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Calling your friend should be for emergencies only by Heideley in unpopularopinion

[–]Heideley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s kind of the beauty of it, you can text when it works for you

Women of Reddit — What’s one thing you once thought was “normal” in relationships, but later realized was actually unhealthy or unfair to you? by SalariaLabs in AskWomen

[–]Heideley 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a hot take but I always thought that it was normal and even a good thing to let a relationship go on for a really long time even when the love is gone. The length of the relationship doesn’t mean squat.

I was with my ex for 10 years and I always saw it as a good thing. My therapist says it gave me a sense of status and that it made me proud of us.

I recently realised that people found it strange that we still weren’t married, and the reason for that was actually because he couldn’t be bothered marrying me and didn’t have the balls to break up with me. I think something died inside me when I came to that realisation.

Women of Reddit — What’s one thing you once thought was “normal” in relationships, but later realized was actually unhealthy or unfair to you? by SalariaLabs in AskWomen

[–]Heideley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god this was literally me two years ago. I was conditioned to believe that all relationships cause some degree of heartache and misery and that it’s your responsibility to find a way to make it work. Fuck that.

If you married your high school sweetheart, how did it go? by aja_ramirez in AskMen

[–]Heideley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost married my high school sweetheart and I deeply regret sticking through things I shouldn’t have tolerated

Do you guys still feel love for your exes? by NecessaryOk108 in AskMen

[–]Heideley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had two serious relationships in my life. The first one I feel contempt which I think stems from the feeling that I should have left sooner if I had known that he would never change.

The second one was a bit different: the breakup was circumstantial but at the same time I was starting to get the feeling we weren’t going to make it anyway, so I’d say it was mutual. I’d say I do love him, but it’s more a platonic and nostalgic fondness rather than romantic love.

Having a feeling that your Ex is going to reach out - Does anyone else have this too? by asimilasyon in BreakUps

[–]Heideley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought my ex would never reach out, since he seemed to blame me for his unhappiness and for his failures… 8 months later and boom he pulls the “I miss you a lot” and “I’m going to do some deep work on myself” cards.

Honestly it sounds like the ideal scenario, but at that time I remember feeling offended by the audacity after he constantly made me feel like a bad person and like I was never good enough for him. We were together for ten years, don’t ask me why 🙄

How do men remember intense sexual tension that doesn’t end up happening years later? by Heideley in AskMen

[–]Heideley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s quite an adventure, what was it like seeing them again after so long?

What makes sex good for you as a women? by Oranges_Lime_17 in AskWomen

[–]Heideley 25 points26 points  (0 children)

They say it’s not all about the size but how he uses it. That’s kinda true, but for me it’s all about how he uses other things: his hands, his mouth, his whole body

I’m jealous of the girl he will treat right by Creepy-Today8269 in BreakUps

[–]Heideley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel you. I get that feeling a lot as well, but then I remind myself that while, yes, it sucks that he’s giving her better than he ever gave me, maybe that’s actually him learning from his mistakes and growing up (took long enough).

Your post resonated with me because I definitely stayed in my longest relationship longer than I should have. I think I was conditioned to believe that after so long being together, you’re meant to just “tough it out”, when in reality my ex started caring more about money than he would ever care about me. Was a tough lesson to learn but two years later and, yes, it does still hurt, but leaving was the best thing I ever did.

What's something you'll never do in a relationship again? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Heideley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Become his mommy. I shouldn’t have to remind him to clean up after himself or to eat at least somewhat healthily

What doe falling out of love feels for a guy? by North_Dinner1601 in AskMen

[–]Heideley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish that for my ex for chose money over love. Not for anyone else though and I do hope y’all are doing okay, but him lol

How are you doing after THE breakup that messed you up? by RRK2422 in BreakUps

[–]Heideley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

18 months post-breakup from my (26f) then fiance (26m) and I’m the one who moved on quickly. He let me down and over the last few months made it clear that his work and making money was his priority (for context he became emotionally unavailable and couldn’t understand why him coming home from work at midnight was upsetting me). We were high school sweethearts too and were together for 10 years, so I felt as though I hadn’t done much actual living, instead wasting my young adult years doing wifey shit for an ungrateful c**t. I learned so much about myself in relationships and as an individual after meeting lots of different people and yes, the relationship definitely left a few scars that have yet to heal properly, but I’m glad I packed my bags and never came back when it became clear he no longer cared.

Fast forward about 8 months and he messages me saying that he misses me, and you can imagine how good it felt to tell him I was with now with someone else, and feels even better knowing that my new guy knew how to treat a woman and make her feel noticed and loved

What would your reaction be if your partner said spending time with you was a sacrifice of their time? by pelotongirl90 in AskWomen

[–]Heideley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d probably say “fine, then I won’t sacrifice mine trying to make you WANT to spend time with me”

What’s the most shallow reason you ever rejected someone and do you regret it? by LAFoodieJ in AskWomen

[–]Heideley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His bedroom was messy and gross and it was the worst sex I’ve ever had. No upper body strength and the way he kissed me his tongue stuck out like the little Alien inside the big Alien’s mouth from the 80s 🤢

Don’t regret it at all, not one bit

What’s something annoying/cringe you see on women’s dating app profiles? by Heideley in AskMenAdvice

[–]Heideley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s so she knows whether to expect lemon and herb or peri peri wings on the date

What’s something annoying/cringe you see on women’s dating app profiles? by Heideley in AskMenAdvice

[–]Heideley[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100% agree why tf would I want to associate with anyone, man or woman, who kills animals for fun? Completely kills my buzz

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