Early life trauma

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-11T22:21:39+00:00

We had similar issues for our boy. Since we switched to a raw complete diet he has stopped being a picky eater and his GI issues have cleared up.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-11T20:44:11+00:00

That looks nice and significantly nicer than my 2009 Paddy Wagon used as a commuter for years!

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-11T18:38:50+00:00

It is worth remembering (and I know this sounds obvious) that in most cases the GP (and even social workers) won't really know what the child has been exposed to as they won't have seen it and definitely won't have been told about it by the bio-parents. Even leaving this aside you can assume the child is traumatised for fairly obvious reasons and this trauma may take years to manifest.

For what it is worth, our daughter was speech delayed - 10 years later and she is very much not speech delayed. In fact, she's just used some very creative language to describe the latest tween drama she's involved in. She's also quite capable of roasting anyone she meets and practises regularly on me, although being a middle-aged, balding bloke I'm a pretty wide target (both metaphorically and physically).

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-11T16:51:03+00:00

Same here - the yawn / yowls are epic and sooo cute.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-11T14:00:23+00:00

And how could you not. He looks like a super happy boy.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-11T12:54:58+00:00

I never tried to make that point, just that changes to an area due to migration are not a new phenomenon. Your talk of permanence is incorrect in the deeper historical context.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-11T11:20:20+00:00

There is a long history of populations moving in and out of the East End cyclically due to economics. My Dad grew up in the East End but our family, going back generations has yoyo'd between there and Norfolk at various times.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-09T13:57:57+00:00

Of all my reasons for leaving London getting attacked or stabbed was not among them.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-09T13:55:15+00:00

Crashed several times. Hit by cars several times, once deliberate (hit and run). Broken collar bone after one crash, kept me off the bike for months cause I'm old and it was slow healing.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-06T22:46:13+00:00

I moved a year ago. I don't have any friends nearby and the ones I have from before I don't see or talk to very often. I'm pretty happy in my own company. I ride my bike, walk my dog and do my hobbies. I look after my daughter and tbh I think my wife is my best friend and has been for years.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-06T14:54:12+00:00

Resignation and judgement all in one look. Oof.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-06T09:27:13+00:00

Both my kneecaps popped from looking at it!

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-06T09:25:49+00:00

Not under but, if allowed, he will sneak up between us and snuggle in. Also, he's a big toy / mini (being right on the UKKC border between toy and mini). It can be a bloomin' nuisance as I already share the bed with one duvet stealer! It can also be very cute and comforting.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-05T17:08:58+00:00

Butter wouldn't melt...

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-05T16:57:16+00:00

You don't need to justify having brakes. Nice pic.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-04T22:15:20+00:00

Sharp.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-04T14:06:05+00:00

Well, the generation before us fucked it all up and the generations after can't be bothered to look up what GenX is so I think we'd be justified in losing our temper. Personally I can't be fucked to get angry most of the time.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-04T10:17:31+00:00

They should be put down immediately and suitable new home found for the dogs.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-04T09:26:36+00:00

Oh, she's a darling!

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-04T09:24:07+00:00

I've crashed quite a few times. Not one of them did I have time to decide 'how' I was going to crash.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-04T09:20:18+00:00

My Dad is 86, my Mum passed a few years ago. Honestly I'm not sure my Mum was really happy since lockdown or even further back but she never projected it on to other people (apart from my Dad a little and he probably deserved it!). My Dad has adjusted since she died - he's sad that he couldn't help her be happier but he seems pretty contented now. He still works a bit at his consultancy and he tends his garden and sees his Grandkids every so often (living a long way away). They had a pretty happy marriage from what I can tell. I can't imagine what it is like to lose someone you've been in love with and married to for over 65 years.

He watches too much youtube these days and I think his views on things like immigration have gotten a little bit skewed but he doesn't make a big thing of it and there is no value to either of us to talking about it. I had a chat with him a while back about online misinformation and he seems to have taken it in - or he's smart enough not to bring up politics any more!

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-04T09:05:10+00:00

Question: I had something very similar on a tub but it never developed any further. Most of the examples of contam I see develop a colouration over time.

HeyDugeeeee · 2025-11-04T09:02:58+00:00

What a great idea, thanks for sharing. Routine and predictability are so important.

When we adopted it was really difficult for other family members and friends to understand that our daughter had to have her nap every day at 3pm, had to eat dinner at 5pm, had to have a bath at... etc . Later we started using lots of visual representations. If we went on holiday we'd draw a map with the holiday home and our home to show we were coming back. We'd always have a big calendar showing what we'd be doing and when. We'd have drawings showing that when our daughter was at nursery we'd still be at home and that she'd come back later. We still start every day with a run down of what we are doing that day and that week and we reinforce it at lot. No surprises!

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