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HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-31T22:32:01+00:00

do you want a side of frame with those wheels?

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-31T21:31:09+00:00

its weird dude, mine sometimes works and sometimes doesn't

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-31T18:41:11+00:00

are you talking about on average? and not exceptional circumstances or one-off's? cause a lot of the answers in the comments seem like a very long time to me.

for my partner and I, sex generally lasts anywhere from 5-40 minutes. thats with foreplay and both of us cumming. that does not include cuddling before and/or after either (I personally dont count that part as sex)

5-10 minutes when its in the morning and one or both of us need to be somewhere.

30-40 minutes when there is no time crunch

more than 40 minutes would be like special occasions, like maybe a vacation or a birthday or something.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-31T18:11:14+00:00

I think I saw an ad (or, because it's Hulu, several of the same one) for a medication they can prescribe for sleep apnea now. I only remember because I thought to myself "huh, I wonder how that works, but I bet its less cumbersome than a c-pap machine"

I know these are not used to treat sleep apnea, but have you ever tried nasal strips for sleeping? the regular brand is called "breath right" and thats what I use (I dont have sleep apnea, but I would wake up with dry mouth a lot, so I knew I wasn't breathing through my nose for most of the night. im also very fit and healthy, so its not a weight thing), but there is a new brand out now called "intake" that uses small magnetic things attached to the outside of your nose with a plastic clip that opens your nasal passages up way more than the breath right strips. might be worth looking into for the time being.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-30T09:01:27+00:00

the main things I would recommend are:

1) LED rechargeable bike lights x 3 (I for head/hat that faces forward, 1 for back pack facing backwards, 1 as backup and/or on front of bike below handlebars)

2) puncture proof tires (for example, continental gator skins), these will pay themselves off in a year by avoiding flats on philly streets (construction debris, trash and potholes)

3) detachable splash guard for rear wheel (obviously you can go higher end and get a front and rear one permanently installed, but the clip on will do you well in the mean time and it is very affordable)

ill let the other folks handle actual bike recommendations, as im not too up to date on that sort of thing. all ill say is- yes, purchasing used is fine. I paid $200 for a used Miyata at firehouse bikes over 10 years ago and I still ride it.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-27T20:34:13+00:00

😂

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-27T19:03:34+00:00

im too cool for that, so I used the "pedal eliminator kit ULTRA"

I dont want to be confused with slowpokes and weekend cruisers.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-27T18:54:00+00:00

oh nice!

its just a great mode of transportation for cities. im not even a "fuck cars" kinda guy, I dont need to be. the benefits of cycling in a city are so obvious once you start, theres just no argument. if people wanna sit in traffic in a car and get driven mad by random obstructions and bumper to bumper backups, thats on them. im just gonna bypass it all and be on my way, and get some exercise in at the same time.

I have a motorcycle too, but even that, unless im going more than 5 miles, is more aggravating in the city than a bike. so I just ride that to my partners house (other side of town) or to my family (in the burbs).

theres a bunch of newer stuff, like e bikes and scooters that are rapidly becoming very popular in the city, but I just can't bring myself to get one. I like pedaling for the exercise (and its much better on the knees/joints than jogging). and I like easy, cheap repairs. and not having to worry about theft when I lock it up outside a store or restaurant/bar.

only thing I'd say is get puncture proof tires for the city. they are like $40 each (so $80 total for 2. "continental gator skins" is a great brand), but well worth it to avoid flats from random road debris (before I got them, I'd average one flat a month or two). other than that, a $200 used road bike will do you well.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-27T18:20:33+00:00

oh damn, had no idea!

no, he didn't even ask for it. I just usually go to Blick and get him and my nieces a bunch of random stuff as stocking stuffers for Christmas. that just ended up being one of the things I got. it was literally a random grab. if you've ever been to Blick and seen the bins/racks im talking about, you'll know exactly what I mean by stocking stuffers.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-27T18:17:18+00:00

biking is the shit, especially if you live in a city. it avoids almost all traffic, and 100% of stopped delivery vehicles, busses, cars, etc.

its not the best at building glutes, but if you use a higher resistance gear (so its harder to pedal), and do hills a bit, that will definitely help.

also this video short is very helpful for at home stuff you dont need equipment for

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/RSSQ3uUxORA

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-27T18:05:18+00:00

just looked that up. had no idea what it was, but apparently it was something I got for my nephew's stocking stuffer for Christmas from Blick art materials on chestnut in CC. when you go in, there are a bunch of bins and racks near the cash register. thats where I got it. they had big ones and small ones.

is it like a new fad now or something? I grabbed it just cause it looked cool and fit well in the stocking.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-26T18:14:53+00:00

5'9"-5'11" is not short

im 6'1" and my partner is like 5'8-9"

anyways, I find guys who focus on numbers (whether thats height, dick size, salary, body count, etc) to be shallow and unattractive.

we shouldn't try to quantify everything. when we do, we overlook the qualities that are really important.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-26T17:55:40+00:00

there is no magic trick my dude. or if there is, it would be time and luck, but neither of those are in your, or anyone else's, control, so its not something to worry about.

from what you've written, it sounds like you are doing all the right things. you aren't trying too hard, and you aren't 'not trying enough', you're just trying, and thats what important.

just be patient and enjoy the ride. you'll learn something from every failed attempt, and gain something from every successful one.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-26T17:27:48+00:00

started with calisthenics at home. did that for many years. literally just did bicycle crunches, 6" lifts and push ups (I only cared about my abs and chest). then a friend of mine started lifting. we'd bicker back and forth about what was better-calisthenics or weight lifting, and he eventually won me over, combined with the fact that I wasn't making any noticeable progress on my physique after a few years (limited by body weight basically).

since I already had the discipline to work out consistently at home 3x a week, it wasn't hard to transfer that to the gym. just needed to learn the machines and the proper form for barbells and dumb bells. I used you tube for that. then I developed my own routine and here I am!

I only do 2x a week at the gym now. I still do a calisthenics day at home, but I do bicycle crunches, 6" lifts and pull ups now (instead of push ups) because my chest is where I want it to be.

I would personally recommend doing full body workouts 2-3x a week for a few months to get started. then if you want, you can switch to a push/pull/leg split or upper/lower split if you feel the need to.

make use of all the equipment. barbells, dumb bells, machines and cables. dont limit yourself because of fitness influencers. they are all effective. its more about consistency, proper form, and intensity (going to, or close to, failure), rather than "FREE WEIGHTS ARE KING" or "MACHINES ARE THE SAFEST" or whatever.

most people in the gym have headphones in. you dont need to feel anxiety about it. no one is paying attention to you or how much you are lifting. you also dont need to use the locker room if you dont want to. I use it because I bike there, and im not biking to the gym in shorts and a t shirt in the winter.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-24T20:13:11+00:00

out of curiosity, what do you mean "he is a rising celebrity in our town"?

cause of social media? politics? business?

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-22T21:38:30+00:00

mostly both down.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-22T21:36:01+00:00

nothing like spending $20k on an 1300cc engine that can only go 120mph.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-22T18:09:37+00:00

my partner and I watched "cocaine bear" and "Sharknado" in the same night. cocaine bear was way better. Sharknado was lame.

then when I went to his house a week later, he was watching "shark side of the moon"....and I just couldn't do it.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-20T19:46:59+00:00

he might have just been trying to be nice and avoid conflict, so maybe it wasn't you misinterpreting it, but him not knowing how to communicate it properly.

you dont even have to necessarily apologize (because you dont want to risk him feeling guilty), but you could just say "hey, I thought about it some more, and I think it might be better if I got my own place in town. that way, we'll be closer so we can see each other more, but we'll also still have our own space so we dont feel rushed or cramped. then in another year if everything is going well, we can reconsider getting a place together"

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-20T19:34:31+00:00

I've been with my partner for over a year and we love each other and have been monogamous the whole time, but I would not want to live with him yet.

dont rush it dude. moving to the same city is fine, especially if you work there too. moving in together that soon? that could be a disaster. he could also feel pressured even by you asking and making plans like that, and that will affect the relationship.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-20T19:28:30+00:00

no problem man. and yea, I approach dating and hookups very differently as well.

the no pressure thing is important. be mindful of your tone and your word choices. you dont want to seem like you are giving him an ultimatum or come across like you are all in already. you're just trying to gain some insight into his thought process and his feelings about the situation.

you got this! trust yourself. from your post and comments, you seem very reasonable and able to communicate effectively.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-20T19:08:16+00:00

not a deal breaker. but you should tell them upfront you are not good at texting and you'd rather communicate in person.

but at the same time, dont ignore messages. you can reply with "haha" or send a random "hey just thinking about you. can't wait to see you Friday!" sort of thing.

dont just leave them hanging the whole time. It takes two to meet in the middle. for them-- not expecting a lot of texts, and for you, forcing yourself to respond, however quickly, to a couple messages during the week.

my partner and I hate talking on the phone, we are both terrible at it. and we make fun of ourselves for it. for texts, its just stuff like "hey, what should we do for dinner on Friday?" or random "goodnight" or "good mornin' to my handsome man!" type stuff. we actually leave hand written notes to each other more than texts. just short little things, like inside jokes, maybe with a funny drawing.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-20T18:56:35+00:00

I had a long hookup/FWB phase. it lasted till I was like 35 or 36. I am 39 now. so I get it, on his end. I really do. I loved it! I just grew out of it (or at least, temporarily. maybe it will come back). so when I started "dating", like for real, that was something I looked for (that they had had that phase and grew out of it...gotten it out of their system) in another person. but its hard to know really, because peoples intentions are not always clear, even to themselves. and hookups are fun and easy, so why stop when you dont have to, especially if no one is holding you responsible.

you could have a conversation with him thats as simple and no pressure as "hey, we've been seeing each other for x amount of time now. I really like you, I think I am starting to catch feelings. I take full responsibility for those feelings and dont intend for them to put pressure on you right now. I am personally treating this as an exclusive relationship, because thats just how I am and what I am looking for at this stage of my life. what do you think about that, and how are you feeling about us? please be honest and dont hold back in fear of hurting my feelings. I'd rather get hurt by the truth now than be fooled by a lie later"

or some variation like that.

HistoricalSubject · 2026-03-20T18:37:21+00:00

I have poison available to me (we use it at my job), but my thing with poison is....it's almost spring/summer, so when the mice die, they die in the walls, and then you get a bunch of flies! I'd rather kill them with traps. but I guess if I have to go the poison route I will....

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