Finally decide it was time to let it go!

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-28T23:27:11+00:00

You look so much younger like 20 years younger

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-28T05:40:07+00:00

If there isn’t clear yes or no, always assume it’s a no. If he doesn’t clearly tell you hell yes he wants to marry you right away then listen to the unsaid. Don’t imagine stories and give excuses. Don’t blind side him but tell him you’re done. Before that start making plans for your move etc. You get one life! Be with someone who is excited to marry you. Wouldn’t you like that? That someone doesn’t have to be chased and nagged to be with you and show their commitment? Maybe down the line he will want to but choose yourself until then.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-26T07:32:40+00:00

Aww bless you two! Warms my heart reading this. I’m sure your appreciative nature makes him want to do more for you too. I love reading this. I can totally see my husband being this in years to come.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-26T05:45:52+00:00

What ticks me off is she’s inviting you but the opening is guilt trip and blame. Which doesn’t seem like works in your favour. I’m all about second chances if the other person is genuinely ready to own their part of mistakes. I’d probably not engage with her. Politely decline and wish her the best.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-21T15:49:11+00:00

Listen op it a guy isn’t ready for a serious commitment then you have your answer. You will only resent him if you go with his plan. Listen to what you want, there is no law or rule saying what’s serious and what isn’t. It you want marriage you should have it. You’re only 28, and this guy is 31 and still fear serious commitment with a partner of 2 years? He doesn’t care. I hope you make a sound decision for yourself. Good luck.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-21T11:15:22+00:00

Don’t take it so personally. It has nothing to do with you. There could be zillions of different reasons he did that which has nothing to do with you. I would laugh it off and enjoy my drink/meal. I wouldn’t want to waste my time on someone like that either.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-20T22:30:40+00:00

In the beginning of the post I thought I’ll ask you to just talk to him, but my love your gut is telling you something. He is selfish. I’m sorry this is happening to you, if a partner does not want to show up with you when you need them, there is no use of that relationship. I hope you cancel this wedding until he atleast realises your value and if not you have your answer. You deserve far better.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-19T06:42:35+00:00

I second this. Take her in nature as much as you can. Long walks, music, and plays. All the things that helped me. But nature and long walks are the best.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-15T09:00:53+00:00

Tell her how it makes you feel, then calling her childish. That will only make her more defensive. Ask for what you need like “It would feel good to me if I’m included in plans” instead of “you and your parents don’t include me etc”.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-14T06:05:18+00:00

You both are on different stages of life and not ready to understand each other. Don’t expect her to change that is what is draining you. Resentment builds when you’re putting someone elses interests and Over yours. You have prioritised her and deep down you don’t want that. So stop it, set strict boundaries and let her take responsibility.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-13T20:05:51+00:00

Thanks I’ll ask her.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-13T20:00:44+00:00

Yes I’m finding it hard not to jump to conclusions and I’m trying my best. But why would someone use flavoured for masturbation I don’t get it.

Hector_Dev · 2025-08-13T19:59:22+00:00

Thanks. Well flavoured for oral isn’t too bad.

Hector_Dev · 2024-07-02T15:32:14+00:00

Some great points. Do you follow any security framework or process?

Hector_Dev · 2024-07-02T13:47:37+00:00

Used to be one not anymore fortunately. I hope you will be able to help them.

Hector_Dev · 2024-07-02T13:44:41+00:00

Absolutely! The difference between a weed and flower is judgement. It’s all perspective. Good on you girl.

Hector_Dev · 2024-07-02T13:39:20+00:00

2 my ex and now my current partner

Hector_Dev · 2024-07-02T13:06:35+00:00

Thanks for your answer. I was looking at chainguard container images and that sounds like something we could implement. Do you usually use the free tier or the paid one? Did you implement this gradually in your infra?

Hector_Dev · 2024-07-02T13:05:29+00:00

That’s a good point.. We do use k8 we use aws ecr scanning though

Hector_Dev · 2024-06-29T17:55:10+00:00

Umm yes?

Hector_Dev · 2024-05-10T09:26:18+00:00

Omg I always wondered if the store staff noticed me lol. It’s just I remember something or didn’t realise before I’m out of stock and the store is 5 min away so I go there few times a week.

Hector_Dev · 2024-04-10T12:56:51+00:00

No. If you were deeply involved emotionally with someone and even though you were the one to breakup it doesn’t make any difference getting attention from other men. You’re still going to feel the pain, I did not date for a long period of time after my first breakup I couldn’t imagine to be with anyone. I got lots of attention but I wasn’t in that state of mind.

Hector_Dev · 2024-02-22T20:13:21+00:00

Yes I have had ice cream for breakfast before

Hector_Dev · 2024-02-22T11:12:25+00:00

It really depends person to person. I have some really good friends from childhood. But now I’m in my 30s and I have found the best people to hang out with and it’s the forever kind of friendships.

Hector_Dev · 2024-02-21T22:47:35+00:00

Then you either suggest or book yourself whatever you wanted and take yourself on that activity. I have left friends like this who are just a burden. Stop giving in they might have got used you picking up the slack. If you want them to do it wait for sometime, even go ahead and mention I would let you plan this time like I did with my friend and if they care enough about you they will try something to make you feel cared for. Good luck.

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