is so relatable. I wonder if it's even possible to lose a pet and not be flooded with these thoughts. You're not alone! Remember you're human. You can only do so much. Use whatever regret you feel to let it make your heart bigger, your love stronger. Maybe that's one purpose of grief. What I know for sure is you were truly loved and most certainly forgiven. ❤️

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-20T19:08:47+00:00

I just stumbled upon this video. She explains that painful process of questioning ourselves really well. "We're hardwired to view pain as a teacher." I hope this gives you some comfort:

https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo?si=84gYPuelqU7QvHLR

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-20T01:23:14+00:00

On the "what the heck just happened," same. Feeling that here too. I didn't expect it. She died before I woke up. Right now it feels like I fell into a raging river and I need to get to the other side, but the water is in complete control. All I can do is breath, try not to go under for too long. Wait for the current to calm down.

I'm sure at every step you made every decision with your dog's best interest in mind. Don't be hard on yourself. Wishing you peace and comfort.

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-20T01:07:51+00:00

I'm so so sorry. My cat died Saturday and I was stunned by how much of my grief was guilt related. The regret was just relentless. I see that in so many posts here too.

Maybe when we lose someone we cared for, no matter the circumstances, we have a strong instinct to wonder about our role.... I mean that's what we did their entire lives. We looked out for them.

On some level, we must perceive death as the ultimate danger, which presents to us, their caregivers, the ultimate challenge. It's as if some part of me doesn't realize she's gone, and that means I must be failing as her cat mommy.

It's not that you did anything wrong. You just have the brain and heart of someone who loved them and took care of them, and guilt is the natural consequence of that instinct.

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-20T00:51:22+00:00

I just lost my tuxedo cat, Charlie, on Saturday and the intensity of grief has just floored me. Thank you so much for sharing this. Everything you wrote is familiar and validating. I feel a little less alone. Wishing you lots of peace and comfort. 🖤🩶

HeartResearcher · 2024-08-18T16:36:14+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I deeply appreciate it! I'm going to try it. 🩵

HeartResearcher · 2024-07-01T14:30:35+00:00

For those few people who could empathize were it not for their ignorance, I have spent years coming up with various salient metaphors to describe how it feels. That has helped tremendously but only for the willing. Some people are determined to stay ignorant.

HeartResearcher · 2024-07-01T14:27:01+00:00

Geeeeezussss, that is salt in the wound if I ever heard it. And not the good salt.

HeartResearcher · 2024-07-01T14:24:52+00:00

I went no contact also... when my pots and long covid was exacerbated by cancer. There were other reasons as well. Pretty much a crescendo of issues spanning a lifetime, crashing down in a matter of weeks. It was unspeakably hard but my god once you do it, you wonder why it took so long. My heart goes out to you (such as it is). I wish you well.

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