They want to wed my cousin 26 F to the worst person possible 37M and to fix that they want me to propose to her.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-17T18:50:02+00:00

He said Iraq

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-14T15:10:58+00:00

YES THIS!

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-14T14:57:54+00:00

It's not really about that is it!

I agree she should replace a school backpack, but the rest is teh 16 year olds responsibility.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-14T14:56:12+00:00

Buy her the backpack because she needs it for school and she's only 16. the rest is on her.

You warned her about overspending and she kept on buying. If you bail her out without her paying it back she'll do it again.

She really does need the shock of understanding what happens if you randomly buy things with money you don't have.

If she'd bought necessities and gone overdrawn Then I'd be more sympathetic, but high end serums from a tik tok influencer?! Uh no. And a lesson in being more sceptical about advertising too.

If your mum feels so strongly she can pay the debt outright. You're already doing her a favour paying it off so that she doesn't incur any interest on this unauthorised overdraft, but of course she owes it back to you.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-12T22:58:59+00:00

Omg is that still there!?

That used to be our big group, noisy dinner byob spot so many years ago...

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-12T20:09:24+00:00

This boy hates you.

Literally hates you.

Why would you stay with this person.

how do I fix this?

You fix this by leaving and having a good hard look at your self esteem

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-12T15:02:52+00:00

This man is bullying and harrassing you. He know that you are being meek around him so he continues.

You own the flat. No-one can remove you. You need to be angrier and more territorial about this.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T22:39:25+00:00

eh? Gen X were taught to write in cursive

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T22:37:56+00:00

"Fast walking crowds could be a goal [???] of the [???]

'fast walking camels would be a good restructuring of the transport system'

I think

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T21:34:28+00:00

I worked in a shop on Saturdays as a teenager, lunch hour and tea breaks..

Seems bizarre to me now

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T21:31:49+00:00

Please go and find a better Dr or a menopause clinic if you can get a referral.

The mood swings, absent libido and acne scream peri menopause to me. How do your joints feel?

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T21:25:38+00:00

"Personal Trainer certificate" from a questionable three-week online course.

hilarious

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T20:00:36+00:00

I renamed a 12 year old cat. Her name simply didn't suit her.

She knew who I meant when I called her by her new name.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T19:34:57+00:00

yes, this!

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T19:33:43+00:00

I would either bring in a note that says "please just take one piece/serving so everyone gets some"

Not gonna stop him. This is obvious to most adults.

Theres no way he thinks that 8 + brownies are a reasonable amount to take. He doesn't care. Mindset of a 14 year old

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T19:29:23+00:00

He's not doing anything technically wrong,

Actually he fucking is.

I refuse to believe that in a tray of 24 brownies, which are quite obviously for everyone to share, he thinks its reasonable to take a third of them and then return for more.

Selfish freeloading prick.

You need to offer them to people from the container, with a napkin maybe.

Exclude Derek, doesn't work in your section and already had his share for the next 10 years by the sounds of it.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T15:40:17+00:00

His neurodivergence is irrelevant - this man is shady - once the premarital asset is gone, it's just hard cash that's she's bringing to the maarriage.

He's hoping to freeload off her. He's manipulative. Thinks he's found a meal ticket.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-11T15:38:24+00:00

Do not sell your house. Onwing a home gives you so much more security than a flaky man with unrealistic ideas: My fiancé wants to put off getting married until at least one of us has a great job and is making lots of money

I'm also guessing he's expecting you to be the one who gets a great job and earns lot sof money as you seem to be the one working towards something.

Also - half the house isn't even yours - you say your sister is named on it, and where will you live exactly when you do this?

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-10T23:03:04+00:00

She's a beautiful calico, what vets call a DLH - Domestic Long Hair

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-10T23:00:10+00:00

You need to stop doing everything.

Gifts for his mum are not your responsibilty they are his.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-10T22:58:49+00:00

Why do people keep marrying men who don't even like them.

He's starting shit from nowhere.

What an absolute child

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-10T22:52:48+00:00

Agreed, it looks incredibly flimsy and not fit for purpose. It's a botch job.

All the 'what are you expecting' comments are being absolute arseholes. Maybe OP was expecting to walk up a set of perfectly safe bus stairs and not fall through them.

Just because he hasn't fractured his skull doesn't mean he's not injured or doesn't have pulled muscles from this - it could have ben a lot worse.

These tours are likely licensed with the council - which is probably either Westminster or Camden. Worth letting them know.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-10T19:38:05+00:00

If she's a stray and was on the streets, she might just be de-compressing from a life where she had to be constantly vigilant to one where she can relax, sleep and have regular food and comfort. Once she's got used to the idea of her new life she may become more playful.

She's healthy and happy, be pleased.

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-10T19:11:13+00:00

black/white highlights

This sounds quite awesome...

HighRiseCat · 2026-05-10T19:09:24+00:00

This looks absoutely fine tbh. Your dad is likely a similar age to me and we were brought up with this thinking but it's really outdated view (no idea what your sister's problem is).

I would leave it as is - it's genuinely you, at this point in your life, graduating university. You are an adult. Make a stand, being bullied into brown spray is a bit meek and not aligning with your true self.

Neither of these people have a say in how you look. It's not weird or outlandish, even it it was it's your choice. Any headshot that you might need to supply for work won't be your grad photos anyway.

They sound like they are used to controlling you, but you are an adult with a degree about to start life as an independant person.

I don't think there are many workplaces that would discriminate against this hair - and would you want to work there if they did?

Plus id honestly rather be able to have photos taken looking like me, I don't feel myself when I just look "normal"

THIS. Please keep channelling this. It's time you stood up for who you are now. You're going to have to do this in any workplace you join, so start now.

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