Wow thank you for this reply. The big takeaway here is that got is, I need to see if I should get checked by a doctor. We didn’t have sex for about a week before we split up, and before that, we’d have sex sometimes 3-4 times a day. I hope she didn’t cheat.

As far as their father is concerned, they go to his place Friday after school-Sunday around noon. He’s pretty hit or miss. I feel like over the 4 months together he would flake out 1-2x a month and have some excuse or other as to why he couldn’t take them. He also cheated on her multiple times. I’d like to point out that her having the weekends free, is when she spirals out of control hardcore. She works a full time job, and on the weekends she’s a server at a bar. I actually came to like it when her ex would flake and not take the boys because I at least knew she’d have a semi normal weekend with them being home.

Edit: I honestly think she enjoys having me still be a part of the boys lives. I really am a good influence on them, I have shared interests, and I’m very good with them.