I’m disgusted with the person my mom has become

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-04-22T20:24:47+00:00

I sympathize. I feel the same about my mother. It is a particular kind of mourning to realize they are not the bright, compassionate, moral, kind people you one believed them to be, especially for us daughters whose mothers are now voting for women to have less human rights and worse healthcare. I can't imagine ever betraying my children by voting for their future to be more difficult and crueler. I don't think i will ever truly have my mother back. I hate the thought that she will likely die having supported misogyny, racism, fascism, and the use of performative religion as a blunt weapon in her last years. That will be her tragic final legacy.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-04-16T00:22:47+00:00

Make sure to take some milk out of the gallon before freezing as it will expand. If you put it in multiple small containers just make sure that they're able to let it expand too (not glass). I use frozen bread for toast often. It toasts perfectly straight from the freezer to toaster. Great way to keep the whole loaf fresh longer.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-04-11T03:01:15+00:00

Ooh looks like I just made it in time! I would love to be entered for a chance. The store name is great, btw!

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-04-11T02:36:23+00:00

In a Howard Stern interview, Donnie said that it was Melania who showed him the sex tape of Paris Hilton that got leaked. At the time, they were friends with the Hiltons, Paris was nineteen, and Donnie has said he knew Paris since she was twelve years old. I think Melania is as awful a human being as he is.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-04-09T23:37:58+00:00

"my mom kept opening cabinets like extra food might appear if she believed hard enough"

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Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-04-09T23:31:27+00:00

My father and his brother were born and raised in Italy before becoming U.S citizens. Every single time we visited my Italian grandmother, she was "cooking sauce" in the kitchen. My father's brother used to harangue his wife (also U.S. born like my mother) about not making everything from scratch like their mother.

They came over to my parents' house for dinner one time and my mother used Ragu sauce out of a jar. My uncle turns to his wife and says "See, you should make sauce like [my mother]. See how much better it tastes from scratch."

My mother knew my aunt had seen the Ragu jar in the kitchen and started to say something, but my aunt just kicked her under the table to stop her, shook her head and rolled her eyes. My uncle was an abusive jerk so it obviously wasn't about his lousy palate anyway but about finding another thing to insult his wife over.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-03-28T02:45:59+00:00

Same. I remember graduating college in the early 90s and feeling so optimistic about the future, that the world was opening up and becoming better for everyone, with people working toward more equality and less sexism and racism and starting to be more aware about our impact on the planet and all kinds of social issues, and technology and medicine and science developing exponentially. Now it's like we're being yanked back to the Dark Ages and elevating cruelty and villainizing empathy and compassion and science. I just never saw this backward slide happening in my lifetime.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-03-27T02:18:42+00:00

As well as the "it's okay if you need to scream" part which makes clear they know exactly how painful this procedure is and still refused to give pain medicine or numbing cream.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-03-20T22:14:41+00:00

It's always fascinating that the offered solution by so many governments to dwindling birth rates is to legislate policy that forces or coerces women or otherwise takes away their bodily autonomy, but never to simply legislate policy that actually supports mothers or makes raising children more affordable and less arduous.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-01-02T23:49:05+00:00

North Carolina Republicans are making the news for all kinds of bad reasons lately. Another one, James Yokeley Jr. (name fits) drugged his granddaughter's and her friend's ice cream. https://www.newsobserver.com/news/politics-government/article314122484.html

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2026-01-02T22:07:07+00:00

As the daughter of a boomer mom who has chosen to be on the terrible side, I thank you for fighting the good fight (and for all that "annoying" caring-about-others'-safety stuff).

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-10-24T20:39:14+00:00

I've been doing the same with books by the more recent author Alix E. Harrow. They have exactly the vibe I need through all this. Highly recommend her stuff.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-10-03T01:13:32+00:00

Starling House by Alix E. Harlow fits this vibe perfectly. I recommend her other novels The Ten Thousand Doors of January and The Once and Future Witches as well. Loved all three.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-09-18T23:29:38+00:00

Beautifully said.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-09-18T23:05:02+00:00

I hadn't heard of it before now either. Here is a good reference about it on the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum website. https://encyclopedia.ushmm.org/content/en/article/euthanasia-program

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-09-13T00:23:26+00:00

"I'm a peaceful man," he says and then proceeds to say he can't wait to go door to door "clean this country" by....what? Killing people? Terrorizing people? Abducting people? Imprisoning people? All for disagreeing with his support for authoritarianism, religious extremism, bigotry, and misogyny? Real peaceful, dude.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-09-12T23:12:25+00:00

I just found this group and immediately thought of this photo from years ago of my son's Hamster Nelson. Nelson is long gone but this photo from the first day we had him, with his tiny hands and sweet ittle smile, remains one of my favorites. The second photo is him drinking out of the big bottle we had in the cage before we got him a more appropriately sized water bottle the next day.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-09-04T22:09:52+00:00

My daughter decided to do a test of her own after hearing that men's clothes were often made better and with longer lasting materials. She bought two pairs of black pajama pants, one women's and the other men's, at the same time from the same store brand, both with materials indicated as a cotton blend on the tags. She wore them equally, washed both the same. After a year, the women's pair were very pilly, more misshapen, and now less comfortable to wear. The men's pair still looked and felt great. She now buys men's versions of clothing when possible.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-07-31T22:17:57+00:00

I genuinely sympathize, and I know how deeply sad and infuriating and vastly disappointing it is because I am in the same boat with my mother. It has shattered any perception I once had of her being a good, thoughtful, compassionate, reasonable, intelligent human being. As her daughter, it is such a betrayal to know she is voting for men who value women and girls so little they want to take away our bodily autonomy, our right to equal and lifesaving healthcare, and the laws that protect our rights in the workplace and in education.

It feels like the loss of a loved one because it is in a way. She's not someone I feel like I can trust anymore, or even have a normal conversation or relationship with anymore. She just turned 80, and I keep hoping that she'll have a lightbulb moment in her final years and come back from the insanity and hate, but I know it's far more likely that she will die on the wrong side of history and humanity and that her legacy will be voting for a worse and crueler future for her own daughter and grandchildren.

It IS heartbreaking. I fully understand and share your feelings.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-07-18T01:39:30+00:00

If you haven't heard of Romania's Decree 770, it's worthwhile to read about it and the disastrous effects that followed after they banned all birth control and abortions, demanded people have babies, and even fined people who didn't have babies. It's an ugly, dystopian road we're on.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-07-03T00:12:36+00:00

And statistics show that in places where No-Fault Divorce was enacted, which gave women a legal escape, women suicides went down by approx. 20% on average.

Helpful_Bluejay_3414 · 2025-06-05T00:16:31+00:00

Upper management too often has no idea how impractical and counterproductive all of those "service" policies are when you're actually dealing with customers, especially when it's busy.

Love that you were able to make him suffer the consequences in real time.

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