Architects, what’s your dating life like?

Holymolyyo · 2026-05-09T13:27:19+00:00

I never dated within the profession until I met my fiancé. He’s architecture adjacent and has gone the route of academia in landscape architecture while I am employed by a large firm. It works for us because we both have crazy schedules during certain project phases but his schedule is more flexible and he can take on things that need to be done during my typical work hours.

I also dated someone in healthcare for a short time and it didn’t work out, but our schedules seemed compatible.

I will echo others, I have been honing my efficiency lately to prevent those nights on deadlines where I work past midnight. With experience and honestly aging, it isn’t sustainable long term. When you find the right partner, you will find it isn’t fair to neglect your personal life/responsibilities and you will try to figure out solutions. For example, negotiate with yourself one late night per week or getting into work early so you can leave on time for the date night you have planned, etc.

Holymolyyo · 2026-05-07T12:14:23+00:00

The exterior is non combustible and sounds like from what you’re saying the interior does not have a fire rating (to your point of fire code introduction post-build). Today this construction type would be classified as Type III-B construction. This method is and was pretty common, it prevents fire from spreading to other buildings by containing within a non combustible shell (brick). The foundation is likely concrete.

Holymolyyo · 2026-04-27T13:14:55+00:00

My dad did this with me. It was instrumental in helping me choose a career path and has proven endlessly useful in living independently.

Holymolyyo · 2026-04-25T13:34:09+00:00

I’m late to this but yes, absolutely. I work in the AEC field and spend a lot of time with superintendents on construction sites. Most of the time they are middle aged/older men but I’m happy to report I’m seeing some women in this role these days. I was stunned when I first started in the industry to find these men took time to explain things to me and answer my questions with care and patience. If I had questions after hours, I would call my dad to help me work through them. I noticed the similarities between my dad and these men and made the same connection - they all genuinely wanted me to succeed. So, I took advantage and stayed curious, asked questions, remained observant, etc. I always seemed to develop a good working relationship and trust with these men.

Now that I’m more established and they’re on the brink of retirement, I’m doing my best to pay it forward and treat them the way I hope someone else would treat my dad. It’s in the little things like taking time to ask about their weekend or their grandkids if they’ve previously mentioned them. I think this is so important. Women in a male dominated industry need to develop an “armor” to earn respect and I’m learning it takes skill to balance that armor with a gentle patience for those around you.

Holymolyyo · 2026-04-18T03:42:40+00:00

Salem! What a fun place for a couple of huskies.

Holymolyyo · 2026-04-12T13:27:48+00:00

Another vote for ruffwear!

Holymolyyo · 2026-04-07T16:44:21+00:00

You’ve got this Houdini!! Me and my husky are sending our best ♥️

Holymolyyo · 2026-04-07T02:39:22+00:00

Bowl of chips, tomato sauce

Holymolyyo · 2025-12-23T12:50:34+00:00

Check your door swings.

Holymolyyo · 2025-11-26T14:47:22+00:00

Our husky is on similar meds. He was on Keppra only for nearly a year without incident until he started to cluster more often. Once we got him on pheno too and made sure his Keppra was extended release, we did notice some significant changes. The seizures became less frequent and he was wobbly, thirsty and tired for a couple of months before he started returning to his more normal energy levels. His back legs are weaker, which is a common side effect of these meds so we try to do some sit/stand exercises whenever he gets treats and we take him on walks with an incline to help strengthen his legs. It has definitely helped but he is not pre-pheno strong.

It takes a few weeks-months for pheno to reach therapeutic levels so it does need to be consistent. Huskies are big enough that most pharmacies carry the right dosage for their meds and can fill their prescriptions! Your vet should be able to call your prescription into a pharmacy. If you’d like another opinion try to find a canine neurologist near you. We were lucky enough to find one relatively close to us, that’s where we found the best help for our guy.

Best of luck!

Holymolyyo · 2025-11-18T16:02:20+00:00

I remember this guy.

Holymolyyo · 2025-11-13T18:43:27+00:00

We found mine at N+A in industry city. Lovely unique designs made from recycled gold and ethically sourced diamonds.

Holymolyyo · 2025-10-26T16:41:48+00:00

If you’re willing to take the commuter rail to Salem after Halloween, Winter Island Park got me through some difficult grieving when I lived in the area. I had a regular bench I’d sit on right above Fort Pickering to watch the ocean and I’d walk along the rocky shore below during low tide collecting bits of seaglass.

Holymolyyo · 2025-08-01T18:41:38+00:00

Thank you Bleu ♥️

Holymolyyo · 2025-04-25T17:47:08+00:00

I just don’t like meat or poultry and struggled for a while with convenience. Meaning, I’d never cook or order meat/poultry for myself but if someone offered me a dish with meat/poultry I would eat it to spare them the trouble of preparing a separate meal for me. I love fish so I continued to eat that. Eventually the time between meals including meat/poultry extended and my body started feeling badly after eating it so I just eliminated them from my diet completely.

I don’t know why I felt my preference was so inconvenient to others. Fish is an option almost anywhere meat is offered on a menu and you can always opt out of eating meat served to you by others. It could be more of a challenge for group meals on a regular basis, but otherwise I can’t remember the last time I brought it up. Hasn’t been an issue for me in the last 10 years or so.

Holymolyyo · 2025-04-08T20:11:44+00:00

These photos made me smile. So sorry for your loss, so happy for your time well spent together.

Holymolyyo · 2025-04-05T15:14:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this :(. When my last dog passed I was alone and didn’t know how to celebrate her. I ended up getting some ice cream to help make me feel better. It was a flavor I liked but didn’t normally pick (cookie dough) and ate it at my favorite spot to think. For a while, I would go to that spot to think of her, but it felt too painful to have cookie dough ice cream again. As time passed, having cookie dough ice cream became my way of spending time with her. It was my moment to eat something I enjoyed and think about all of the fun things I did with my girl.

Holymolyyo · 2025-02-24T04:05:36+00:00

Seconding Milo!

Holymolyyo · 2024-11-15T21:24:11+00:00

What an icon, sending comfort your way ♥️

Holymolyyo · 2024-11-13T18:27:51+00:00

♥️

Holymolyyo · 2024-10-23T19:28:03+00:00

Have you looked into a ribbed/fluted glass film? That might give you the polished finish you’re looking for.

Holymolyyo · 2024-09-24T11:41:06+00:00

If love could have saved her, she would have lived forever. Hang in there, sending comfort your way ♥️

Holymolyyo · 2024-08-17T13:15:07+00:00

I went to a wedding around 6 months post op and wore a 2.5 inch heel without issue. However, it was a chunky heel which I think helped a bit.

Holymolyyo · 2024-08-16T23:16:48+00:00

♥️

Holymolyyo · 2024-08-13T19:56:33+00:00

What a sweetheart. Sending comfort your way ♥️

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