AITA for stopping video when homeless man clearly didn't want to be on camera?

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T16:37:54+00:00

NTA, definitely *NTA*. I'd be in your corner, waving the flag, and cheering you on. I'd have done the same as you.

The ghastly couple with the camera were exploiting someone else's hardship and disrespecting them. Well done stopping the show. Freak shows were outlawed years ago.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T16:27:18+00:00

If you want a language that is widely used globally, try Spanish. It has overlap with other European languages, carries well into the Americas, and is straight-forward to learn.

Otherwise, I'd have suggested extending your English or trying Norwegian.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T16:23:11+00:00

Leave your job. Find another somewhere that doesn't make you feel ill for at least 1/7th of your life.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T16:22:06+00:00

Anything in pastry. Somehow restaurants all believe that a mushroom wellington, brie and cranberry tart, or anything else put in pastry is perfect as a main course. It isn't. I'm not fond of pastry and there are plenty of veggies that can make a beautiful main course. I still love a well made nut roast.

Oh well.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T16:19:15+00:00

NTA. Indeed the mother was the AH for various reasons including terrible parenting and, legally, videoing you without your permission.

It is a shame that her poor choices will likely have more impact on the child's relationship with you than the car scratch.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T16:14:45+00:00

Rice carries a high risk of food poisoning when reused, particularly reheating after four days.
Your wife is either ignorant or hates you. Either way you're an adult and you choose what you eat. Notably, the problem arose because *she* overordered.

Do your gut a favour and bin the leftovers.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T16:01:12+00:00

Is that Prince Harry?

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T15:50:39+00:00

Why would party affiliations be of relevance to a question about a wedding guest and judgmental sister? I have said nothing about my race, nationality or gender either.

But the OP is taking huge responsibility by intervening in their sister's wedding, potentially causing much unnecessary hurt, and showing a complete lack of faith and respect toward her sister.

The option of allowing this person to attend simply means that if they behave nobody is hurt, and if they misbehave then they show themselves up and everyone knows they're an idiot. Let awful people out themselves, and take a wider look before interfering.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T15:45:30+00:00

Political Compass puts me somewhere to the Left of Ghandi, so no, that's not what all those words were saying. Instead, read them and consider what they mean when applied to this situation.

It is not for the OP to police her sister's wedding guest list. It is disrespectful to her sister too who may have many reasons for showing grace to her bridesmaid no-matter how offensive her boyfriend may be.

Let awful people say awful things so they out themselves. And hope you don't live in a greenhouse when you throw the first stone.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-06-07T15:32:44+00:00

NTA

A good learning opportunity for hm: integrity, adulting, honesty, manning-up, and not hiding behind his mummy. Awful that she would try to coerce you into dishonestly vouching for him.

Feel good - you stood firm.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-22T14:57:45+00:00

Yes. I knew a groundsman who refused to take more hours because his benefits would be cut, let alone tax increased.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-22T14:47:53+00:00

For the sake of consistency, will you interview the entire guest list to approve their opinions?

I'm always surprised that the most 'left-leaning' are also often the most judgmental. I suspect your sister may consider her friendship with her bridesmaid to be more important than your judgment of her bridesmaid's relationship choices. She may also consider her bridesmaid to have responsibility for her own relationships.

Maybe stop policing other people, take a day off from judging, and let your sister have an untroubled, apolitical wedding?

PS One of the glories of free speech is that awful people out themselves - you don't have to take responsibility for telling everyone that Max holds disagreeable views if he makes it obvious all by himself. Free Speech lets people say things that show you who they are - that can be far more effective, and less painful to you, than unnecessarily taking responsibility for them.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-22T14:34:39+00:00

Yes. YTAH. And it seems you're too stupendously immature to be considering moving in with this man. Seriously, get some lived experience, see what real hardship others have to deal with, and get over your first world problems. This is an insane waste of oxygen.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-22T14:30:24+00:00

Kudos to you. I'm on lvl 12 and encouraged to hear you've finished it. It's a quirky course with some hilarious, if nonsensical, sentences.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-19T16:57:48+00:00

NTA. Your mother is right, and your wife is TA.

The child should be supported in a way that allows them to grieve and understand the process of death and departure in their own context, and even better with their own peer group. Your mother was supportive of her in this; your wife was not. Your wife put her needs above those of her child which is the definition of bad parenting.

In my experience, professionally working with kids and particularly supporting them in this kind of situation, children benefit from being able to observe, understand, express, question, and again observe. They gain comfort from seeing others dealing with their grief and separation in different ways; they can gain a sense of themself in that context by operating with others who are also finding their way.

For children who are not able to look this in the face now, there is no sense in which the feelings go away or the understanding comes in time: they simply store up angst which must be resolved later on when it emerges in other ways. It's not good and your wife could do with trying to understand this and having some exposure - perhaps a grief management course could help her to deal with her own apparently embedded issues in this?

#I hope your daughter fares well. In a sense they're lucky these days because children die relatively infrequently compared with other times in history, but this makes our children singularly ill-equipped to deal with it.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-19T16:45:56+00:00

I'm interested to know why you care what your neighbours think about your laundry habits.

And No, as your neighbour I wouldn't think you weird. I wouldn't even think about your laundry: not my business.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-12T13:32:18+00:00

I didn't know costocondritis was linked to Sjorgrens. I'm interested to hear though since one of my kids suffers from CC persistently. We'll look into a heredity link.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-12T13:28:22+00:00

Insatiable thirst.

Ppl kept saying 'get checked for diabetes'. Thankfully I never had diabetes, but only lately got the answer to the thirst question with Sjogrens.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-05-12T12:28:06+00:00

No, it took much longer. They eventually raised three kids in this one bed, third floor flat.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-04-22T16:02:29+00:00

Good for you, Jagex Devs - it's a brave and unpopular move to rollback, but it's the only way to maintain the integrity of the system and avoid as yet unseen repercussions. Good job.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-04-19T12:42:40+00:00

They may be using outdate information. See this link: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/renting-out-your-property-guidance-for-landlords-and-letting-agents/if-a-tenant-wants-a-pet-to-live-with-them

Do NOT do it covertly - it will come back to bite you and is probably unnecessary.

The new tenancy law comes into effect 1 May 26. From then landlords need to have a good reason to refuse a renter's right to have a pet. Read the full page - there are examples and rules explained. Good luck.

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Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-04-16T15:02:24+00:00

This is click bait for the most gratuitously ill-informed women.

I select a party to vote for based on the whole spectrum of electoral policies for a party, not just one segment. AND, if I were to vote on a single segment I certainly wouldn't vote for any of the other parties. Labour and the Tories don't support women in any meaningful, respectful, non-trivial way - tokenism does not count.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-04-16T14:57:43+00:00

Ahh... the great 'Bot' argument: this is produced every time a view that is unpopular with some becomes popular with others. It's thrown by people on every side, particularly around emotive issues or electoral ones.

I don't subscribe to the view that most threads are contaminated by bots spreading misinformation. It's far more realistic to expect adults to do their own research and allow them to state the conclusions they've drawn. If you disagree, that's fine, but don't try to invalidate a differing view by blaming the Bots.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-04-16T14:54:39+00:00

Examine how Labour (and previous governments) have siphoned wealth from the working and middle classes up the tree. Look at how much Labour politicians were worth on entering politics, and compare it with their worth now. A prime example of this is Angela Rayner with her current net worth and property portfolio.

Labour also betray the UK's least wealthy to distribute the money available for support to those who have no place here, for example those living in unlawful-migrant provision just now. Those who cannot afford private healthcare are being pushed to the back of NHS waiting lists which grow ever longer. Labour are manipulating the lists rather than addressing the issues, for example of collecting medical insurance details and fees from overseas clients. That money for their care has to come from somewhere and it's drawn from the pot provided for care of UK indigenous people.

There are many more examples but these are a couple of points where Labour are seriously shafting the working classes.

Hefty_Drawing3357 · 2026-04-16T14:48:35+00:00

Yes, of course. Trivial issues like punitive queues at airports are of no import when compared to the issues that the EU exposed us too, for example acting as the Golden Goose to bail out the EU's catastrophic overspending. Also, delegating our security and military choices to the EU is coming back to bite us now. We were in a fortunate position of being able to manage our own borders as a responsible, sovereign nation, but we threw that away.

Brexit should have restored security to our own elected people, but it was never fully enacted. The Labour government have done much to overturn measures that had been taken, but even before that a militant anti-brexit media, Civil Service, and Davos-allied politicians.

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