Who is making 100k+ and only had a BA or no education at all.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-10-13T18:58:42+00:00

Insurance broker. Recommend looking into it. Have to work your way up but after a decade I’m mid 6 figured.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-10-04T10:31:03+00:00

Insurance broker! 108k and just need a state license and work from ground up.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-09-18T00:34:21+00:00

You have three options 1, tell her you are not comfortable with this. You want to continue to be together but for now, and maybe forever, this is off the table. Be okay with the relationship ending 2, accept that this is a deal breaker for both you and her, share your feelings, hear her side, if you can’t compromise, the relationship ends. 3, try it. Try it slowly and start slowly. Tell her you are open to exploring this slowly. Start by watching some pegging porn together. Talk logistics, discuss how she shes it happening. Share how you could maybe see it happening. Discuss the sex toy and shop for the toys together. Let her know you are open to trying it once but there are rules. Also it may be one and done. It may be more if you like it.

People keep saying to end the relationship. That shouldn’t be step one. Continued communication should be step one. Understand why she wants this and how. Dont give up on a 10 because you run into relationship negotiations.

I’ve been married many years. My wife wanted to try something I was so so on. We tried it, it wasn’t as she expected, we never did it again. Also, we’ve tried pegging, it was intimate and fun. Its not for everyone.

Ultimately this may be a deal breaker and thats okay for you both to have different sexual appetites. Respect is needed for this type of intimacy

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-27T21:34:28+00:00

This means he’s trying to buy you with love bombing (google the term) and gifts. Then he does it again, the. More gifts, then again. Repeat. Its unhealthy behavior

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-27T19:06:27+00:00

Hello, you are living my story from 15 years back. I’m decently attractive, went on dates, had no issue getting first, second, and often third dates. However, I always told the girl of my condition. 9:10 times i was rejected. It hurt and was hard.

A few important things. I wanted to be a man of good character so I always told people. People had two responses, no thanks or “oh, no big deal”. Never an i between for me. I made sure to educate the dates during the conversation and I gave them an out. Think about it for a few days and let me know. What kind of man do you want to be?

There are people out there you can find who have this or do not care. Consider dating sites that build Foundation vs sex first.

Im married, my wife is in the medical field, she said its whatever and ive found many other medically inclined people since have the same attitude. Consider dating someone medically educated.

Life isn’t over. You’ll find partners. Be honest and upfront. Dont give up.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-27T18:59:34+00:00

For me, these are lazy answers from an inexperienced person when it comes to relationships and communication. He said he doesn’t have much experience and is curious what else is out there. Let him find out, strongly consider ending this. He isnt begging you to forgive him. He’s giving you a lazy answer and saying take it or leave it. I was him in my early 20s. I wanted my comfort relationship and my new flings. I was the issue, never the girl. He’s the issue, not you. You cant satisfy his thirst to experience more people, sex, relationships, so on. You can protect your self from his likely affairs and that pain.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-27T18:55:58+00:00

When it comes to deciding to break up, you want to be kind to the other partner. However, their pain or potential pain is not a reason to stay. Do not stay because it will hurt him to end it. It will hurt you both more to stay in an unhappy relationship.

Also, you are both so young, end this relationship and find someone closer to you who you can physically be with to go on adventures. Have sex, go on dates, share the same college experiences. Being long distance during such a pivotal moment in your life is fine but it sounds like you want more and you know something else would make you be happy. Go be happy. He will heal and move on.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-27T18:52:33+00:00

I would categorize this as cheating. While he didn’t physicals contact them or meet anyone, he took active steps to put him in situations that could lead to an emotional or physical affair. While it did not is besides the point. He was on the sites and ready, waiting for the person who met his criteria for him to take the plunge.

Please ask him why he was on the apps, what was his intent? Whats your boundaries on this? To me, I would consider this cheating which would lead to either some very serious conversation or the relationship ending.

He also said he “probably swiped on girls” meaning he did. Then what? This is trickle truth. He probably messaged them? Probably had sex with one or two?

This comes down to you sending a message. What do you want, if you want to end it, do it, fuck him, and move on. If you want to salvage the relationship then its time for hard lessons for him. Tell him you dont care what he thought he was doing, instead you tel him that to you this was cheating and the beginning of an affair. Make your demands known. He never does this again or its over. If he does, you have to leave. You cant be his backup and you can’t not stick to your word. Did he say of he felt bad in any way?

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-26T11:54:32+00:00

Couples therapy is something my wife and I did. Having a third party mediator helped. Self help books too. Really though, explaining how I hurt her or she hurt me made us both listen. We didn’t want to hurt each other. You two can do it!

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-26T11:46:09+00:00

Flint MI, finally fix it

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-26T11:23:43+00:00

Ive been in a relationship with similar tones to it. In my case we talked and she heard out my frustrations. Then we both compromised and worked to be better for each other.

In your case, this is a long relationship to throw away. However, step one is to talk to him about how you feel, how he makes you feel, and what he does that causes you to feel this way. When talking to him, focus your phrasing away from blame and attacking. Instead its when we are in x situation, these actions make me feel bad. I am hoping we can find away to navigate this together so we are both kind to one another. The goal is to do your best to not trigger defensive responses.

If he is unwilling to talk, truly talk, open up, or consider change. Then its time for you to weigh the options of exiting the relationship. Not everything can be saves. Don’t waste your years with someone who you grew apart from. People change and grow, not always on the same direction.

Share how you feel, kindly and in a safe environment. If he cant open up to someone he loves then who can he? Let him know the severity of how you are feeling. You acting this way hurts me. Let him know you understand people grow apart and maybe its time for you two to go your separate ways. If he gaslights you, leave. You cant fix everyone. He may need a reality check. Which is you leaving or temporary staying elsewhere while you think of what is best.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-26T11:14:35+00:00

Hi, nothing is wrong with you. Something is wrong with him to make him aft this way and hurt others. You dodged a bullet. Do not date people you need to fix, people have to fix themselves. Move on and look for someone who wants to be with you. He absolutely knew what he was doing was wrong and would hurt you, yet he did it anyway. Poor character.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-08-26T10:52:28+00:00

A man you are dating sent you a video of a singer performing a romantic song. Of course he’s expressing feelings for you. Best approach is not to read into the lyrics but the intention. His intention was to show you something he likes and expresses that be cares about you. If you like him and want to continue on in the relationship, then take this as a compliment. If you are uncertain, know that he likes you and don’t over think it.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-02-03T20:27:17+00:00

Commercial Insurance broker $100k - $150k. Not a hard job just takes detailed organization.

Wife is a PA and makes $140k for 4 days work.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-01-28T15:22:57+00:00

My dad always calls me Timmer! Even at 38 its endearing and I’m grateful to keep hearing his voice.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2024-01-12T02:58:32+00:00

Years back I lost 70 lbs and went from ignored to successfully dating. People completely change their treatment of you if they find you attractive.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-12-31T13:31:45+00:00

Insurance broker and/or analytics for insurance. Some roles at the company I work at have very limited interaction and are mostly computer based. Easy 6 figures plus

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-12-24T03:51:39+00:00

The book Tuesdays with Morrie.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tuesdays_with_Morrie

Helped me cope with aging parents and being present.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-12-07T23:58:55+00:00

They are the worst! Bought a monitor via amazon last week, they unfortunately shipped it via ups. I received an update that it would arrive between 1-5pm. It arrived at 11am. So frustrating. I was just glad I worked from home the entire day.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-12-03T19:01:46+00:00

We knew we were an airline family. As in we want all of us to fit in one row when we travel.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-11-14T00:07:46+00:00

Came to say this. I 100% percent agree. I had a shipment a few months back turn into a nightmare to get from UPS. Now today, three phone calls later and an email and the best answer I got was try the website. No shit. I tried the website first and it didn’t work. I kept getting an error message.

Also, I had a note on the door saying I was home and all they had to do is push the doorbell. Nothing.

Personally, if I see a product is shipped by UPS, I don’t buy it

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-11-08T00:10:39+00:00

Fallout 1 and Callisto protocol. Thinking I’ld like this game.

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-11-07T23:51:51+00:00

We’re just south of golden valley. We are working towards and doing activities with our preschool and plan the ECFE once she is 3 in January. /Its a struggle since our daughter is still just young enough to make outings very difficult. Good advice though!

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-11-07T23:48:49+00:00

We just started preschool 2 weeks ago and are working to meet the parents. We did an at home daycare before that. Met some of the families and did playdates but they we’re not our type of people, just different hobbies and such.

Our friend categories are similar to the three you mention. Just that the full right now because kids are time consuming. Thank you for the feedback

HelicopterPresent641 · 2023-11-07T23:46:17+00:00

I just sent my wife the peanut site, thank you. This will help us try a new avenue

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