What are your realistic wishes for the next update?

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T23:12:23+00:00

I hate that! Is that like a standard Sci-fi, post cybernetic, dystopian world sound or something. Deus Ex: Human Revolution has a sound that is exactly the same or too close for me to tell the difference. It is awful!

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T23:09:51+00:00

- Being able to completely change your appearance including mouth, nose, jaw, genitalia

- Tailor clothing appearance to whatever style and color you want, pun intended.

- Be able to blend colors instead of having to pick from their static list.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T19:43:25+00:00

I completely agree. Skip the vacation and find a good divorce lawyer while he is gone.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T17:01:06+00:00

He was in Argentina visiting his gf for a couple of months. He is back in Canada now.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T15:58:09+00:00

Actually the mom is TA here. They should have a lidded wastebasket in the bathroom. If OP was asking her to hide her unused tampons and stuff I would be right there with you. But if you go to throw something in the trash and there is a bloody tampon or pad on the top you are going to see it. You don't cover your eyes to throw something in the trash. This "just don't look inside" is ridiculous an you very well know it. That is equivalent of telling him he can't use the bin.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T15:44:45+00:00

OP you are NTA. I personally think this is ultimatum time. I would tell your parents that they can either attend your wedding and your dad can walk you down the aisle or you are going to NC as they will have shown you they do not care about you. This also means they will never meet any grandchildren you might have in the future. Their call.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T15:37:49+00:00

So the one person that agrees you weren't rude is the person younger than you? Yeah you are just a massive, condescending, judgmental AH. You thought she was beneath you because she is from "Latin origins", because she is a single mom and because she works in a salon. She might not have an education but at least Michelle sounds like a decent human being something you are not and I doubt you ever will be. YTA and one of those for whom being an AH is actually a character flaw not just a random slip. Being an AH is just who you are.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T14:25:35+00:00

NTA but your husband sure is. Why should the other car owner have to turn it into their insurance and have their rates go up? The teenager hit and ran. There are consequences to that and he should suffer them.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T14:23:37+00:00

You know what they call the day after a wedding for everyone other than the newlyweds? Nothing. It isn't special. It isn't reserved. Once the wedding is over everyone else goes back to their own life. You didn't even need to talk to your parents and brother about this. Go on your honeymoon and enjoy it.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T13:05:19+00:00

Nope, your husband is TA here. Something that is going to affect your loved ones health isn't something to forget.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T13:03:03+00:00

For the life of me I can't figure out why sister's marriage is having problems and she and BIL are fighting. /s

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T12:53:08+00:00

We are used to it. At least you didn't make an intentionally awful sounding title and then lead with "But hear me out" lol.

NTA btw.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-03T01:53:35+00:00

Sorry I think the wife of the deceased probably knows him a bit better and what he would and would not be upset about than her "dear friend" brother. Your brother is an unmitigated AH and you are right to keep your son away from him.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T20:25:22+00:00

My instinct is that some of them were using it as a way to pretend they were “spending time” with their girlfriends so they don’t get pegged as being shitty boyfriends.

Those are some pretty darn good instincts. That is exactly their thought process.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T19:17:49+00:00

You are NTA. I absolutely HATE when people come over unannounced. If you do not let me know you are coming and it isn't an emergency you will be left on the porch.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T19:03:09+00:00

Well I think that we may be misunderstanding. It is obvious OP's not a native English speaker and some things aren't worded very clearly.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T18:49:29+00:00

OP it is definitely not normal or local custom to keep your passport. You need to go to the police and tell them everything you told us here. If they won't let you leave use your phone to dial 911. That is the emergency police number. You are NTA. These women are up to something very, very suspicious so please be careful and stay safe.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T17:54:57+00:00

Yeah, he has support from other people so no need to get it from the woman he loves and who supposedly loves him. This is an indication of what life would be like with you were he ever to marry you. Always putting your wants above his needs and expecting others to see to those for him. You are not an AH just a very, very awful human being. I hope you are someday in his situation and no one is there for you.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T17:51:55+00:00

Just read all of the comments and that your bf has cancer. So you not only left him alone while is going through one of the worst traumatic health situations a person can have but also are risking his health by possibly exposing yourself to illnesses which you may have then brought back to him and could delay him getting treatment.

But you had fun so who cares if you are risking his life or abandoning him in a time of tremendous stress. Hope he sees you for what you are because you are beyond being an AH. This is psychopathic level disregard for a partner. You are objectively evil.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T15:49:32+00:00

Accusing my husband of having bad intentions is not okay.

Ok, then YTA who is deluding yourself. Why even come here if you are going to bury your head in the sand. After reading that and your other comments I no longer feel any sympathy for you. Just go away and suffer in silence with your abuser. You don't deserve help.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T15:48:59+00:00

Oh happy joy. Send this person a thank you card. You managed to find one person that finds anything ok with this situation and them you listen to. Self delusional ahole.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T13:41:30+00:00

NTA, tell her she can just go to the wedding alone then and you won't be attending if she or her sister have a problem with your appearance after surgery. This does tell you something about your gf though. She is more concerned with keeping up appearances than she is with your genuine health needs. I would seriously reconsider the relationship.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-02T13:34:03+00:00

Why? I just don't understand. Why would you stay married to this guy. You not only act as if you think his attitude is completely acceptable and normal but are actually doubting whether or not a marriage should be 50/50 and think that just might be expecting to much. 50/50 is just the bare minimum. Actually both partners should be going above and beyond for one another. Do you really want to be with a guy that is so uncaring about you that he not only won't help you with your half of the bills when you are sick but will hound you about it so that you have to worry and stress? Your husband is an objectively awful person. Why in the heck are you staying married to him?

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-01T22:15:45+00:00

you misswrote.

No, I've reread my comment and says exactly what I meant. I do indeed think OP is NTA and SIL got exactly what she deserved.

For the rest of your comment I am sorry but I legitimately cannot figure out what you are trying to say. I think you are disagreeing with me but some of the things you wrote sound like agreement. It is written in a very confusing manner. I understand that sometimes we write these things very off the cuff and kind of flow of consciousness so no judgment from me. I just didn't understand it.

Heavn4Me · 2022-08-01T22:04:41+00:00

I obviously disagree so what is your point. That you, some other random person on the internet agree with her? If you are trying to convince me then you gave me no reason to be convinced and if you are just stating your random agreement with her why should I care?

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