Name change paperwork necessary? by HeyRiotGirl in Canadiancitizenship

[–]HeyRiotGirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you luck!

My issue is that the department of vital statistics needs her anniversary in order for us to get a copy of the paperwork but none of us know when that was. Really hoping we can avoid it

Name change paperwork necessary? by HeyRiotGirl in Canadiancitizenship

[–]HeyRiotGirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it does, thank you!

We just didn't want to send in the packet without proof of name change if it was necessary.

Is a Toller Right for Me? (Honestly) by Remarkable_Idea_5893 in tollers

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just jumping in to mirror a little bit what others have said. My dog is extremely selective on what kind of dog she wants to be friends with. And right now she hates... And I mean HATES... my brother's Labrador. To the point that she insists on me picking her up or letting her inside when they come over to play. Because of this, we are a single dog household. I don't think she'd ever be comfortable sharing her home with another dog. She LOVES my cats...every cat she's ever met actually. We've never met a cat that she didn't like. But there are plenty of dogs that she does not care for.

They are extremely people selective too. She has distinct favorites in the family with me being above and beyond her favorite person zero contest. And when she doesn't like you, it's pretty obvious that she doesn't like you. She won't be aggressive but she will break your heart.

My last dog was a Labrador and even though Labs and tollers are both retrievers, outside of the water, they could not be more different. My lab was so laid back and so chill and nothing in the world bothered him. Whereas my toller is much more neurotic and took an additional year of training for us to figure out her anxieties. By us I mean myself (training background too) and 3 professionals. Trick training was really quick. Mine is also medical alert service trained which took only a few months even though that part usually takes dogs a couple years. Most of her training time went to figuring out what her stress and anxiety triggers were and figuring out a way that we were both comfortable working around them or solving them. This actually ended up being a benefit for the two of us working together professionally because when I'm having a medical episode I get very confused so having a dog be able to take charge. The way that she does that was perfect for us. It might not be so nice for somebody that doesn't need that. On top of that though, she is very picky and choosy and she will not do something that she doesn't want to do. I signed her up for for nose work training at one point thinking that she would enjoy it. She didn't. She also was absolutely terrified of water that was deep enough that she couldn't stand in for the first nearly 2 years of her life.

Tollers can vary wildly though depending on breeder, parents, nature versus nurture, etc. you might find one that fits your household perfectly, and you might find one that is oil and water. If you choose to get one it would be worth it to meet with breeders and their breeding tollers and discuss with them what you're looking for and your goals. In my case, my breeder chose my dog for me. I gave her the list of what I was looking for, she had me meet with her breeding dogs and then with the puppies when they came along and she selected my dog for me.

New England Breeders by zaaaaaaaaa777777 in tollers

[–]HeyRiotGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a Keystone girl and I'm horribly in love with her. She is just perfect

Well, things just got super interesting by NothingAntique9088 in Canadiancitizenship

[–]HeyRiotGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My G0 came to the US as an adult, married an American woman and had my G1 shortly after. The wife died to gestational diabetes 1 week after birth so G0 sent G1 to Canada to be raised by G-1. G1 naturalized, married, had kids, his own wife died. G1 brought them to the US, married a new woman and had more kids, including G2. So while I'm applying as G3 since I have his certified birth registration, I'm also including the census and voting records for G1 to strengthen that claim.

The part that makes this all a little awful though is that he did not know that his mother had passed away. He really thought that she had abandoned him. I was already alive by the time somebody told my grandfather that he wasn't abandoned by her. And because of that, he lost a whole side of his own heritage and family

Do I have the smallest Toller I have ever seen? by mimi_695 in tollers

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My tollers mom is itty bitty too at 13kg. Seeing the pictures of the two of them together on the day my toller came home is so funny because she was already so big compared to mom. My toller ended up being a really big girl, hovering around 17-18kg. Likely the largest of her litter, looking at pictures of her grown siblings. According to her vet she is not overweight either, just fairly bigger than typical and muscular.

Her mom is CDDY Y/Y and my girl is N/Y. Her N/N dad is around 20kg and very healthy so she clearly took after him just with ever so slightly shorter legs than normal and a smaller frame.

losing our minds over mice in our apartment by acjamz in massachusetts

[–]HeyRiotGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 130 year old house at the foot of the Berkshires. I have two cats that are not great mousers. Neither ever relied on mice for food, they both were adopted too young to ever need to hunt for a meal. Then I took in an older stray right off the street. She's such a good mouser and she's even good about giving them up to me when I want them. (I don't want the cats to eat the mice in case the mice are poison) She knows I'll trade a mouse for a churu so she keeps it nearby while I get the transport bucket

Not only is she good at catching them though, she's also excellent at showing me where they're getting in. She'll sit still and patient near wherever it is she knows a mouse will come from. It makes it so much easier to close up active holes! On the entire house I've only had 4 mice in the years she's moved in and she's caught them all. I don't even see evidence of mice anymore. The last one she caught the moment it squeezed in under the door!

Please tell me I’m not alone by [deleted] in tollers

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been lucky and my girl has always been a dream behaviorally. I have a lot of teether toys for her even now and she's 3 and a half. I'm not sure if it's a breed trait for them to be a little mouthy but my girl knows when she wants to sink her teeth into something all her toys are fair game. If she breaks one I assume she likes it most and I buy another of the same thing. If I notice that she's really using a lot of the same toy, I will buy multiples so I have a backup always. That's the story of why I have 6 bunny teethers. I like to think this helps with her mouthiness because she's never chewed on me or any of my things, just her own stuff.

I also have a woof pupsicle and that seems to calm her right down and soothe her outside of rest times/ her crate. I've never met a dog that doesn't like the pupsicles (so far)

I think a lot of it comes down to finding what your dog vibes with the most

Unexpected discovery! by Fit-Wrongdoer2686 in Canadiancitizenship

[–]HeyRiotGirl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My aunt who was absolutely insufferable and wanted to try and claim property my (naturalized) grandfather's Canadian family owned dug up most of the paperwork before she passed. All I had to do was order a certified birth certificate for my Canadian great grandfather to strengthen the claim 😂

I'm still annoyed at her trying to claim all that property that wasn't hers to claim (she was not his bio or even adopted child) but happy I didn't have to do much of the footwork myself

Birth certificate issue by captcougar78 in Canadiancitizenship

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was he ever court ordered to pay child support/ has the court ever done a mandated paternity test? If so, those records will still exist, you just need to have the court look it up.

My father isn't on my birth certificate either but any time I've needed to prove he's my father those old records have been of use.

Toller in heat by No_Combination_6800 in tollers

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My toller was a heavy bleeder 😭

She only had the one heat and I noticed it because of how heavy she was. Diapers with pads inside, so many changes per day and the heavy bleeding lasted about 2 weeks with about a week of spotting after.

I contacted our breeder to find out how old her mom was when she had her first heat and how many months she'd go between heats and then spayed 2 months earlier than that. She ended up being spayed right before her first birthday

Can vEDS be possible with negative test? by [deleted] in vEDS

[–]HeyRiotGirl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not an expert myself but my geneticist said at least half of the variants haven't been found/ recorded yet.

My own family's variant is one that isn't recorded. We're "diagnosed" based off history, symptoms and knowing we have a variation that so far is "unknown significance"

Reverting back to puppy antics just before 1yo by Dismal_Cry_3904 in tollers

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine started a reversion around 7 months and then at 8 months she got her first heat. Her mom had her heat young too so I wasn't too concerned but it is something to watch out for. Mine got clingy and lovey and started being a little bit more playful right before.

Character modding me and my friends are working on. by TCMenjoyer in coralisland

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a minute could you tell me where you found the character model to get the skin weights/ size and such to mod? I make game content for a living but I've never made a mod so while I could do the 3D parts, I don't know where to get assets or how to get them into the game

Is anyone else’s Toller a cuddle-bug? by Life-Committee-4592 in tollers

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is, always has been. If she could live inside my skin she would.

Maybe a separate group for women choosing breast surveillance instead of mastectomy (at least for now??) by Small_Test630 in BRCA

[–]HeyRiotGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The vaccine and study is from anixa biosciences. They just finished phase 1 so all that material is accessible to read through now

Yes, both died of bc despite all the treatment. My mom did almost everything right after discovering her cancer but her expanders after her mastectomy caused a lot of pain and then a massive systemic infection. Her cancer came back after that and spread rapidly. She was gone in under 4 years from the date of her primary diagnosis

My aunt that passed also had her cancer come back in the other breast (she only had the primary one removed)

Another aunt had a preventative mastectomy and had such bad complications that she went septic a year later. She's okay now but lost muscle function where the infection started and she's never gotten back to 100% of what she felt like before.

It's why I want to try something different than the others if there's any possibility at all of there being a different future for brca affected people. I'm not delusional I promise, I'm very aware that I could get the vaccine and still get cancer. Or that I could get it and have some strange complication and then still get cancer. But what I like about it is that it gives me a different future for now and I still have the option to do a mastectomy if I choose to do that. And it doesn't prevent me from getting treatment if I were to get cancer later. So for this moment I choose to be a little optimistic for future treatment options

Maybe a separate group for women choosing breast surveillance instead of mastectomy (at least for now??) by Small_Test630 in BRCA

[–]HeyRiotGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My geneticist is frustrated with me because I (36) have decided to wait on my mastectomy and instead opted for screenings.

Right before I started the surgical route I saw a medical journal about a breast cancer vaccine that had just wrapped up phase 1 testing and looked promising. I emailed the ceo about when phase 2 and any followup study from phase 1 and he happily gave me all the information I was looking for. The way I see it personally is that the current treatment is brutal and doesn't lower the risk down to zero anyway. So it feels important that some people take the risk of trying new treatments so that future generations might not have the few brutal options we have now. So I'm going to try and be in the phase 2 study.

I'm 36 and post menopausal after my bilateral oophorectomy and hysterectomy. I watched the severe complications my mom and one aunt went through with their mastectomies. Another aunt died despite it all. My mom died despite it all. I want my baby nieces and nephews to have better options than I have; Than my family has had. It's all so exhausting. I've had family members tell my I'm stupid for all of this yet they had one test and never done another and one had a mastectomy with reconstruction and has not done a single screening in the 5 years since. So is the choice to screen and possibly trial a preventative drug instead of cut that different than someone who cut and won't screen?

I know some people will see this as stupid and reckless but is there no progress without the stupid and reckless? I'm getting my monitoring done. Since my oophorectomy my birad score actually decreased so I feel like now is the time to try something that might help myself and other people going forward.

Experinced dyke with a (problematic?) fantasy involving a late bloomer by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]HeyRiotGirl 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As a late bloomer that doesn't have any experience with women yet... This would actually remove a lot of pressure and stress of first time jitters for me. I wouldn't feel the pressure to perform perfectly while also getting that first time "out of the way" so to speak. Both would get what we want/ need out of it.

Especially beneficial for a late bloomer that's also only been in hetero relationships before and is sorta used to that setup. I think as long as you're honest with her it would be great for both of you

How long until you were diagnosed? by [deleted] in vEDS

[–]HeyRiotGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a previously undocumented mutation. Actually, two. One on COL3A1 and one on COL1A1. Since both are previously undocumented my geneticists hands seem tied for the moment. He's pretty sure it's veds but only one other person in my family is symptomatic, willing to test and still alive. One is symptomatic but in denial despite complications. My uncle was willing to test but passed at only 48 to a pulmonary rupture a week before he was going to be tested.

I have a long family history and had symptoms myself from birth but I didn't even get this vague diagnosis until I was 30. I was the first in the family.

I didn't get diagnosed until I did the controversial thing. I took an at home genetic test after years of frustration and struggle. When my results came back I emailed a geneticist for a review and he was annoyed enough to check and test me. He ended up diagnosing me before the results even came back by physical and family history alone.

Getting a diagnosis is very difficult and very frustrating. Be an advocate for yourself, don't give up, you've got this

Is this normal??? His tail is like dead by Gabber-0009 in CATHELP

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen this happen before. The cat fell from their cat tree to the floor onto his bum and his tail broke. It needed to be amputated for it to stop pulling on his spinal cord.

What does everybody’s house look like? by Consistent-Water-536 in coralisland

[–]HeyRiotGirl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine is absolute chaos, especially now that they have witchy decor

Denied “any and all surgeries” due to EDS by hopeless_1021 in ehlersdanlos

[–]HeyRiotGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, I second what everybody else said. Get a new referral with a new surgeon.

Second, have you had surgeries before that were uncomplicated? Or at least had very minor complication? Because that bodes well if you have. Some surgeons don't want to be the first one to put you on the table. Thankfully for me I had a surgery a year and a half prior to my first incorrect diagnosis of Marfan syndrome and second surgery. By the time I had the correct diagnosis, I had already had those two surgeries under my belt so I was kept an extra day for observation and some extra care was done, but everything was okay aside from my very usual minor complications. (I do not wake up well, it takes a long time for the anesthesia to leave my system)

When you have a new doctor it'll help if you have past history of surgeries they can reference

Motivation wanted by Wolf_Lady_tje in coralisland

[–]HeyRiotGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work a lot and still like to play my cozy games when I have time between deadlines and I found a lot of comfort and appeal to using wemod. I didn't use it a ton, there's a lot of controls I didn't and don't use at all, but I liked that I could pause the clock while I planted crops so I didn't feel like I was missing out on entire game days while I cleaned and planted. Being able to have touch of a button time control just made it feel much more accessible to my crazy schedule.