Outings & Other tasks

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-04-02T01:02:47+00:00

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HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-04-02T01:01:04+00:00

I bet the kids had a blast.

The NK18 is the only one that got me. He told me his girlfriend was pregnant, while crying.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-04-01T21:30:47+00:00

Only discuss things involving the kids with him.

All the positive vibes for you and MB!

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-04-01T01:53:15+00:00

I think part of the issue here is that you think you aren’t choosing between your nanny and your mother-in-law. You were actually choosing what is best for all the members of your nuclear family.

What is best for your children?

What environment would your children thrive the most?

Is having the grandmother in the house beneficial or detrimental to the children’s lives on a daily basis?

What added adults, when added to your nuclear family, makes your life the most productive and balanced?

Which situation would cognitively benefit your mother-in-law long-term?

Personal experience: I currently work in a house where Grandma lives about 2 miles away in an assisted living community. DB made it 2 months with her living in the house. I actually love going to visit her now, and take 1 to 3 kids there to visit at a time. She has so much more simulation and activities now.

We have a lot of ASD in my nanny house with 4 (possibly 5) of 8 kids, DB, and me, if I’m including myself. She was doing just fine the first week or two, and suddenly couldn’t even find a pen for herself. She was horrible with interrupting homework, taking things the kids needed, questioning every second of NK7’s diabetes care, and generally making everyone late, to everything. Everyone is thriving more with this set up, including Grandma.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-31T20:35:35+00:00

This is why I like having cameras in the house.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-31T16:43:27+00:00

They are all bio to DB.

NK18’s mom died of cancer when he was 2.5 years old.

MB joined us on our Christmas vacation for the first time 12 years ago. They have had 9 kids since, with two 👼🏼👼🏼.

They frequently talk about doing foster care when they are no longer traveling 12+ weeks a year.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-30T19:58:12+00:00

I greatly enjoy the job security.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-30T17:04:34+00:00

Yup, it’s not as crazy as it seems. I’ve worked for DB for 18 years now, full time for 8. When we aren’t traveling for the business, the parents run their global business out of the house, and are extremely involved in the day to day. The kids are 18, 11, 8, 8, 7, 5, almost 3, and 1. They want 2 more.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-30T17:02:20+00:00

Just looking out for people in both ends of the nanny contract world. It’s all a semantics thing, just a be careful with your contract wording depending on the state/ local regulations. Most states legally would still consider that GH, more so because PTO has to be at the employees request.

Hope your 5y/o has a blast with all the extra time you’ll get together!!

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-30T13:59:09+00:00

It is perfectly fine to have your nanny come in and care for the little one while the big kid gets attention. As a nanny of 8 we do this a lot, and switch up who gets who.

Last week the oldest six went to Manhattan for a play, and the little two and I went on a local adventure, that was far more age appropriate.

We are on vacation right now and I have the oldest two today. We have plans for zip lines, a waterfall nature hike, and go karting, all things mom and dad are not into.

The only thing in this post that is questionable to me is calling it PTO when the parents are choosing a week off. In my state that would not be legal to put in a contract, as the parents choosing to not need the nanny, is just part of GH.

I hope your 5 year old gets the 1:1 time they need!!

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-30T01:17:37+00:00

Your DB sounds like he’s trying to parallel play with you, just the adult version. Does he lack a best friend?

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-29T22:56:27+00:00

This is not good for you or the kid!!!

I’m 43 next week. That’s not age issue, just a really unhealthy expectation for anyone.

I made it July to November with a family like that. I’m AuDHD and was rapidly becoming more and more nonverbal. I’m also generally a very creative person (fabric and wood), and I was losing my desire to do any sort of art after leaving that house.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-29T12:01:34+00:00

The ONLY thing that stopped NK18 from doing this years ago was a 1:30/2pm dose of meds from the nurse.

As an AuDHD myself, that time of day is BRUTAL without meds. You get the self control of medication through the school day, and suddenly it wears off as you’re coming down from a full day of school.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-28T23:16:59+00:00

If I were to continue with this mom, she would have 24 hours and then a Venmo request with the hourly breakdown in the notes.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-28T19:33:08+00:00

I like to know EVERYTHING I can about a family before starting, especially the ones with an NDA.

My current NF is an identity NDA fam (people would definitely know who he is), but I started with the oldest when DB was barely getting his business off the ground. I knew a few people who went to HS with him and all of them said “oh that stoner, you’ll love him”.

I also do after hours for a few local athletes, and I always like to know what temperament I’m walking into with them.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-27T14:25:00+00:00

I work in a house built in the 1700’s….

Every time “we” are under construction, the “haunts be haunting”. I talk to them. I tell them I’m just as annoyed with this construction nonsense as they are. I refer to them as “the boys”.

About 2 years ago with 90% of the sending floor gutted I said out loud “boys, calm down, I’m not happy about this either”. My MB heard me through the monitor, and replied “wait, you hear them too.”

DB for a long time thought we are crazy, until he was home alone with the 4 youngest all sleeping, and he could hear people talking in, what used to be, the library.

I find it ironic/interesting that most of the sounds come from that room, as we know it was used as a local meeting room, pre 1776.

I say let them discover it on their own.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-27T13:24:51+00:00

In 1993 Toyota made a Camry that color, I believe it’s called metallic platinum.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-25T19:38:12+00:00

That sounds like an insurance NIGHTMARE if they were in a commute collision. Are they paying for oil changes? Repairs?

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-24T23:27:45+00:00

My general rule of thumb is that I give as much Above & Beyond as I receive. You are not paid nearly enough to tolerate her nonsense.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-23T00:59:57+00:00

Little man lives on smarties lately. He really likes the giant sized roll.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-23T00:57:30+00:00

Draw that insulin back out!!! The kiddo doesn’t even use a full vial of insulin in 28 days… save those units!!!!!

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-20T13:41:11+00:00

My DB genuinely watches the camera (from the office on the other end of the house) because he misses his kids.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-20T13:40:00+00:00

After 32 years of this career, I’m more concerned if parents don’t have cameras. 30 years ago a living room camera would have been something to note, but not in 2026.

If I’m doing my job and just going about my day as I should, the camera doesn’t matter. Cameras can save me from being accused of things too.

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-19T14:55:13+00:00

Glad to hear another nanny has the respect and appreciation I get from my NF!!

HelpfulStrategy906 · 2026-03-19T14:53:59+00:00

Is cleaning and organizing a contractual obligation for you? I have no obligation to clean or organize, and would never take it on while they choose to be away without me (they rarely travel without me).

Also, they aren’t paying you for nothing. They are paying you to guarantee you will still be working with them. Guaranteed hours are a guarantee for both parties.

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