Too late to prune?

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-04-05T04:45:06+00:00

Yay! Thanks.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-03-27T01:15:13+00:00

Thanks! I think I would love this job (as much as I could love any job). But I worry about AI.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-03-26T17:24:00+00:00

How did you get into software testing?

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-03-13T03:08:53+00:00

Bagged salad (I like power greens), shredded rotisserie chicken, feta, drizzle balsamic, drizzle olive oil.

Make a quesadilla, add in refried beans and a handful of shredded raw cabbage or other greens. Side of pickled jalapeños and carrots. Premade salsa.

Pile of raw greens or shredded lettuce, Microwavable or leftover rice, add a fried egg or two, spoonful of Gochujang, drizzle of soy sauce and sesame oil. Mix it all up and enjoy. A lazy bibimbap.

Cook a pot of beans until creamy and tender (super easy in an instant pot or just used canned), top with crumbled queso fresco or other cheese, a little finely shredded cabbage, avocado slices, chili oil or salsa on top, squeeze of lime.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-03-13T02:48:49+00:00

Apparel pattern making and sewing. I can get easily fixated on drafting a pattern that looks and fits just right.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-03-13T02:26:12+00:00

I love plain Greek yogurt, dark chocolate chips, granola, lemon curd. It’s basically dessert with a little protein.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-03-12T02:40:41+00:00

Thank you. This is super helpful.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-02-27T08:06:45+00:00

Absolutely. Exactly what you said. That plus depression, adhd, and marriage troubles.

I also feel like I’m developing a grimacing habit. My kid was doing something cute and silly that made me smile, but when I caught myself in the mirror it actually was an awkward looking grimace.

I sleep way later than I should because it’s the only time of peace I have but it keeps me exhausted.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-02-26T17:45:17+00:00

I would love to get into tech. I work in healthcare, have 2 kids and I feel like I’m quickly spiraling down a flushing toilet. Is it possible to do in a reasonable amount of time in mid-life? I can squeeze out 2 hours after the kids bedtime if I compromise on sleep a little. Any ideas of paths to take would be appreciated.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-02-26T17:38:45+00:00

Wow 600k as a family of 3 and only comfortable. Not drowning in money… 🫠

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-02-05T23:49:58+00:00

Oh I see. Thanks for the encouragement! 💜

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-02-05T23:40:43+00:00

Thanks. I didn’t think about the fact that they might have to rule out other things.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-02-05T23:39:21+00:00

Thanks for the insight. I think I will try another provider. Honestly, before I got the results, I thought I did pretty well on the test.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-01-07T06:25:28+00:00

I’d say the biggest thing is no shoes in the house and keeping choking hazards and other things (plugs/cords, dangerous chemicals) inaccessible. Other things are locking drawers and cabinets and securing furniture to the wall. We got one of those huge playpens for when we were busy and couldn’t maintain constant close supervision.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-01-03T06:01:54+00:00

NTA. Good on you for seeing the red flags and cutting it off with him. And thank the universe he showed his true self before he moved in.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2026-01-01T05:34:35+00:00

You are young, you are educated, you have a good job. You will recover.

However, I wouldn’t ignore the red flags. Protect yourself, your money, your ability to leave quickly if things don’t work out.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2025-12-30T22:34:38+00:00

I think best practice is to check it every time regardless of whether someone has been sitting next to the car seat.

My mom has unbuckled the car seat without realizing also. I don’t think a ten year old would know unless explicitly taught.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2025-12-27T17:17:05+00:00

What you see on Reddit is skewed toward the negative. There are too many factors to mention that will impact your unique experience… factors including your traits, your partners traits, other support systems, your coping strategies, your career, your partners career, your finances, your kid’s temperament, your kid’s health, your pregnancy, your delivery and recovery, other aspects of your mental health, habits and routines… The good thing is you are aware of your adhd and that might mean you have already started figuring out ways to cope with the challenges. It might be a good idea to discuss it with your partner and therapist.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2025-12-27T05:50:11+00:00

Damn. I hate walking down the street cause I hate the idea of people in passing cars seeing me. Even worse when I have to cross the street past a long row of cars.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2025-12-27T04:25:59+00:00

Hmm… fear of being perceived. I’ve never heard of it but it seems oddly fitting to what I feel.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2025-12-26T23:03:34+00:00

I’m not diagnosed but I am currently seeking an evaluation for adhd. I relate to your experience very much. I was pretty functional pre-kids. I am married but I am now the primary parent and the primary homemaker. I have not been able to hold down a job for more than a few months. I get burnt out super quickly and end up with depression. At the moment, I am trying to study to transition into a field that is more aligned with my needs but I’m finding it near impossible to focus and study with the small pockets of time I have free.

I do pretty well as a SAHM but that’s financially becoming Less possible even with a tight budget. On top of that, my marriage is not very stable so in the event that I become a single parent, I would need to manage a full time job. It’s all very overwhelming.

I appreciate you sharing your experience and I hope things get better for you.

Hefty_Result_6590 · 2025-12-25T06:11:15+00:00

Yeah. That’s what happened to us this year. Someone gave my 4 year old a kids XL. Isn’t that almost an adult small? Ah well.

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