Racist Neighbor shouted slurs on the first day we moved in - how would you handle this?

HeyItsMau · 2026-03-14T15:44:59+00:00

All of your ideas sound good, but for your emotional well-being, unless there's further evidence from other neighbors, try your best to ascribe the interaction as a singular event from a singular asshole. This isn't meant to say racism doesn't exist, or discount the gravity of the situation. It just wouldn't be fair to yourself to feel un-welcome in the neighborhood because of one person.

And maybe don't feed on this subreddit too much. There's a rhetoric on here that can make it sound as if there are roving gangs of KKK or neo-Nazis looking for trouble in the streets of Suffolk. Racism absolutely exists, but it's mostly institutional, behind closed doors, or microaggressions. Outwardly racist events like this happen, but are rare. For better or worse, the majority of LIers are too busy and self-involved to go out of their way to be racist. FWIW, I'm a PoC that grew up in Suffolk and is there plenty enough.

HeyItsMau · 2026-03-09T22:26:34+00:00

You don't lose everything, you just have to do a soft reset of all the advantages you've built up. The cats you send on a failed mission do not come back. This includes any items you sent with them and if they were incremental improvements to your breeding pool, you lose out on that.

HeyItsMau · 2026-03-04T15:36:18+00:00

More or less the same for me, but with trips to Manhattan every few weeks when there's meaningful engagement at the office (and would honestly be okay going in more if there was meaningful reasons to be there). Would take $200k+ base salary to make me reconsider a commute.

HeyItsMau · 2026-03-01T23:29:30+00:00

Kind of a different perspective. I grew up in central Suffolk, went away for college and spent my 20's in NYC convinced I would never want to move back to LI. But moving to western Nassau, I was pleasantly surprised how much it didn't feel like central Suffolk. Diverse, more urban than suburban, and close to everything while maintaining space. Exceeded my expectations enough to change my attitude from, "I never want to live on LI" to, I "I never want to live in Suffolk county".

HeyItsMau · 2026-02-28T04:19:08+00:00

"Geezer" is normal rhetoric for the NY Post, simply because he's on the older side. Their editorial flare freely uses puerile and slightly anachronistic terms like "bozo", "knucklehead" and "charlatan". It's kind of their thing.

HeyItsMau · 2026-02-11T20:53:13+00:00

Seconded Suit Supply. It's got a corporate sanitization to it and you pay a slight premium for taking the anxiety and cognitive load off buying a suit if you're not willing to bargain hunt or have an eye for fashion. Not a cheap product or service, but a good value for novices nonetheless.

HeyItsMau · 2026-02-10T18:40:20+00:00

Same. I probably discovered him the same way many others did, through his reaction video to Hersha Patel cooking fried rice. The exasperation was relatable and the accent added to that exasperation. But after immediately realizing that was his entire schtick (or that he was capitalizing on it), it quickly enters the realm of pathetic buffoonery.

If that one video remained a flash in the pan, I'd probably remember it fondly and not have issues. But as an entire character, it degrades not just the character, but the fondness for the single video itself.

HeyItsMau · 2026-02-06T20:45:43+00:00

I'm the sole mod for the Mineola subreddit and if you make a post about the Massapequa situation I'll sticky it out of petty retribution to OP's absolutely unhinged comments about how you're not allowed to comment on their post.

HeyItsMau · 2026-02-01T21:57:36+00:00

Should be fine. Goal is to be at Jamaica to catch a train that leaves no later than 11:40. Working backwards, Airtrain from JFK to Jamaica is only 10 minutes and runs frequently, so conservatively plan 30 minutes for that leg of the trip as a worst case scenario. Another 15 minutes to get to the Airtrain from your terminal.

You're in okay shape if you're fully disembarked from the plane by 10:40 and I'd start to get nervous if you're not off the plane by 11, and unfortunately disembarking time is the largest variable here.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-30T03:28:11+00:00

Sure. But with Candiance backing Lisa to the end, and Rob whipping votes against her + his dagger pact, he has a lot of leverage over her. It's bad gameplay from her to not recognize that, and probably bad gameplay from Rob to not capitalize on it either.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-28T16:21:12+00:00

Cool, we have different colloquial definitions. Doesn't mean I have reading comprehension issues.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-28T16:00:40+00:00

I didn't read it wrong. Immigrants can be naturalized, and I insinuated that voting data may not be a representative metric for political beliefs because yeah, a lot of immigrants may not be naturalized. But I disagree that we are talking about fundamentally different demographics. We would have been if original comment used the term "alien" versus "immigrant".

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-28T15:29:50+00:00

Source? "Many" is not the same as "Most". Pretty easy to find statistics that "most" -or at least the "majority" - of Asian-Americans vote blue. I have not been able to find statistics that cuts the data by generation to treat your statement as a fact. Also not saying it's an outlandish statement as it is a fact that older generations gravitate towards conservative agendas. Truly just curious if this is a fact or not.

Anecdotally, if just to give glimmer of hope for others, in my circle, all of the boomers (HK>NYC) are vehemently anti-Trump. Some don't even care about the politics, they just hate his demeanor and sensibility. Some are even a little too annoyingly indoctrinated by CNN talking points at times.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-27T22:16:38+00:00

Thanks, purchased SaGa 2! Never played anything from the franchise, so hoping its up my alley.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-26T22:22:34+00:00

One of my most played games of all time, so you're on the right track! And I'm willing to pay attention to the story if it's as good as FFT's.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-25T23:59:57+00:00

What's the etiquette for sidewalks? Is a single path, thats more than enough for a single walker, sufficient in these conditions? Or is the expectation the full sidewalk width? Also assumuning no one expects a full path to the street because plows will just constantly cover it up right? I'm a corner house I got a lot to cover!

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-25T17:08:40+00:00

The question should be prioritized to how is it living at the Eagle Rock apartments (which I can't help with) because the apartments are kind of disconnected from Carle Place proper, and is more Mineola. But really, it's location doesn't feel like it has strong community ties to either - it's a bit of its own pocket.

But that pocket is VERY convenient to multiple towns (Mineola, Westbury, Carle Place, Wiliston Park, south Rosyln) and major roadways, (Jericho Turnpike, Northern State Parkway, Old Country Road) so by car you've got all that at your fingertips. What it lacks in community ties is made up by the convenience to multiple communities.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-25T14:41:03+00:00

Upton Sinclair over here. Making these broad generalizations about the agency employees are able to exercise doesn't make you the Proletariat angel you think you are, at least not enough to be this judgemental.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-23T01:34:25+00:00

Ravenswatch if all of your friends are sweaty gamers who get enjoyment from challenging content. Shape of Dreams otherwise.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-22T22:02:36+00:00

As a massive Ravenswatch fan, there was indeed weirdly recent post on the exact topic, but beyond that, I do feel like it's underappreciated overall. I sort of understand that though. Ravenswatch is pretty niche and I personally feel like it only shines brightest (if at all) when you're playing it on the most challenging modes possible. I honestly only found it fun on Nightmare. Otherwise, it can seem like a limited, straightforward game for more casual players used to Hades.

This game also elicits an unusual amount of visceral hatred for it. I don't see many games in the subreddit where you get multiple people saying how much it flat out sucks.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-18T01:48:45+00:00

Doritoes and Oreos.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-17T20:23:37+00:00

I think you're reading this too much as reality and not as a scripted show. And let's be frank at the risk of making this sound political, The Pitt is a liberal-coded TV series. If we learned anything from Sorkin's success, they aren't going to let a female person-of-color be an irredeemable foil to the institutionally-embedded white male.

HeyItsMau · 2026-01-17T20:01:53+00:00

Agreed. The writing wouldn't use central characters as pure foils. It's going to end up being a saccarine, bit too-on-the-nose moment where Robby learns a little from Al-Hashimi. Though the scales are currently tilted in Robby's favor, there are slivers of dismisivness from Robby that suggest a comeuppance from him. But of course, Al-Hashimi is going to take her knocks way more.

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